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Double0h7:
Did she move in with you or did you move in with her?

Is she violent? There’s a lot to consider when breaking up with someone you live with. Depending on the health of a relationship, breaking up could be the most dangerous thing to do if you don’t have an exit strategy.

She moved in with me, the relationship is messing with my mental health, I can’t concentrate like she literally gets pissed at every little thing, stuffs couple laugh over she gets pissed and flips and start been insultive and saying all manner of hash words, even when I say it ok she keeps talking. So has portrayed this attitude even while we went out sometime, cos I went to get an item I asked her to wait for me, cos I had to delay a bit, when I got back you needed to see the way she be yelling …… and talking a lot of stuffs. I felt embarrassed and Omo… I honestly don’t have an exit strategy, am so tired…

ayoncox:
you don jam narcissist

Omo

flexxyworld:
Im so sure she also never apologies. Thats not your girlfriend, she’s just using you. No matter how much convo or the tone, she will never change/listen. The only solution is to walk away from such relationship. You are not her man

She always takes everything that am the one at fault, lately I just consistently apologize for the ones I do n don’t do, I just apologize for peace to reign cos am tired of constant quarrels, and if I decide to go quiet with she start acting weird, after few days she comes back saying how of a feminist or woman have I become that she went quiet I also went quiet. And I be like you hurt me with your words and insulted me and you still want me to come beg you, the reply was “That’s what real men do”😮‍💨

ManknowThyself:
Narcissist girlfriend can kill you, they drain your energy. They crave light in men but uses their darkness to destroy the light.
They always want you sober, mood swings and manipulative skills of tears.


Just one way to win against narcissist girlfriend is to ghost her completely.
Go no contact, block her everywhere and never return after ghosting her cos she will destroy you completely out of revenge.

They are happy when you have and mock and disrespect you when you are low.
They compare you to others for you to feel small of the man you are.


As a man not matter the beauty never accept disrespect.


That girl they cheat on you with two other guys, you are just one of her supply.

Ghost her with no contact

You just highlighted it all 😮‍💨😮‍💨

Kobojunkie:
The least you can do is pay for her transportation back to her family or friend's place. But it is OK to break up with someone you are already aware you are not compatible with. It is better than us waking up to another crime story about some lover/boyfriend/husband murdering his wife/girlfriend/lover, or the other way around. 🥱🥱

Thanks 😮‍💨

Kobojunkie:
From your own words, you are both not good for each other, and I don't see why you want to suddenly flip this to make it seem you were mistaken in admitting this.

🤦

Kobojunkie:
If you feel a person needs to change so that you can feel better with the relationship you have with them, what that means is that the relationship is wrong for you and for that person. 🥱

2. Tell her you are done with the relationship and let her to move out immediately so you can both find yourselves better lives with other individuals.🥱🥱

Thanks 😮‍💨

Kobojunkie:
I don't want it to work for you both, given that you already admitted to being part of the abuse and toxicity in the relationship.🥱🥱

2. You both need to find other partners whom you would not need to be toxic towards. There is nothing good about being in a toxic relationship, for either of you. She already told you that she does not see herself marrying someone as toxic as you, and you already revealed that she is toxic for you. So, best you both move away from each other immediately. 🥱🥱🥱

Saying she doesn’t see herself marrying someone like me came from the fact I don’t yell, react or do nothing, even when I caught her cheating

Kobojunkie:
You tried changing her to your taste? Sounds more like you are equally an abusive/toxic element in the relationship. 🥱🥱

Anyway, let her know you are done trying to control her and moving out. And make certain you have all your bags packed and already at the door immediately. Don't spend a minute longer than today. That way, she can have time to immediately work towards getting a replacement roommate. 🥱🥱

When I say change her, I mean like having convos with her, letting her know what I don’t feel comfy wit or like. So as she can change but …. Wait…🤔 she lives with me tho, I don’t live with her

Kobojunkie:
Walk away from the toxic and disrespectful individual. The person obviously does not respect or regard you. So, why do you feel obligated to give him/her what has not been given to you? Walk away! 🥱🥱🥱

I really want it to work but seems I be putting in too much efforts to what isn’t there. There was a day she made a statement, “I don’t see us ending in marriage, n just dating hoping where ever the relationship go” and that broke me deeply. Thats when I knew I’ve left myself belittled in so many ways.

ayoncox:
Ghosting, shut down all communication for like 90 days. No calls, no contact, block all communication means, if possible go far away and let distance do it's work

But we sorta live together. And I really wanna quit but the feeling I be having like she’ll be really hurt, I’ve tried changing her to my Taste, all effort seems abortive 💔 am really drained n tired 😪tho she’s a nice person when it comes to other things but disrespect is the issue, she talks down on me, insults me, and blame it on anger.

SEGLIZ:
how else do you wNt to than using the exit door? there is this undertone of you still in love, from way you've have typed things out.

two ways, either you take a long walk or you seat her to a convo of severance.

Um..the thing I don’t even know where to start from 🥺

What’s the easiest way to break up with a toxic n disrespectful partner, please be specific n direct to the point. I need a way to leave the relationship 😒 please help me 😩 cos I can’t deal wit it anymore, minute she’s all loving n calm, the next minute she’s so rude, disrespectful and all.

Please help me 😩🥺

Kobojunkie:
If you want to break up with someone, you just do it. Using that person as an excuse for why you did not do what you know you should have done is a you problem, not a them problem.

2. Well, duh! You keep letting her get by every time she sheets on you, so what do you expect? It is the same thing if it were the man cheating and the woman staying in the relationship. It only gets worse. This is simple human behavior 101 here!

Understood

Kobojunkie:
Huh? You need to take time to really figure out why you condoned such abuse in a relationship and make sure you will not go on to repeat the same pattern, and that takes time. I suggest you stay away from relationships for at least a year to work extensively on yourself and tackle any childhood traumas from your past that kept you clinging even when you clearly knew the right thing to do was to leave.

If you are afraid of being alone in your own energy for a period, that is a red flag— a sign you have lots of damage that you need to work on yourself and heal from. No relationship can help you deal with that. If you don't love yourself first, you will never succeed in relationships with men or women.

I’ll work on that

Kobojunkie:
You need to break up with her immediately. She cheated one time and didn't learn. Did it a second and then a third time. If you had applied your own logic, you would have noted that you should have left her by now. Stop holding yourself back and leave her. Go find your peace elsewhere.

2. I can't say for a fact whether there is a female version of the redpill movement, which tells women that cheating like men is the way to go, but I know one thing for sure is you and that girl should not be together. Nothing wrong with her spending time on TikTok. My guess is she is a grown-up and can do as she pleases. The problem here is that she has cheated on you three times and has yet to learn from any of that. If you are really not into someone cheating on you, then I suggest you leave her immediately.

The fear of starting all over again

placeofallure:
If you want an honest advise, I'd give you.

Please, leave the girl. That she's cheated repeatedly means she neither loves you nor respected you. She's also manipulative and toxic. You don't seem to be worth anything in her eyes. It's the reason she's not remorseful about her mistakes. Why would anyone want to be listened to and is not ready to listen to others? That's selfishness on her part. As she is, she can't sacrifice anything for you. On top of that, she's got entitlement mentality too. Please, dear run like Usain Bolt and never look back.

When and if you decide to do it, block every access, every means she can use to reach you. Don't fall for her niceties if she tries to win you over cause she's never going to change.

My one cent!

There was a time I got really pissed I asked her for the first time that we should end things, she was quite shocked, but after few convo we sorta resolved it at the time. But shit keeps happening, she can just flip on a situation and the next thing she’s pouring all the frustrations at me. And the next thing when I go quiet, she tells me I am not a real man. That real men communicate, in her words n I quote “ How of a feminist have you become”

SpencerForbes:
I’m going to be brutally honest with you, so please tighten your belt because you need to hear this. The first question is simple:

why haven’t you broken up with her yet? This girl has clearly shown she has zero regard for you, yet you are here talking about love. You cannot successfully love someone who does not respect you; respect is the foundation, and without it, affection is just slavery. The fact that she sits and scrolls through her phone while you do the washing is an absolute disgrace to your manhood and your ancestors. If she was the one paying the bills or coming back from a hard day's work, maybe it could be overlooked, but allowing that level of laziness is exactly where you lost the plot. That act of servitude was the moment you handed over your authority.

She has practically admitted that she can't be satisfied with just you. Are you blinded by love or just desperate?😳 You must never love a lady more than she loves you. The fact that she could look you in the face and voice those thoughts shows she doesn't fear losing you, which signifies that you are perceived as a weak man in her eyes.

There is no redemption for this relationship because the respect is gone and it’s not coming back. The best solution is to look for another girlfriend because you have already ruined this dynamic by being too soft. Yes, you played a huge part in this ( yes you, I no Dey fear you😂😡). End it, find someone else, and never walk this path again. You must be the leader in your relationship and stop succumbing to these antics. Please work on your self-esteem now, because if you carry this timid attitude into marriage, it will end in tears

Thanks 😔

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The fear of starting all over again

[/quote]uote author=SpencerForbes post=137639415]My apologies but I’ve got some questions for clarity and I need your honest reply.

— Are you for real 😳 or is it copy and paste?

— Sorry, Do you mean your mother, girlfriend or wife?

—Were you raised by an African man?

— Did you say you were thinking about her for 3 hrs😳

If she’s your girlfriend, marry her😊 she’ll change for sure. Marriage can change people😊😊😊[/quote]I don’t copy n paste, my girlfriend is what i mean , and yeah of course I was raised by an African man. Wasn’t thinking bout her solemnly for 3hrs I was thinking bout the whole situation and how I let it get to this Point

So I n my gf have been dating for over 2 n half years now, but there’s this constant issue I complain bout but she doesn’t seem to do nothing bout it. So she uses the excuses of she’s quick to anger to always insult and render insults on me. If she wants to talk I should listen, but if I try to talk or compelling bout what m not comfy with she takes it that it’s not a convo that m spilling trash. Despite all I’ve endured, she cheated trice I forgave her cos “why not” I felt people learn. But seems all I’ve done to make the relationship not base on age or anything has made her belittle me, she literally talks down on me always she has never appraised nothing I do, she nags and complains I don’t do the bare minimum, this is same person I don’t let do nothing in the house, I’ll wash, clean, do the basic things, while she lay on the bed n scroll TikTok.
I’ve changed in certain ways to make the relationship work but seems all I do is to no avail. Lately she goes on TikTok to all this ladies that talk down on men on how a girl should have two bfs, and I asked her a question “ what have you learnt so far from this TikTok stuff yeah” she said am pained cos the person spills facts that she’s learnt not to let a man control you or if you don’t use your head a man will use it for you, that she wouldn’t blame anybody that cheats, she’s not gonna judge anybody that cheats there are the ones that know why there cheated, that if she’s told I cheated, she wouldn’t be surprised. And then boom old memories kicks in of when she cheated and I’ve sat for 3hrs thinking. And whenever she acts this way my heart tends to raise rapidly like something bad is bout to happen. Please your honest advice would help.😔

How do you stop feeling like killing yourself after licking a lady plate without you knowing she just finished her period 😭🤮 but you kept noticing this funky smell when you where down there but didn’t wanna make her feel uncomfortable. So you used an excuse to head to the bathroom only to put water in your mouth to wash off and you’re seeing little stains of blood even on your tongue 🤢😭 what would you do in this situation and how do you stop feeling like killing yourself 😭🤦 the trauma is killing…😭🤦

Help needed pls
There’s a young boy always coming around in our house the boy seems to be really close to my 12yr old niece they’re always fun of been seen together alone most times and my sis feels it’s cool i once caught them together in our room the other night which I still can’t figure out what kids like that will be doing in the room alone with the lights off And the other day I saw a love letter in my niece bag that had the boy’s name on it. I don’t wanna tell my sis cause she’s gonna skin her so what can I do pls

Franktom247:
Which film did this happen

For real it's not a movie, its real and I'm tired

Kellibae:
It's not right... don't try it

But she keeps pestling me to

My in-laws sis is in love with me . And the brother is married to my sis, the problem is she keeps insisting I have sex with her when we’re alone and the temptation is much what should I do Pls ??

What’s that one movie series you’ve never gotten tired of watching even when feeling sleepy you try to watch everything in other to see the end?? Drop the name, if possible What have you learnt so far from it.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Masturbation is fun..no harm in masturbating..
Please yourself sexually..

Dang

kmaster007:
You cum you no cum hell fire straight

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