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Hello all,

        over the summer i met this woman that works in the office we started seeing each other she moved in my appartment an it ended as quickly as it started so let me tell you the whole story!

   first off  i am a captain and work off shore and my job keeps me away for quite some time, well at this company there is this woman that works in the office lets say her name is Joy, well befor i met joy i was not thinking about getting into another relationship as i had recently just got out of one ( 7 months before i met joy ) well we met and i didnt think much of her untill i started going to the office for meetings with all the bosses well needless to say she and i started seeing each other. she movied in very quickly and i allowed it because i thought she was sincere about her feelimgs for me.

   then i took her on a vacation to meet my immedate family and it went well, all except for when she left with my cousin rob and prior to the trip i told her i didnt trust him with my girl friends ( they both said nothing happened even tho they were gone for longer than i thought nesasary to go to the store to get beer) and i gave her the benifit of the doubt. but other than that all went well (oh she asked me to marry her while on the trip and i said that i would )

so i went back to work an while i was there something was happening in my life that had me stressed out i call her a couple time and talked to her about it and she made me feel better ( when we met she had a similar issue and i consoled  her

so then i meet her brother who lives over seas it was his b-day and he had all his airforce buddies there (who i most of them were arrogant assholes ) she gave me the cold shoulder at this party  and even refered to me as someone that worked for the company and then later said that we had been dating for a few months. well there was a after party a a club and i notice her get drunk realy fast and she started undressing some of her brothers friends with her eyes i confronted her about this and she got mad and deefensive so i left and went back to the hotel where her brother met me with an attitude because i had her wallet an for got to give it to her. she stayed out untill 6 in the morning and came back to the room with an attitude   we argued   the next day we talked    rthought that it was resolved

i told her that i wanted to talk to her brother because i thought we had gotten off on the wrong foot she said she didnt think it was a good idea so i didnt ( she assured me that she did come straight back to our room after the  party) so then her brother was sopposed to come to her sisters house where she lives when i am at work and she asked me if i was going to be comfortable with him there i said yes but that i was not going to have much to say to him she said well i just think that we should be friends then  ( this is 30 seconds after i put 750 bucks in her bank account to pay for her brothers party that i was ignotred and treated like an outsider at!!)


well she came over to my apt and got her things and the next day i went to work (she dropped me off) but the night before i thought we had worked things out apparently not because she said i dont think i can be the person you want  me to be ( she had just broken a snow globe that her brother had bought her and was crying)

needless to say i was heart broken and tried to get back together, well it got bad and worse and i think that there is no hope i still love her and need advice