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So much thanks from me. I took your advices to great use and we both had a long discussion. We've agreed that I'll tell my parents about him first. But the issue is how to approach my mom knowing fully well she won't accept him and what do I do if my fears were to be true?

ImaIma1:
At least talk to your mum first about him and hear what she has to say. Tell her you are both dating and want to get married. Find out why she even has reservations about him. You need to thread carefully and think deeply before you make a decision. Because marriage is deep

I swear I don't even know how to start with her

madridguy:
My suggestion is that you invite him to your house when you're around, make sure your mom see him. I'm sure she will query you about him then you tell her he's now a good guy. You alone can paint him white and don't buy the ideal of getting pregnant for him. Getting pregnant for him will make your mother hate him more.

lol. Am even afraid to try that stunt

1StopRudeness:
See this one... u want to get pregnant for a guy with history of infidelity just to help him with his lack of confidence and fear in approaching your mother....
Do U even care about a mothers blessing, true blessing doesn’t come from the mouth, it’s from the heart... if Ur mother doesn’t like the dude u want to go with her heart won’t bless u for real

If he can’t man-up and enter your Mum’s good books to marry u the right way instead of ambushing your mum with your pregnancy... he should fvck off.....

Eeh noted. thanks

madridguy:
My mom hates him even without knowing my relationship with him being that we stay in the same estate.

Why did your mom hates him?

He was a ladies man

Hey guys, I really don't know what to do.
I met my boyfriend when I was 18 and I'm 22 now. He's cool and funny as hell. Our love and intimacy grew so well that I thought he came straight out of my fantasy. We have our ups and downs like every other couple but we've always made up. I am rarely around because I go to school and he has never given me any reason to doubt him until I heard rumours about how a great playboy he is. I received threatening texts from the other girls including his sisters warning me to stay away from their brother. Am this type of person that rarely show emotions. I was heartbroken and angry so I made sure he couldn't get in touch with me. For months we lost all communications until he eventually found me. He begged me to take him back and promised to be a better person, I did and I saw he's putting great effort to it. My mom hates him even without knowing my relationship with him being that we stay in the same estate.
Now, he wants to marry me but is afraid coming to my house because he thinks that my mom will be aggressive to him and that's not far from the truth. I've always known he's been trying to get me pregnant but he's never been more serious than now. He said the only way my mom is going to allow us work is if I get pregnant for him, that a month-in is enough for him to do the rites. He's even calculating my monthly calendar to know the right time to visit me in school.
My parents have high hopes for me and I never want to disappoint them. How will I face them knowing am pregnant outside wedlock? Am now left to choose between him and my parents. He's 29.
Please overlook my grammatical errors and help a sister out.