Come-on guys you can't learn how to use the left hand at the old age, she's 30 or above you think she has not being looking for a solution to her problems all this years ? My dear brother remember the vow you made at the altar (for better for worst) now she needs you, help her you promised to be there for her weather good or bad, solicit for help both spiritual nor physical , she also made a mistake but remember no one is perfect if you are to be on her shoes you met do as such. One love