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Thank you. This is quite insightful

Mcslize:
Stop dating broke girls. Go for a lady that possess the spirit of gratefulness and digitally inclined.

What I mean by digitally inclined is a lady that can put her brain to good use to make legit money online. Ladies like that are resourceful, understand what it takes to earn even 1 naira and know the true value of money.

Such ladies, if you give them even 1 naira, they will thank you from now till tomorrow because they know the true value of money and will even go as far as investing in you too just as you invest in her.

For instance, ladies that trade Forex. Such ladies know how difficult it takes to perfect her trading skills and start making money from trading. They rack their brains analysing charts just to trade from Monday to Friday.

We also have ladies that create YouTube contents. It takes a lady with brain to make videos and edit them and upload for people to watch by teaching them one thing or the other. I fancy ladies like that, that put their brains to good use to make money.

They are very resourceful and grateful for every little help a man offers them.

But you see those ones that has nothing doing? They can't put their brains to good use and learn how to make money, run away from them. Reason being that, such ladies are very entitled and ungrateful. They do not know the effort one puts into making money. When you give them money, they act entitled and ungrateful.

Focus on looking for ladies that are digitally inclined who possess skills and jobs that require brain work. Those ones seem more resourceful than the idle ones. The only thing they know is looking for men that will rescue them from poverty or men they want to use as an escape route.

I am attracted to ladies that have skills and jobs that require brain work, cuz those ones will cherish every little thing you offer them cuz they know life is not easy.

I have given you my little advice based on my experience in life.

Thank you so much

wildcatter23:


Listen!

I get you!

You are already in a mess. But let me tell you a story. A family member of mine practically raised a lady from humble background. But all he did was never enough.

He sponsored her education and that of her siblings, then he placed the mum on salary.

Yet, this guy decided to take stock of this life and found something.....

He, too, was also from a humble background who through sheer daint of hard work and determination became successful.

He discovered that after he got prosperous, he decided to invite a new Partner with nothing to add or offer him. But by association with this partner, he is bound to share his money and success with but he gets nothing in return.

What annoys him most was that after hustling, this partner feels entitled to his cash like he practically works everyday and hands his paycheck over so that peace would reign.

There was a contract he got to build a house and boys quarters included too was money to purchase the land. He was a trusted fellow.

He questioned the girlfriend what he should do. The lady gave him a list of things to buy, a Murano SUV, clothes, and stuff but nothing about buying land and building that property....

This guy did the unthinkable.

He broke up with this lady even though she was pregnant with a child for him.

He told me back then that she is not an asset. I didn't get him then but I do now. This happened 25 years ago.

So what's my point?

You should have decided by now what you want to do with this barrage of advice of everyone here. This is a public space, agrees. But one thing is certain, moving on with this lady is going to buy you a load of grief and pain.

Thank you

A4alpha:
Oga don't bring very private issues such as this to the public they will soon confuse you, you should be man enough to make a firm decision or don't you have boundaries? Real have are guided by the standard they set as guiding principle of which no man decides for them.

Wake up!!
You are not yet married but you already have a failed marriage, and all faults are on you due to lack of coordination and management skill to head a home.

As for your question, this does not qualify for a red flag because as you make your bed so you lay on it, you lead her into this entitlement by too much disclosure on your part, real men don't tell it all. Again you haven't said she is wayward (every men redflag) if she is good oga keep her but you must work on yourself! you have a lot of work to do in other to change the narrative and possibly shit test her to really determine if she's the woman for you sir.

My one dime.
Merry Christmas

Thank you

pansophist:
Men usually go through this phase of not being desired by women, then as they grow and become established in finances and personal sophistication, their mind did not evolve as well.

The inferiority complex of being overly rejected since teens follows him to the 30’s, hence, he tolerates issues like the poster, something a man that always have female abundance from his teens (eg due to his looks) will never tolerate.

How can you be sponsoring someone and the person is dictating the tunes? It’s like you are just a gatekeeper to your money, not the owner.

She spends more percentage of your financial worth, and blaming you for not meeting up her “high taste”, instead of appreciation and reduce her burden.

Work on your self-worth man. No self-respecting man will tolerate, talk more of accept this.

I don’t think you can repair this relationship, the foundation is built on sand. You need to dump her. Go look for a woman that won’t suffocate you with bills, especially when she is not your wife.

Respect yourself man.

Her mum. But cars gone, landed properties also sold

ruffhandu:
C

I ask.
Who was payong the fees and taking care of her before she decamped to you? You may be walking onto a fire that will burn you from your feet to your head. Answer my question up there first and then i tell you my mind.

You are right.

she lost her dad two years back

brain54:
She could already have been in the private school...

Before she lossed her dad though. He didn't say her mom sought the admission.

Maybe she was in already admitted In school at the time of her dad's exit!

Thank you

muyico:
I'm a married man!
Let me explain this to you
No matters wot u do for woman, even filled this earth with cash for dem, dey will still say, u do nothing! U can't content women!
Try to explain to her
If ur explanation not wlcm
Den move on
I married industrious woman
Yet she still demand from me
But not by force or calling me stingyman!
During ours courtship days
I never give her dime
Den I was jobless
Always look unto my late mom and siblings for feeding den!

I brought it here because i need advice and trust me, i am getting them already. i wont take all the advice... i will just pick the advice that aligns with my personality. again, i brought it here because nobody here knows her. i dont want to discuss it with my family or hers because i dont want to discredit her.

Now, the least you would have done was to avoid this thread instead of adding salt to injury

Carndidlaydid:
Bring it up here in the first place is a discredit to her

So save those sentimental blackmail for your fellow folks

If you truly love her and Want to marry her you'd have a mature convo with her than bring it on here trying to look for validations as to what you have already decided


And yeah again ithink this your story is fake..

I did just last night.

we spoke over the phone and i told her all this, but she still sees me as one who is stingy.

Bro, the problem became worse last month when i mistakenly calculated my tax in her presence... she saw my gross and started feeling like i have and i dont want to spend for her upkeep.

coputa:
You started on a wrong note,and I think it's too late to mend things.

You literally carried all her school expenses,a girl you haven't got married to.The parents that took her to a private university knew the strength of their pockets.you could have supported her and not footing all her school expenses

And another area,is that you didn't sit her down and explain to her that because of the heavy expenses you are footing,you will not be able to do some other things for her and the family until she graduates.

Your first move was wrong,It will be very difficult to change the narrative because the family now sees you as a father Christmas,who have enough to give out, ditto the girl

FR? What's wrong with the first paragraph?

Why should i cook this up to discredit the woman i want to marry?

Carndidlaydid:
You this gender cook up different lies just to paint us bad....

Only reading your first paragraph ialready knew where you were driving at


Same old stories all the time

This is getting stale FR

I think she nags.

she says those things to me in a normal way... like in the middle of a conversation, she'd be like " just imagine, are you not ashamed that i have not made a new hair for a month now?

I will be like your sorting fees is my priority for now. she will continue like that

Yes. I have told her my resentment about her actions. Unfortunately, she thinks i am the one that should change and do things her way

brain54:
Does she nag you about it...

Like she says it in a playful way or in a vicious, angry or quarrelsome way?

Have you told her your resentment about her actions or have you argued about her behavior before? Have you sat her down to explain the sacrifices you make for her sake?

Its not like i just jumped at it. When i got to their house, i discovered that they need help... her dad is late and i felt i should help her mum to handle my partners school expenses since her elder brother is in school too and i felt it will be too much on her mum

muyico:
you first defined money as loves to her! if you cant cont. with it, why you start it in first place?? paying gf sch fee!

Thanks for your contributions.

I said i am getting tired because she constantly tells me that i am stingy. someone who pays your school fees sorting fees etc?

Sorry there is this other one, she complains that i am supposed to send her money to buy food items for my house and not me going to the market to buy them myself.

brain54:
You said you are getting tired of the relationship...

Are they other things involved that is making you tired?


And yes that's a red flag her being entitled without consideration... a big reg flag!

Please I need advice. I have been thinking about this since yesterday

SatanKeepOff:
Please I need advice.

I met my fiancée early 2025. We started dating and, with time, I felt she was someone I could marry. I opened up to her and also informed her mum about my intention to marry her daughter. Later, I went with my family to see her family. We all had a good meeting. I clearly stated that our visit was only for knocking on the door, not introduction, and that I would return later for proper introduction, collection of marriage list, bride price, and then fix a wedding date.

At the time we met, she was in her final year in a private university. I took over 100% of her school fees and all related academic expenses, which is quite expensive. Because of this responsibility, I had to limit other expenses.

For example:
• I didn’t buy her a birthday gift
• I didn’t give her a Christmas gift
This was because she had already informed me of a large amount needed to sort her academic papers, which I agreed to pay.

However, despite this, she now calls me stingy. She says my money is supposed to be our money. She also complains that I don’t take care of her parents and her younger sister.

This is where my concern is. I know how much I am spending on her education, and that has been my main focus. Yet, she still feels it’s not enough and keeps demanding more.

Now I’m having cold feet. I feel she is becoming too entitled to my finances, and honestly, I’m already getting tired of the relationship.

Please, I need sincere advice.
Am I wrong?
Is this a red flag?
What should I do?

Please I need advice.

I met my fiancée early 2025. We started dating and, with time, I felt she was someone I could marry. I opened up to her and also informed her mum about my intention to marry her daughter. Later, I went with my family to see her family. We all had a good meeting. I clearly stated that our visit was only for knocking on the door, not introduction, and that I would return later for proper introduction, collection of marriage list, bride price, and then fix a wedding date.

At the time we met, she was in her final year in a private university. I took over 100% of her school fees and all related academic expenses, which is quite expensive. Because of this responsibility, I had to limit other expenses.

For example:
• I didn’t buy her a birthday gift
• I didn’t give her a Christmas gift
This was because she had already informed me of a large amount needed to sort her academic papers, which I agreed to pay.

However, despite this, she now calls me stingy. She says my money is supposed to be our money. She also complains that I don’t take care of her parents and her younger sister.

This is where my concern is. I know how much I am spending on her education, and that has been my main focus. Yet, she still feels it’s not enough and keeps demanding more.

Now I’m having cold feet. I feel she is becoming too entitled to my finances, and honestly, I’m already getting tired of the relationship.

Please, I need sincere advice.
Am I wrong?
Is this a red flag?
What should I do?

what changed?

is the giving for vote buying?

he is not giving shishi... deal with that.

Thundafireseun:
I thought he was screaming we no Dey give Shi Shi ??

What changed?

Inter Milan Vs Liverpool for Final

Don’t we have Arabic on the Naira, are there no other religions in Nigeria?😏

omniwater:
That cross on the logo is a no no.


He crossed the line with that cross.



Are there no Muslims and traditionalists in that state?

Don’t we have Arabic on the Naira, are there no Christians in Nigeria😏

omniwater:
That cross on the logo is a no no.


He crossed the line with that cross.



Are there no Muslims and traditionalists in that state?

this is not absolutely true bro.
where i work, managers are paid above 1m.

Nazgul:
No company in Nigeria can pay you such amount monthly unless your business is recording a tremendous amount of success or you're earning in USD.

That's the only way you can hit the 1m mark monthly.

He already did

SmartPolician:
Hope Uzodinma should invite Presco to manage Adapalm for the Imo State because he's obviously too incompetent to manage the palm plantation.

who ask you

kestolove95:
The man on that last picture looks like super eagles new coach

How is it that you want ministers of God to be perceived as struggling or suffering? It seems like you're suggesting that they should be seen in a state of hardship or difficulty.

TinubuCriminal:
Lies
Pastorprenuers are fraudsters

It depends on your understanding of the term illiterate though.

thesolutions:
"Illiterates in the north"
You are very foolish you know that right.

Please what was the innocent boy’s offense?

God help us

Kingsmeal:
Lmao

They k!ll one person in the North and send an apology letter.

One Nigeria indeed.

"Let's hope they don't remember the INEC chairman's house."

the main man behind all this mess, not even BAT

Hmmmm
please call a spade a spade

BeyondCertainty:
She's so beautiful in that new look.

And, why is the bf over reacting ? Why is he acting as if he's her father.

I like the new look jare.

Good. we are one, region not withstanding.

in a thread prior, someone said it appears that Tinubu hates criticism hence he is a term president.

I would have agreed with him if our votes had any real impact.

Tinubu Had his way when PMB was in power how much more now that he is the power himself

I would have agreed with you if our votes had any real impact.

Tinubu Had his way when PMB was in power how much more now that he is the power himself

rottennaija:
From one political mistake after another. PBAT isn't getting a second term.