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GREATPIN77:
Separation

Inform your husband family that you're not divorcing him but Separation. They should look after their son/brother and ensure he's completely healed and also he should get a job or business to sustain the family as your brother cannot continue to cater for his wife and kids. Let them know you'll keep in touch with them and you're ready to return once there's evidence that he's completely out of the addiction and has a source of livelihood to cater for the family. They might not want you to leave but don't listen to them and don't leave your kids for them please. If your brother is the one bankrolling your family without the support of the man's family then such family is not responsible. You can decide not to come back again. It's your choice but i implore you to listen to your brother. Someone supporting you cannot mislead you. I will do same if you're my sister.

Noted. Thanks 🙏

frozen70:
There is a big problem in uoir marriage and the solution is there and you already have a messiah in the person of your senior brother, who has given you the best advice on the way forward

But your on exposure and timidity wants you to continue suffering

Assuming your husband left you, won't your son survive

Well for your best interests follow the advice given to you by your brother failing to do so, he will watch you suffer into depression

People like you don't need advice because you will not know the value of the advice

Noted

Procashtips:
Addiction with no name?

Wasting any money away playing games.

Mikespecialone:
Then you make everything worst …. Someone that travel to the village for a change and better living , now comes home to discover his wife, kids and properties are gone , no b depression go kill ham

No one is taking any properties along here.
Besides, he has sold all the valuables in the house and waste the money already

Hello nairalanders, pls I need matured mind on this.
I created this account to post this.

My marriage has been stressful and draining.
I have really suffered if not for the help of my elderest brother, we would have died by now.
My husband has been in addiction since we got married 5yrs ago. that has never allowed him to take care of us. In 5yr we married, he has changed More than 5 jobs all wasted effort. We have two twine children. A boy and a girl. 4urs.
His addiction has been the reason I never want to have another child ever since then.

Right now my husband's uncle, a father figured to him has invited him to come home to the village, so they can advise him and my elderest brother has asked me to pack my things and the children, as soon as my husband left for the village, he will relocate us and my husband will not have access to us again.
And he said, if I declined, he will take his hand off my matter. He has been the one taking care of our rent, school fees and upkeep as my husband's money goes to addiction.

My fear now is, my children are so used to their father and I'm afraid if they can cop without their father. Especially my son.
Secondly, I'm so scared that I don't know how I'm going to handle more brokness in my life
My life is so scattered right now.
And lastly, I don't want my brother to take off his hands off me. He's the only person helping me out with my mistake.