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Mom007:
Lol @ happy home. Generation that hates truth.
@ least I have a home. Marriage is very practical and realistic. The pressures of Marriage can break tested and trusted bonds where financial stability is not even in question not to talk of you 2 dreamers that are so swept up in romance and maybe infatuation that you are planning a marriage without steady income or accommodation. You cannot put the cart before the horse. If you know you love each other, give yourselves a breather from marriage talks, set a target of like 1year in which you both develop yourselves and attain a measure of stability, then you can plan a wedding.

Kobojunkie:
Poverty is indeed a mindset.

bigl:
Its good to get married but judging by what you posted, i'll say it sounds like an "impulsive" move ...

The time might not be good for u to settle down ... especially without an apartment of your own ... except maybe, your parents gave u an apartment to live in, all by yourself ..

Djing, i don't have any issue with that but do u have enough savings or have a constant pay from, maybe a club u do dj in

If not, you're in for a rather stressful journey cos when the bills starts popping up from all angles, that love wey dey una eyes, go clear sharply ... i'm not wishing u bad but just telling u the reality....

I hope both of you are not AS sha??

If not, k.ill (pai) that love!

Klass99:
The late Onyeka Onwenu once said something profound which still resonates with me till date. She said success in life is your personal responsibility, do not put it on anyone.

I like to rephrase her words in my mind as success at anything in this life is my personal responsibility, I will not put that responsibility on anyone but myself. It can be anything from finding a new job to losing weight, quitting bad habits, etc.

You have decided to put that responsibility on your girlfriend while sounding helpless and acting powerless, like you don't have the werewithal to get your act together and fix yourself. No offence meant but you are like a child/boy in a grown man's body. I don't baby sit grown ups and if I knew your girlfriend I would ask her to walk away until you get your act together.

Can you please take responsibility for your life and your choices, and decide to do better, without hingeing your success on your girl? We are not mindless creatures incapable of self discipline, you are just comfortable with your bad habits and excuses, unwilling to do the work of self improvement, while looking to a woman to rescue you.

meobizy:
Source: ChatGPT.

Mom007:
Poor lady.
I wonder what part of this your resumé she saw and thought you to be a good husband material.

Scaredguy:
I am actually saving towards that already, 2nd week in march, i should get a place already. Thank you so much for the honest advice.

Kajaard:
You better save towards getting an apartment of your own.

Don't get married and start inconveniencing your sister by bringing your wife to love in her apartment.

Forget about marriage until you get your own apartment.

Jesuspistol:
Incomplete information. Who are you staying with? If it's your parents house with many flats. You're already in your own apartment. That's why I said there's need for more information

Does your fiancee also work? What work does she do. You lack self-control in which aspect?

For you to sit down and evaluate your life like this shows you're thinking properly and you're tending towards self development. Do you know there are men of 35 who don't even take time to think about their life following the right channel?

iamdocToyemi:
If the bolded is correct, that is green enough flag to marry her.

Johnny757:
betting 😹😂😁

Johnny757:
getting married without apartment 😂

Nice2023:
Don't ever test the depth of a river with ur both feet.

Be careful.

Nice2023:
Don't ever test the depth of a river with ur both feet.

Be careful.

Acidosis:
You're a walking red flag.