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Ujujoan:
@ Poster

Your hypocrisy is beyond words. Just because you have never impregnated a girl and made her take it out doesn't mean you've not lived an irresponsible life!

My only grouse with the girl is her obvious stup1d1ty. Not only for making the mistake more than once, but also for telling you!

Am surprised you could make such comment over someone you barely know. What if I tell you that I have not slept with a woman before despite many opportunities to do so. I thought you are actually matured with your zillions of post on Nairaland.

Thank you all for all the advise.

simpleseyi:
My guy,
Have you noticed that all the people that support this your so-called girl are all females. That is how females do, they support themselves even when they are obviously wrong.
Why should you be the person to marry an over-used, tenth-hand girl. I am not an apostle of virginity but for Christ sake, must you marry a love-peddler? This is a life-time contract ooo, so think very very well. As for me, I cannot marry a retired or serving prostitue. PERIOD.

What is your advise?

Thanks Mates, I feel lighter.

There is this girl I had my eyes on when I was still in the University. My Dad is a lecturer and she also lived in the School community. After my youth service, I stayed back in Abuja for a job in one of the ministries. Last year I was posted back to PH for a special assignment and I reunited with her.

I have been considering marriage for a while and I didn`t waste time to let her know because she appears to be the kind of girl I wanted. We informed our families and everyone was happy. She came to my place some weeks back and told me that she would like to let me know some things about her past. I had to tell her to wait until we are on bed at night.
She told me that she has had series of abortions in the past and she told me about the guy (who I know but not close to) who was responsible. She had dated some other guys too. I went cold after her story and I do not know what to do. I dont know how she found her self in such a mess. I have not lived an irresponsible life.

Am afraid if she will be able to conceive again, I dont know what our parents will say.I dont know if leaving her is the best option for me. Though she has been crying for days now. Am still hurt.


PLEASE MATURE NAIRALANDERS HELP ME, I NEED YOUR ADVISE.

True talk. LASTMA men are worst than robbers. They lay armbush in strategic point praying for someone to enter their net. If you mistakingly take a one way or something like that instead of redirecting you, they will make sure they collects your last penny.This men are richer than you can imagine. They collect the heaviest bribe than any other government agency can collect. They are wicked, they are corrupt and greedy

I handsome, how you want make we take dig am ?
Nonsense!

Why do we have more foreign clubs` fans than local clubs` fans (if any) in our land ? Everywhere you go, you hear slogans like Up Blues ! Gunners for life! and so on.  When are we going to start hearing slogans like Up Peoples elephant ! Pillars for life and so on.

Individuals and corporate bodies have abandoned our local league to cheer and support the European leagues. How do we develop our local football when we don`t have interest in it? When there are failures people will start calling for the heads of NFA and NFL.Remember our nollywood movies/music are selling today (in Africa and beyond) not because they are  the best but because of the support and acceptance they recieve back home.

In Brazil, football fans cheer their local league clubs/players and other foreign clubs they could find a Brazilian. If we are passionate about our things here in no time we will attract both foreign and local sponsors to develop our game.

Each time I watch the eagles play, it like they are dancing to the melodious sound coming from the sophisticated musical instrument of the supporters club. Instead of being aggressive with the ball, you see them roma dancing on the field .And the supporters club at the other side are busy doing what they are good at (dishing out good music as if nothing is as stake). Does this motivate the eagles in any way? When most teams are not doing well on the field of play, the players will always see it on the face of their fans/supporters, in Nigeria`s case is not so. what do we need titles like the best supporters club for? I don`t know if there could be anyone that will take the pain to watch some of our matches in the just concluded Africa Cup of Nations and see what I mean. Abeg my people make una put mouth.

I was in a similar shit last year. Two offers came my way one in an IT firm and another in a bank (one of the highest paying banks in the industry). I resumed at the bank sometimes in October as a marketer, the IT job was to be in January. I discovered that I was in a wrong place because everyday that I go to work it was as if I was been caned to do the job. There was no passion for the job and I lost interest in the job. January came and I made a shift to the IT company as an engineer (though the pay is less). I enjoy what I`m doing right now. And I think my company will be left with no option than to thrice my salary or more in the next 18 months due to the trainings, exposure and the requirement of the industry.

My brother, I thank God that I made this choice, no regret all the way. Bank will only offer you gifts like money, T-shirt,loan,pride,car,sometimes trainings etc. If you wan work go to the bank ,It you wan build a career go to dat engineerin coy.The Choice is yours to make. I`ve been there before nothing dey there.
Goodluck