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StubbornGENIUS:
**DON'T BE AN UNEMPLOYED YOUTH.SHIKINA!!

I like your Ziggy. How do you see it like this. We are look gooding unemployed guys

Munzy14:
hahahahahahaha.......


A lot of guys are passing through this....But, what am baffled at how a man stays unproductive!


How comfortable they are in this state is something else...

true. some guys just finds comfort in the hands of joblessness

Nettybrown:
Mind how u relate to people to earn respect.

make dem no insult you like "Common go and sit down, who chuck your mouth for the mata, you jobless person"

Let's go straight to the point.



• Don't play songs portraying irresponsibility, like all those shaku shaku and marlians songs. You don't want to keep playing "am I a yahoo boy"' on a repeat in the presence of your parents. You will be scolded "my friend, will you stop that song now! You jobless child"

• let your parents see you reading motivational or life changing books. Even though you don't feel like reading, just carry the book cover your face and pretend to be reading. They would feel you are a prospect of getting a job.

• Don't complain about the quantity of food or size of meat you are served. Sometimes you have to pretend you have lost appetite, even if hunger is killing you inside. When mom calls on you "Desmond, your food is ready on the dinning". Tell her "I don't feel like eating now". Just pause, even if it is just for 5mins then go and devour your meal. They would know there are more things you are thinking about apart from food. You don't want to be told "see your big head, it is eba that full inside, nah only food you know"

• Don't make intimate calls around your parents. Like all those deep or long calls with girls. You don't want to receive words of scolding.

• Be psychologically ready to be accused of stealing meat. Especially when you are in the kind of family with many siblings with a Judas among them. You would be looked with that eye of a criminal. Like if your mom ask your younger bro " Charles who took two meats from the pot?" Charles would be like "Ask Desmond(Me)" kikikiki. That moment. Mom would be like "Desmond, you are the only one who has been home all day, where are those meats?"

• Just wear coperate outfit sometimes, carry your CV with you and tell your parents you are going out to seek for job even when you actually wanted to visit a friend. They would know their son is making effort to get a job

•in the presence of your parents appear depressed purposely sometimes and accompany it with heavy sighs in between. When they ask what is wrong with you. Tell them "dad I'm not happy with my life". They would be the one giving you words of consolation. Even though deep down in your mind that moment you are actually happy that your club won their tough match that weekend .


• Do some house chores voluntarily. Like cleaning and some others. You don't want to hear shout on your head that, what is your usefulness sef! You are just jobless and useless! The TV is dusty and your brain cannot tell you something abi! .
See hennn most of the insult will be coming from your mom. Women dey get wahala.

And lastly go and get a job or you create one.

You can add yours.

KingSatan:
As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

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