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Thank You my fellow Nairalanders for your contributions.Right now flying to naija is somewhat difficult,I have send my first cousin to make inquiries because she lives in a neighbouring state to where my boyfriend comes from.(this itself is confusing,he was born in one state and brought up in another state)

I also called the friend I ran into, the aunt has gone back to Nigeria, the aunt told my friend that a woman should be the least of my worries as far as my boyfriend is concerned,when I pressed her for more Info she said that was all the aunt said.

Now they've got me wondering if my boyfriend is a divorcee or even a widower?? My prayer is that he isn't married because that will be the end of our r/ship.This is a small world I'm sure if I were to put his FB details here on NL one person might know someone who knows him or even know him sef!! but I won't go there.

For those asking me, my boyfriend is 34 years of age and has been living in the UK for 4 years.His parents know we are workmates he told me he's yet to tell them we started dating this year but his siblings know about it

I'm aware things happen for a reason because I remember I didn't even want to attend that gathering but my boyfriend insisted I accompany him because he didn't want to let his friend down.My frame of mind will be in a better place once all this stuff comes to light.

Hi all, I have chosen to start a thread with a new ID because my boyfriend knows my NL ID.I feel awful for putting him on blast like this but after contemplating about it for a while I'm at my wits end about this situation.

I have known my boyfriend for 3 years but we started dating early this year.We recently attended a gathering here in London, where we ran into a friend of mine and who was with her aunt who was visiting from Nigeria.

As we were having some small talk my friends aunt excitedly mentioned her sister was married in the same town where my boyfriend comes from.
A few friends came over and started talking to my boyfriend who excused himself briefly for a few minutes.
My friend's aunt then chose this moment to say that it seems as though my boyfriend is doing well for himself and he should now start thinking of bringing his kids to the UK.

My friend told her aunt my boyfriend didn't have any kids to which she smiled and said she knew his family well,She advised me to tactfully ask him about it because she kind of understands why he hadn't told me he has kids,she even knew his kids live with his parents.

He keeps saying he has no kids.I spoke to his brother who swears there are no kids and we chatted with his sister on FB who said there are no kids either.This is causing some strain in the r/ship at the moment,I'm mystified about all this and I would appreciate some insight on this