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At OP, what do you look out for in a man? Is it all about physical appearance and not the substance the man carries? Do this, list out all you desire in a man and prioritize them and see if this guy ticks most of your boxes. I read some of your past posts and was wondering why you will have prioritize outlook despite your experience in the hands of guys. You can't have it all in this life and from your description of the guy, I think he has substance. Give him a chance at least and see if you will have feelings for him.

akinade28:
Yes, the man doesn't have any issue with the lady's physical. But, the good girl he wants to marry has issues with his own physical appearance. So what advice wil you give the man, if he had sought your advice concerning this issue?

Oh, I get you now. I will tell him to push further and be patient. But if the girl still insists, he should leave her.

akinade28:
I find your response interesting, however, I have a question for you. Let's assume the reverse was the case, and the man in question was someone you know personally. He came to seek your advice concerning the lady he wishes to marry. He has found a good girl to marry but he doesn't think the lady is attracted to him, and she has issues with his physical appearance. Will you give him this same advice?

Well, I don't know the part of my response that interests you. To be candid, there's no advice I have for the man because he doesn't have any issues with the lady's physical appearance, it is the lady that needs every advice that will guide her to choose rightly.

Samantha123:
Get married to your type of a man, someone you're compatible with, not because he's a husband material..

You can marry a husband material but not be happy in the marriage because you two would not be compatible..

What's the use of rushing into marriage only to be unhappy for the rest of your life

What is compatibility in marriage?

Juliusdaughter:
Thank you so much. I have nothing to show for the past relationships where I had feelings for my partners, like you said, I was the one proving the love in most cases.

Like you said, what have you gained from your past relationships where you had feelings for your partners? Feelings are temporal and subject to change based on events and circumstances. Going from your past experience, what should matter to you now is how you will have a happy home, and attractions and feelings and attraction won't make you a happy home. If you had said you don't love the guy, I would have joined the bandwagon of those saying you should not marry him. Even at that, there are marriages that did not start on love. Both parties just agreed to give it a shot and with communication, commitment, and patience, they started having feelings for each other and the feelings eventually translated into love which is the bedrock of every happy home.

Many single who are asking you not to marry him because of what you said don't know a jack about marriage. They think marriage is all about sex which is more than that. Funny enough, some of them will jump at the man if they have access to him and divert his attention from you forever. In this era that many single ladies are looking for a man that his head is correct, you found one and you are saying he is dark and short? Is he impotent? Is he a dwarf? Is he not responsible? Please, give me his contact I have girls looking for such a man.