₦airaland Forum

Harnny:
O!... but you will bring the Jewish occupation of the area 3k years ago as evidence of their claim to the land right?. You were sha alive in 2002 and 2007 where Israel killed thousands of Palestinians and incerated thousands more. Between 2008 and 2021, Israel wages at least 4 wars on Gaza with over 4000 Palestinians killed. You think Oct7 was anything? Think again. You only see the one that fits your narrative.

I completed secondary school in 2003,and unaware of the conflicts between both parties, may be cos I didn't have access to the phone and t.v at that time,but In my honest opinion, if everyone revisited past disputes and sought justice, the world would descend into chaos, imagine Israel pursuing Germany for historical Nazi atrocities.... Perhaps Hamas should reassess their strategy and prioritize survival, Cos he who fights and runs away, lives to fight another day....

Remember there will always be conflicts among humans just like animals in the jungle.

Ain't nothing wrong in this in my sincere opinion....
If I like a woman , how does that affect you and your hypocritical friends ..

live and let me live please ...

Harnny:
Is it Iran that carried out all previous Nakbas?... when was the first Nakba and when was Iran established?

I don't care about the first Nakba or whatever it is that happened.
The one dat happened before my very eye na Hamas first start am, nothing concern me with what happened in the past or history...cos if everyone has to follow that logic then the world has every reason to be in chaos and everyone taking revenge for what was done to their ancestors in the past.

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
forget about heaven na me dey tell you

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All of us came from the darkness and we are going back to it...

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
men, women and children were shouting Allah war kubar early in the morning of October 7, when Hamas were busy kiiing Israel people, I'm still surprised why Allah has refused to help them stop IDF response

The Allah they rely on is Iran, unfortunately those ones too don collect wotoporiously

Sonnobax15:

I'm finding it difficult to forgive myself over the fact that I once supported Israel......Yes,I once did but seeing the extent they've gone and going is something I can't stomach

Imagine starving innocent children.........Those of una wey dey study Bible,is this what the Bible really preaches? Cuz I'm not understanding at all.

Imagine starving upcoming Hamas ..
Sorry we are only trying to kill the roots before it sprouts to something bigger.... .
Don't bother quoting me ooo'cos your opinion will not change my stance on this.....

Mabuggi88:
Smiling.......


So if my lips glow what good does it add to my life?

Glowing healthy looking lips can enhance your self esteem and give you confidence in your appearance thereby making you feel good.....
Feeling good is the keyyxx

Iran who started this war in proxy should be the one doing the rallying and not you until then you guys can keep R anting ...
I stand with Yisreal...

EmmyMaestro:
The list a Nigerian man made for his wife that has got people talking 👀

A narcissist needs supply to make him feel good, but I tell u for free, even when u do all these for a narcissistic husband, he still no Go dey satisfied because obviously the disorder is mental...

Really, what route would he be passing till he gets to his destination....

High way or corner corner?

PastorKosi:
It is well with your soul.

Pastor Kosi, what's wrong with the soul of an individual who chooses not to get married but have a child, and please don't quote the bible for her, not everyone believes the quotes of that book.....

SocialJustice:
Nigerian men, don't marry from a poor family. Any girl that wants to marry should bring 40% of the marriage cost so when something like this happens, the man won't take the entire loss.

Simps stop quoting me. This is my opinion.

You mean he is slapping the pain of the marriage cost out of the womannn ..
The cost must be really painful.

1mansolder:
The ideology is inborn,it is very difficult to defeat ideology with violence.

In your own words, please tell me what defeats ideology, rehabilitation right?

Sheuns:
If they ask him to mention the time and year where this was recorded now, he’ll say it’s divine.

Yoruba has no recorded history. It was passed down orally and some stories could have been either watered down or exaggerated.

Even those with recorded histories are questioned. Talk more of those with oral folklores.

Why didn't we record our histories, is it that pen and paper no dey or na illetracy cause am

Preciousgirl:
It's hard for me but I will confess here. My colleague of course male colleague playfully held my waist at the workplace and I got aroused. I have never had feelings for him though. I was a little wet. Have I cheated? Should I confess this to my husband? What really happened since I don't have feelings for the guy? Could that me juju at work?

What do you mean by should I confess this to my husband?
Are you normal at all?
If tides were turned, would your husband confess same to you?
Btw, someone playfully held your waist and nature, hormones in your body responded by getting you aroused, shey na u dey control hormones for your body ni? What you have control on is if or not u lie in bed with him, not one rubbish wetness you felt by him touching your waist, oya let me ask u, why do women often times feel wet, during their ovulation period, shey na touching of waist cause that one again?

Please stop beating up yourself over something u have no control over....
This is just nature taking it course..
Don't let rubbish indoctrination from the bible make u feel guilty about what nature placed in u.

muyico:
Oh lord!! Save your people, save your lands
We need good friendly climate

So God no see when the flood dey ravage the land, it needs u to call on it before it can act right?

Firebox123:
Juma jux go take care of another man pikin before he discover say no be his pikin

Haha....when u make statements like this, at least add allegedly to it ...

Ezini:
I repeat after him God is a consuming fire

Only a fools says there is no Good , it is written

Faith and scripture aren't proof that there's God, Critical thinking and evidence are, so I ask you Didirin, bring your proof that a spirit that u don't see is a consuming fire....
Or call on him to burn me this minute......

In as much as I support his stance of refusing to accept whatever these islamic extremists tried to push down his throat, which one is it with threatening them with "God is a consuming fire".
Oga oyedepo, abegi, there's no God anywhere... And ye Islamic extremists too abegi carry your advocacy for wearing hijab elsewhere, in fact go build your institutions and force your beliefs and ideas on your students....

Nonsense

Some people without cancer will even die before her, the only difference between the dead and those of us alive is time, everyone will die, I love her bravery.

pocohantas:
Lol. I get your point sha.
But you see I didn't beg for your husband.
Na the pikin I beg for. 😈😈😈

Thanks for the advice Poco, I'll definitely be mindful with her moving forward but it's not going to be easy but I'll try my best.....

pocohantas:
I understand your grievance over what happened in the early years of your marriage, but you see you kept saying "HE". Your husband was (is) the problem, not the innocent child. I have said it here many times that a woman's attitude to people below her (domestic staff) can most times be directly traced to her husband and alfa mails came for me. But it is what I witnessed first hand. Anytime my aunty catches her husband with his sidechicks, she would turn tigress and since she couldn't do anything to him _she took it out on us.

Nothing surprises me about what he did. Financial abuse is common in Nigerian marriages. And Naija men operate a who pays the piper dictates the tune. Until it is the woman paying and they want her to virtuously pass the glory to her husband. However, I am sure you should know to train your feelings not to be dependent on him. If you don't do this, you will turn into an inhumane madame without knowing. Mine is not perfect either, so I don't allow his shortcomings influence my actions towards to others. Not even his family. Let alone a child.

Today my siblings don't talk to my aunty. If she calls with another number and they hear her voice, they end the call immediately and block. I am the only one who found a place in my heart to forgive her for the sake of her suffering kids. I appeal to you to let this go. In future that child may be the only one in your husband's family to speakup for you. 🙏🙏🙏

Honestly, I'm done with this family situation and already planning my exit, when I help out, I don't expect praise or reciprocation in the same form, but I do expect some kind of return or mutual benefit, that's why when I buy things for her, I make sure she pays me back in kind. It's a fair exchange, not charity. I don't want empty praises or for people to think I'm doing it out of the goodness of my heart. It's a win-win for both of us, and I'm very clear about my boundaries....
Thank u

Sterope:
Say..."So wait; indeed, we, along with you, are waiting"


- Surah Tawbah Vs 52

I don't believe in your fictional story book.
Let it judge you who practice the acts in it not me..

Sterope:
That is alright.

Again, this will be revisited. Have a long life!

I'll be waiting

pocohantas:
Sister Seun have a change of heart.
I want to believe you are trolling us, but you seem to be serious. Please reflect on what you typed in your quiet time.

Sister Poco really, have a change of heart, just like that?.
I remember when my mom was ill, he wouldn't even give me money to visit her, let alone help with hospital bills and I also do remember in the early days of our marriage when I wanted to bring in my niece, he said nobody could live with us but It's ironic that he had no issue bringing his niece to live with us, expecting me to take care of her needs beyond what he contributes (which is just her school fees and feeding ) but He wants me to buy her clothes, toiletries, etc and treat her like my own daughter and If I don't, everyone will blame me. I've been buying second-hand clothes, shoes for her just to avoid cho chocho from ppl but the truth is, I'm not happy about it and going forward, I'm done going out of my way for her. If he wants to support her, that's on him. I'm prioritizing my own family's needs.
Let everyone take care of their family...It's simple.

pocohantas:
Hiannnn̈nnnnnnnn!!!!!!

Hian, Hian, I said what I said....

Sterope:
I am going to assume you are a Christian.

Everyone is sufficient as their one accountant (Quran) and you will find it most exciting to tell your God about this.

He will even show it you in case your forget sef

I am not a Christian, I do not believe in any one but myself....
Life is a jungle, learn from the animals madam

Nicoddemus:
Peace at the detriment of another life. Saw you repeating that the girl is 12 meaning you somehow want to use that very girl consenting to your wife's witchcraft. But if you guys go ahead with that plans let your children never go without punishment for your action

A 12 years old girl should do house chor s, ain't nothing bad in that, let her do it , though I don't support that he changes her school....

Israel5:
Please (even though I know my appeal with fall on deaf ears too numerous to count in this forum), approach this issue with logic and without prejudice to the people involved.

My wife and I are duly blessed with a son who is in his basic 5 now. Also, we decided to get the daughter of one of my cousin to stay with us. She is one of 7 children. So I wanted to help raise a CHIMAMANDA.

As my rule, every child of same age under my room attends the same school and calls us Dad & Mum. The school part didn't quite seat well with my wife, who had a different opinion, but I prevailed anyway. Because na me dey pay school fees.

The girl is a year older than my son, but due to the level of education at the village before she came over, we made her be in the same class as my son. She met my son in primary 2. Now they are both in basic 5.

A shocker happened: This girl keeps coming up in the class, while my son keeps running away from the top. We've tried extra lessons, even tried changing schools. Now it looks as if the girl is better suited for school than my boy. She reads, spells and memorizes things too marvellous. I bought a dictionary cos of that.

I even buy gifts for her (for coming top) more than I do for my boy, to make him sit up, but my pikin nor send me o. Guy use cry & Woman power make me buy am bicycle. 😁

I would think he's being a spoilt boy, who believes daddy & mommy is there, I don't really know. But I am hopeful.

Now, my major issue is my heavily pregnant wife. She wants the girl to be changed/enrolled at a different school. In her defence, she wants her to be available to help her take care of things. The kid's school close by 3pm. She suggest government school that close earlier. I see sense in what she said but I feel like I'll be unfair to this young girl.

When I tried to have a healthy debate on the idea. Na so madam start to dey talk plenty tins wey I nor fit type.
I have accepted to do her wish from September for peace.

Please, do you see another way I could avoid problems?

Is she right to have asked that I changed the girl's school just because she needs help around the house & her business?

Honestly, I think you should listen to your wife without questioning her motives, as a wife who's had a similar experience, I can relate.
My husband's niece lives with us, and I treat her like a helper. I've noticed that people who criticize wives in similar situations are often single or haven't had to deal with relatives staying with them and before having my husband's niece live with us, I was one of those quick to judge. But now, I see things differently. I use her help a lot, and my priority will always be my children. Let's be real, family dynamics can be complicated, and it's natural to prioritize our own blood relatives. Nobody will prioritize you like your parents do. We're all guilty of using people to some extent, and it's evident in our society.

By the way, nobody should quote me preaching the holy gospel to me, it will not change my stance, everyone is a user and it's evident in our society of today ...

EmperorIsaac:
Perfectionist tendencies...from my dad!

Perfectionist are narcissist