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Common sense? Yes. Commonly practiced? No.

The beginning of a new relationship can be a tricky course to navigate. Guys (like me) aren't that great at guessing what women think or want, and our stupidity often leads to otherwise easily avoidable arguments. Setting ground rules for a new relationship may help you get past the small stuff and start enjoying your lives together.

Here are 10 ground rules for a new relationship that everyone should be following:

1. P.D.A. regulation.

People have different comfort levels when it comes to couples behavior in public. Find the line (holding hands, smooching, heated necking on the subway platform) and don't cross it.

2. One day a week.

Decide on one day every week you can spend together, no one else invited. Everyone's busy; designating together-time is healthy for any relationship.

3. No suffocation.

Being together is great; acting like conjoined twins is not. Respect each other's space and don't take it so seriously if he asks for some time to himself.

4. Don't talk about the future until it's time to talk about the future.

Nothing freaks a guy out like the prospect of kids before he's actually ready to have them. Don't think he doesn't want to be with you if he shies away from the topic. He just enjoys the way things are and isn't quite ready to add a mini-me to the mix.

5. Forge friendships with your partner's pals.

Not that you have to be one of the bros, but it's nice for him (and you) if you feel comfortable around his buddies.

6. But don't forget your own.

Don't drop the friends who were with you before he showed up. Ditching the gals will lead to feelings of resentment and neglect and if your relationship comes to an end, you'll want that circle of support.

7. Don't hide things.

You don't need to tell him about the time you hooked up with your father's golf buddy, but it's probably a good idea to tell him you're still friends with your ex before he runs into the two of you on the street.

8. Loosen up.

Don't start a fight because he glanced at the attractive girl that just walked by. Likewise, he shouldn't get worked up just because you said Jack wilson is hot. It's not like either of you is trying to sleep with them (unless you are, in which case you should re-evaluate your role in this twosome).

9. Don't kiss and tell.

This is a relationship, not an elongated one-night stand. There's no need to talk about what goes on in the bedroom at the water cooler.

10. No assumptions or guessing games.

Don't force him to guess what you really mean by, "It's OK if we don't go out on my birthday." Being upfront with your feelings will prevent many conflicts.

Learn what matters in love right from the start using these new relationship advice and tips.

There’s nothing more exciting than a new relationship in love.

A new relationship brings with it a hope for good things and adds a bit of mystery that intrigues you to learn more.

As pee-inducing as a new relationship may be, you have to take it slow and play by the rules if you want to have a good relationship that can blossom over time into a perfect one.

Most young lovers rush into a new romance and want to know everything it has to offer within the first few days.

But entering a new relationship isn’t like tearing the wrapper off your Christmas present. You have to take your time to open the layers.

If you’re already in a seasoned relationship and looking for ways to have a perfect relationship, read how to have a good relationship.

From a new relationship to a good relationship

In a seasoned relationship, keeping the excitement alive may seem like the biggest bummer. But in a new relationship, it’s learning to hold back the excitement that ends up distancing new lovers.

If you’ve just met a perfect partner and don’t want to ruin a perfect start, here are all the pointers you need to take it from a new relationship to a good relationship.

#1 Meet often, but not too often

When you’re in young love, you’d want to spend every waking minute with your sweetheart. It’s understandable, you’re obviously excited. But could you be pushing it too far?

Remember that new workout dvd you picked up some time ago? You were probably really excited at the beginning, but as the daily workout took more and more time out of your daily routine, you started getting annoyed by it. It’s the same story with love.

By meeting too often, you’re suddenly changing the lives of two individuals who have fallen in love. It may feel great for the first week or so, but eventually your other commitments may pile up and one of you may end up getting annoyed with the other for taking too much time. [Read: The story of a boyfriend who got clingy]

Go out on dates once or twice a week, and it’ll keep the love and excitement on a high for a long time. But if you’re both madly in love and can’t keep your hands off each other, then you’re excused to meet each other more often, but with caution.

#2 Don’t get clingy

Just because you’re dating doesn’t mean you own each other. Shocking, yes, but it’s true. If you want to know how to have a good relationship from the beginning, learn to give each other space. Especially in a new relationship, you’re only dating each and don’t really need to know every little piece of information about each other. Right now, you’re only a small part of each other’s lives, so don’t give yourself more importance than you deserve. [Read: How to give space in a relationship]

#3 Don’t be lavish with your gifts

Your new lover may be running in your mind all day, but that doesn’t mean you should go overboard and buy something for your lover every time you see something nice while shopping.

Save the spending sprees for later when the relationship has grown over a solid foundation. If you do want to express your love with gifts, then pick something small, personal and inexpensive at first. Save the extravagant gifts when you know your new mate’s the one for you.


#4

Possessiveness is never a good trait in a relationship. Possessiveness is a sign of insecurity and jealousy, and these are usually big red flags in any relationship, new or old. [Read: How to deal with relationship insecurity]

Remember that you’re still in a new relationship and can’t order or even request your mate to avoid people or avoid going out by themselves. Even if you do feel jealous about your lover’s partying habits or the amount of time they spend with a group of friends, learn to suck it up and hold it in. Signs of jealousy and insecurity right at the beginning can end the relationship even before you know it.

#5 Accept each other’s habits

Whether you’re in love or otherwise, you can’t really change someone’s personality. If you find your new lover incompatible, end the relationship instead of suffering a nervous breakdown due to frustrations or insecurities.

#6 You don’t have to say I-Love-You
Just because you’re in a relationship with your new lover, it doesn’t mean you have to start saying those “three magical words”� to each other as soon as you decide to go out with each other.

By saying it out first, you’re subtly coercing your partner into saying it back. And whether your new love says it back or not, it’s only going to lead to awkwardness in the air because it’s all happening so fast. Take it slow and wait a while, maybe a month or so before you say it out loud.

#7 Don’t introduce your date to your friends too soon

When you’re in a new relationship, you’re still exploring each other and learning about each other. Don’t call your friends over when your new lover’s with you or plan a group date just to show off your new catch.

Though it’s not a bad thing to do, overwhelming your new lover with too much information at once can seem like too much, too fast.

And if you do meet a friend when you’re on a date, introduce your date by the name and don’t really get into details. Your friends would understand the relationship status. And you’d save your date from an awkward situation, especially if they haven’t made up their mind on your relationship status.

#8 Talk to each other

When you’re in a new relationship, the bodily exploration may be the high point of every date that ends in a cozy corner or in one of your beds. But that doesn’t really help create a good relationship. Communication does.

Try to sneak in a long conversation every now and then and learn about each other, likes, dislikes, interests and all. By doing this, it’ll help you figure the romantic compatibility and also help bring both of you closer on a level that’s beyond sexual attraction.

Understand the secret behind knowing how to have a good relationship right from the start by taking it slow and learning about your partner without overwhelming them at once. After all, a new relationship, as exciting as it may be, is still fragile and breakable.

So you’ve finally met a match that you’re really interested in and the feeling’s mutual. But how you proceed in these early days with determine whether this becomes a real relationship or fizzles out. Here are some things to be aware of to help get your relationship off to the best possible start

Kerb your enthusiasm

Even if you’re jumping for joy inside because you’ve finally found someone who you have a real connection with, hold back on the celebrations until it has had a chance to really develop. Telling all your friends, posting status updates about true love or talking incessantly to colleagues about your new beau may leave you feeling foolish if things don’t work out. Just hold back a little, at least until you’ve had six dates, before you declare this to be ‘the one’. Similarly, if every time you see your new love interest you’re bounding around like an over-enthusiastic puppy, your enthusiasm may well put them off.

Give it space to grow

It can be tempting to be in touch with your new mate all day and all night and it’s easier than ever to do this with text, email and instant messaging, but too much contact can easily stifle a new love. There needs to be time and space for you to miss each other, to look forward with excited anticipation to the next call or date – if calls and texts are coming every five minutes what is there to look forward to? There’s something lovely about being told that you were on someone’s mind all week but there’s no need for you to contact each other with every passing thought.

Don’t reveal too much too soon

We’ve all had trials and tribulations in life and there will be a time when, as a part of your deepening relationship, you will share these with each other, but offloading all your emotional baggage on to a date is likely to crush any hope of a future together. We’re not advocating keeping secrets, just suggesting that if you want this relationship to last a lifetime then that is how long you have to get to know each other. The first weeks and months are the time to have fun, to find out what makes each other tick, to look forward to seeing each other and explore what you like doing together.

Show your appreciation

There’s no nicer feeling than being appreciated and it can help secure a firm and lasting bond between people. Right from the beginning when you’re chatting online, show your appreciation by saying things like ‘thank you’ for compliments or ‘it’s been lovely talking to you, you made me smile.’ . If a date chooses somewhere good for a date tell them you appreciate their choice; if they have nice manners say that – tell people when you enjoy their company; if the colour of their outfit highlights the colour of their eyes; if something they did or said made you feel happy. These are just examples, but what is important is that you get into the habit of saying out loud the nice appreciative things that you may often think but not tell people – you’ll make their day.

Don’t neglect the rest of your life

One of the biggest mistakes people make at the beginning of a relationship is casting aside the rest of their life and devoting all their time and attention to their new love interest. Remember that your match was attracted to the you who went out with friends; had hobbies and interests; went to work and generally had a full life. If, once they get to know you, all that is cast aside or neglected, not only will that say something about your loyalty and commitment but it can place too much pressure on them to be your all and everything.

There is no rush

Enjoy every moment of your new relationship and remember there is absolutely no rush to move onto the next stage. Be sensitive to the other person’s feelings and don’t try and rush them along in the relationship before they’re ready. There are many milestones – moving from online chat to the phone; adding them as a friend on a social network; letting them know where you live; introducing them to your family – if you try and do it all too soon you may scare them off.

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Is it customary where you live for a person to choose his or her own marriage mate? If so, how should you proceed if you find someone of the opposite sex attractive? First, ask yourself, ‘Is marriage really my intention?’ It is cruel to play with another person’s emotions by raising false expectations. (Proverbs 13:12) Then, ask yourself, ‘Am I in a position to get married?’ If the answer to both questions is positive, the steps you take next will vary depending on local custom.

In some lands, after observing for a while, you might approach the person and express a desire to get better acquainted. If the response is negative, do not persist to the point of being objectionable. Remember, the other person also has a right to make a decision in the matter. If, however, the response is positive, you may arrange to spend time together in wholesome activities. This will give you an opportunity to see whether marriage to this person would be wise. What should you look for at this stage? Read more @ www.aboutlifeng..com

“CAN I get to know you better?” Have you ever had a young man ask you that question? As a young woman, you may have felt happy and flattered—even thrilled! On the other hand, you may have also felt so confused that you didn’t know what to say in reply.

When someone expresses romantic interest in you, it can unleash a wide range of emotions. This is especially true if you are old enough to get married and are thus in a position to respond to such attention! Even so, much of how you react will be influenced by who is asking the question. If he is an emotionally mature person and you find yourself attracted to him, your answer may be easy. What, though, if he clearly does not have the qualifications to make a suitable mate? Or what if, in spite of his possessing fine qualities, you are simply not interested in him? read the rest @ www.aboutlifeng..com

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YOU thought of him as a friend. But then he caught your attention in a different way. Perhaps it was his good manners or the way he smiled at you when he spoke that drew you to him. In any event, time passed, and he failed to express any romantic interest. So you decided to ask him if he wanted to go beyond being just friends. To your deep disappointment, he kindly but firmly said no.


Naturally, you are hurt. But do not overreact; try to see things in proper perspective. Yes, a young man has said that he is not interested in a romantic relationship with you. Remember, his decision does not change your worth as a person, nor does it negate the fact that others continue to love and respect you. More @ www.aboutlifeng..com

He is someone you’ve recently met or possibly someone you have known for a while—and you would like him to be more than a friend. You are convinced that he feels the same way and that he is just too scared or shy to say anything. So you wonder if it might be a good idea for you to make the first move. Read the rest @ www.aboutlifeng..com

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Personal Temptation. Who would not enjoy having more money or some additional luxuries? When presented with an opportunity for dishonest financial gain, it can be hard to resist.

● “I award contracts on behalf of my company. Offers of bribes are common. The lure of easy money is a strong one.”—Franz, Middle East.

Pressure to Maximize Profits. In recent years, businesses worldwide have struggled with poor economic conditions. They must also cope with rapidly changing technology and increased regional and global competition. Employees may feel that resorting to dishonesty is the only way to meet performance goals set by owners and managers.

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Pressure From Others. Coworkers or customers may at times suggest, or even demand, that you join them in dishonest schemes.

● “A manager of a major client approached me and said that I would lose his business if I didn’t pay him his ‘share of the business’—essentially, a kickback.”—Johan, South Africa.

Culture. In some cultures, it is customary for business transactions to be accompanied by an exchange of gifts. Depending on the size and circumstances of the gift, the boundaries of honest business practices can easily become blurred. In many lands, corrupt officials demand money before performing their duties and willingly accept payment in exchange for special treatment.

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Environment. Those who live in severe poverty or in countries where there has been a breakdown in civil order face the greatest pressure of all. In such environments, those who are unwilling to cheat or steal may be viewed as poor providers for their families.

● “Dishonesty is considered normal, necessary, and acceptable as long as you’re not caught.”—Tomasi, Congo Kinshasa.

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He knows I’m popular because I’ve told him that other boys like me. He laughed when I told him how silly some of my friends are. And he knows I’m smart—I’ve corrected him on a few things he said. I wonder how long it will be before he asks me out.

She looks attractive, but she seems so shallow! I’ve hardly had a chance to say anything. And when I do speak up, she corrects me! I wonder where the nearest exit is.

DO YOU worry that boys are not attracted to you? Many girls do, even the ones you think would have no problems! Take Joanne, for example. She’s good-looking, intelligent, and articulate. Yet, she says: “I often feel that boys don’t like me. A few that I liked showed an interest in me for a while but later stopped talking to me completely!”

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