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HELPLESSNESS: THE EXCITING JOURNEY TO COME



Have you ever thought about these below of yourself or someone else?



"Why didn't they just tell someone?"
"Why didn't they just try to get help?"
"Why didn't they just leave?"
"Why are they still keeping up with that harmful behaviour/friends?"
"Why is it difficult for them to make attempt to stop looking foolish?"



What were your reactions then & perhaps now?



Hold that as we proceed to understand more.



There were some dogs staring at two gentlemen in a room.



At the corner, close to the wall with a socket, was a box with two chambers that were divided by a low barrier.



Chamber A had an electrified floor ( Imagine a "naked" wire. Then, visualize the whole floor filled with such wires). Open your eyes. Just wait!



Chamber B was not electrified.



Now, some of these dogs were placed in chamber A,



And these two gentlemen turned on the electrified floor. They observed a strange response.



The dogs in the first chamber did not make any attempt to jump over the barrier to the other side. After experiencing those shocks.



Even when there was a barrier (means of escape).



Before that, those dogs (chamber A) were placed in a chamber with no means of escape.



However, the dogs in chamber B received no such treatment. Their floors were not electrified.



Pause here.



This experiment was actually carried out by Martin Seligman & his friend Steven Maier in late 1960s and early 1970s.



It was used to explain the theory of "Learned Helplessness."



Hear this,



What everyone else sees is LACK OF EFFORT.



Not making the required effort to be free. Not putting enough effort in taking the needed steps.



Thus compounding the beliefs these set of individuals have already that THEY ARE DEFICIENT.



Yet what people neglect & fail to realize was the period where those dogs were placed in an electrified room with NO MEANS OF ESCAPE.



This means that as the electrified floor was turned on & those dogs in chamber A tried to escape, they couldn't.



There was no low barrier to jump across. Nothing to reduce or eliminate the shock.



The shock kept coming again & again, still no way to be free.



In essence, Ikenna was always doing his best but it counted for nothing. No praise or acknowledgement for it.



Bode kept trying to do what other kids were doing to be loved, but it seems his own case was different. He was not qualified for it.



That Sandra was once the lady whose charming smile melted hearts until couple of experiences taught her to lock it up. Be stiff, it says.



No one recognises THEIR STORY, which has formed their identity thus far.



Which is far more important than any effort they might be manipulated to make them change.



If you are Bode, Ikenna, Sandra or someone in that situation, know this,



YOU ARE ENOUGH.



Yes! Even with that pathetic story.



As it does not make you ABNORMAL.



You are on an exciting journey.



YOU ARE ENOUGH.



People hire me to help their child or youth between the age of 18-29 who feels meaningless find life exciting and fun again (having experienced same).


Share your experience below.



Be shameless in order to be free.
S.F

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This is a free class in which,

You would learn the ultimate tool to consistent credit alert even if returns has been little or nothing.

A free training that helps position you for influence, impact and income (more important).

Who's this training for

√ Marketers
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or the other if the first is filled up

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This is a free class in which,

You would learn the ultimate tool to consistent credit alert even if returns has been little or nothing.

A free training that helps position you for influence, impact and income (more important).

Who's this training for

√ Marketers
√ Business owners
√ Authors
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After which the door shuts.

It holds on the 31st of July.

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or the other if the first is filled up

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THE REAL QUESTION INSTAGRAM IS ASKING YOU.

"There have been such gems amongst us, who changed the course of the world, because they could look at the world differently. Their thinking was unique & not everyone understood them. They were opposed, yet they emerged winners & the world was amazed."


This little boy of 8 years was sitting at the right hand corner of the class when he was given a mathematical problem to solve,


The more he stared at the question, the more he saw it moving backwards.


Haba! What was happening.


He was really confused. Then he would take a peek at what others were doing & seeing how concentrated they were, he returned to the sheet of paper before him.


Already stressed and not wanting to struggle any further, he stared at the window glass that reveals passerby moving from one place to the other.


He was more at peace right there than solving the mathematical problem in front of him that made his teacher call him names likened here to be,


"You are an empty head."

"Oh common, why are you this useless?"

"Why can't you be like others. You are a waste of resources."


Every single teacher in his first school humiliated him.


He was really a pathetic case unlike his elder brother.


That one was an academic genius and excelled again &again in that same school.


What could be the issue was on everyone's lips as they blamed his non-concerned attitude on bad behaviour, laziness & lack of discipline.


Then comes his father who was more frustrated with his ability to keep up in class, even in the SIMPLEST of tasks.


The young lad felt so isolated from even his family he thought would stand fully by him. It was clearly visible when he drew an image of his family together and flipping through slowly, you could see how each member of the family were gradually moving out of the picture.


But when the Father saw how close he was to loosing his son, he broke down and wept. Like a little child, his dad cried.


But when they saw how marvellously he drew at the school arts festival, they were stunned.


It was like not expecting water to be squeezed out of a stone.


Such a talent, everyone exclaimed.


His name was Ishaan Aswasthi. Adapted from the movie, "Like stars on earth."


Recently, Instagram hid the number of likes in a post,


Such that you could only see the number of likes in your own post but not that of others.


According to Facebook Australia & New Zealand director of public policy Mia Garlick in a statement, she says,


"We hope this test will remove the pressure of how many likes a post will receive, so you can focus on sharing the things you love."


What people are not realizing is that this is a call for SELF REFLECTION.


And the big question they are posing is,


"What is really true about you?"


For social media has made us equate LIKES to mean that we are providing VALUE whilst if there are no likes, then it is 'garbage.'


No wonder so many pretend to do things they don't want to do because it would garner the kind of applause they need.


They would rather get the outside shiny and rosy, meanwhile on the inside, they are pale & fading away.


Do you behave in a certain way or love a particular post because it resonates with you or,


That is what others are doing.


Sometimes what a person can offer to the world is not mainstream or one of those core interests area.


For now, we would be able to see on Instagram, out of the box thinking and spur of the moment, original ideas. Unedited photos.


Without comparison, who are you really?


Just maybe that is what you need to focus on.


Your mental health is important.


Ask yourself that question again.


People hire me to help their child or youths beteeen age 19-29 who feel meaningless find life exciting and fun again.


Remember, you need to be shameless in order to be free.
S.F

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Can you look at the sun right now especially if you have a baby between 1-6 months old.

How is your life like the sun?

I know you are tempted to say hot...unbearable....frustrating...looks far away ( like how does this look like me- the former me)

This is because a whole lot has changed since you gave birth.

Just like you can fully observe the difference between night and day.

It is so glaring that even the blind can detect easily and with speed.

I compile vital information that would help you enjoy this wonderful period of your life from experience. It is free.

Read. Share. And let me know the experience you have afterwards.

Let me hint you on one of those secrets in it.

"No one can tell exactly what your baby needs per time. Not even me or the specialist."

Want more? The resource below is free.

Good morning family... I would be posting a free resource that we can use to enable us sleep at night plus enjoy our time with our babies.

Anyone interested?

Do you know that today is World health day?

I would come back to that.

Can you think of anyone that you hold to be successful?

For you, it is either you are like them or you consider yourself not living life at all.

It does not matter what aspect of life that they are successful.

Either in business,

Relationship. Spiritual matters. Career. Or even social activities.

Such that EVERYTHING about that individual sparkles before you,

And you are quite certain that once you become that person (male or female),

You've made it in life.

Gotten any yet?

Can you also picture that person in front of you right now?

With that colour of the hair you adore or the lovely dress you love seeing them on,

Doing that which made you promise that you must be like this individual,

If it is to be counted that you lived a meaningful life.

Yes! It is that serious.

But you know RIGHT NOW that that might only be a dream.

For they either live on the mountains that you think you can not climb up to,

Or,

There are things they would not share that is making it difficult for you to be like them.

Your dream image. Dream life. Dream future.

You've concluded that it is not possible after trying many times,

So you've decided to....

STOP!

There was this guy on Facebook I admired intensely because he represented how I wanted to live SPIRITUALLY,

Every time I spent most of my time reading & looking out for his post so as to know what he knows & do what he does.

It got to that point when I had just 1% battery level & was expecting an important call that time.

I knew checking up on his post would drain my battery & eventually would miss out on the call.

Yet I did. Just to show how much I wanted to change. To become.

Until one day,

He was vulnerable about what I thought he was super & untouchable,

Just as Britney Spears checked into a mental institution recently by herself.

Did I hate him & turn away?

Nope! Rather I came to love him more but understood IMPORTANT truth I am sharing today about the successful.

I have seen this not only in him,

Also in others who are truly successful.

Not those who pretend or fake it oh.

What are those:

�You won't know they grew through MISTAKES

�You won't know they also have STRUGGLES

�You won't know there are NUMEROUS things they have no knowledge of.

�You won't know they have also made WRONG choices.

�You won't know they do experience FEAR

�You won't know that in between their successes, they DOUBTED.

�You won't know that they also passed through that PROCESS it appears you are in now.

However,

This was what I observed helped them all through,

They FOCUSED more on GROWTH than perfection.

They knew all those above were part of the growing phase.

What has this made you realize?

That as a person, rather than being TOO hard, give yourself that permission to experience all those above.

Whilst focusing on YOUR GROWTH.

Are you growing?

Even if it is little, it matters.

Today is world health day.

When you take care of your mental state,

You would find out that there might not be need to take drugs or remain in that crushed state.

Oh! Mango is out too.

Eat fruits. Get one for me. Keep growing.

Let me end with this quote by Britney Spears,

"Fall in love with taking care of yourself, mind, body, spirit."

Remain shameless in order to be free.