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obinna58:
First, don't be angry at your woman. Hide it by all means.
Second, worship her and treat her like a queen
Third, explain things clearly to her

When she sees your working hard to make her happy, she'll improve. We men are losers when a woman is involved.

I respect your words ,God bless you

buikem2:
Your brain needs to be divorced from your body. They aren't compatible.

Just come online and be shouting divorce on another person's marriage

Na small pikin dey worry am

nedu666:
You are at fault for following reasons

1. Why apologise when you did nothing wrong.
2. You need to realise that you are the man of the house and you did her a favour by marrying her not the other way round
3. Threaten your wife that if she fails to stop her disgusting behaviour then its time to reassess the marriage

Lastly there is this saying among arabs " when the man ceases to be the man in a marriage and the woman ceases to be the woman in a marriage then that marriage is in trouble

Your words are too harsh for this matter , look this is marriage for better for worst OK

Jaapu:
You be better woman.

Very nice woman with matured words

Oga you should just find a way to live with her.
Personally I don't even see this as a problem.
If not you will always be irritated
Just overlook it

There is no human being without there own flaws. None[/quote]. I love your comments, you're a matured person, kudos

[quote author=decatalyst post=92696945]I hate to hear the statement "I am still the one to apologize" It sucks to hear this!


You make it seem like you are a simp! You are supposed to offer direction in your home. Tell her what she needs to hear to get the desired result. You don't have to shout on the woman please. What if you tell her and she didn't obey ? What will you do? To tell her is not the problem but the problem is did she hear and obey

[quote author=emkz post=92706181]So basically, you want us to teach you how to stamp your authority as a man look man no authority to stand as a man here please

Shed2013:
I understand exactly what you're saying here because I'm in the same situation but I tell you the truth I bear it without sharing the stories with third party because of the vow I do . calm down oh , love cover all this for me I bear all , exactly what you write here I'm passing through for to past 4 years in marriage, I bath our daughter of 4 years do domestic works I don't even mind the so called wife , wife don't even appreciated it not all

she's your wife for better for worst so take all those annoying things she do as part of the vow I do , treat her right , do your best , don't complained further, to avoid stories that touch

I understand exactly what you're saying here because I'm in the same situation but I tell you the truth I bear it without sharing the stories with third party because of the vow I do . calm down oh , love cover all this for me I bear all , exactly what you write here I'm passing through for to past 4 years in marriage, I bath our daughter of 4 years do domestic works I don't even mind the so called wife , wife don't even appreciated it not all

manos:
Note: it's a bit long... I could have summarized but I want those contributing to get a crystal clear picture of the situation, so that they can give better and specific advice.

The major problem here is that she mixes up things to be done in the kitchen with things done only in the toilet.

I have been married to my wife for over a year now (no kids yet) and there are certain unhygienic habits she has been displaying, since we started living together. I have been seeking ways to help her improve on it, but a calm correction from me always leads to a bitter argument between us. (She claims I complain too much whenever I point it out)

For example, she always clears her throat early in the morning and spits in the kitchen sink. (despite the fact that we have 2 toilets with wash hand basins; one in the room and also a guest toilet, with a wash-hand basin which is basically 3 steps from the kitchen). Then she goes to the bathroom, gets her toothbrush and comes back to the kitchen to brush her teeth, while doing several things with toothpaste and saliva drooling from her mouth all through.

The other day, she prepared breakfast (spaghetti) for both of us with the drooling toothpaste mouth and i refused to eat from it. I didn't complain to her either, until she asked why I didn't take my portion of the spaghetti from the pot, later that evening. I mentioned to her that, as always I find it disgusting to eat spaghetti, seasoned with toothpaste drool and saliva. The response I got from her was a hiss and then she said that, next time I should inform her if I am not going to eat the food she cooked so that she would not cook for me."

I let that slide but I felt she missed the point. The next day was her birthday and I decided to prepare breakfast for her.
While I was in the kitchen cooking, she came in with the same drooling toothpaste mouth to take a kitchen Scissors in order to cut something on her pants, even though we have another scissors in the room for such purposes. In the process of trying to pick the scissors, her hands which were covered with toothpaste drool had to cross the pot which I was cooking with. I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with that and she just hissed as usual, still picked the Scissors and left the kitchen while angrily saying that I am just a complainer. I lost it at this point and proceeded to give her a lecture in anger about basic hygiene and why I can not keep quiet over these things because we live in a shared space and how her actions have a direct effect on me. It ended in a shouting match till she kept quiet, without accepting she was wrong.

This is the pattern almost everything takes when I try to correct her. The worst part is that I would still have to be the one to apologize for shouting at her because if I don't, I might be subjected to a week long silent treatment which I dread.

There are other more unhygienic things that are done by her, which I might not be able to post here due to the fact that I am not completely anonymous and she is still my wife but I hope this information is enough for someone to understand my frustration and profer a solution.

God will save us

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