Hello Dear Fellow Nairalanders,

Please i need wise and matured opinion on a particular issue that has stolen my joy and peace of mind for some couple of months now.
I welcome only reasonable and constructive comments alone as this particular issue has drained me emotionally for long.
I am 31 years old and my partner is 35 years old we are married legally with 3kids,Am ibo and my husband is from osun state.We both loved each other greatly when the relationship started that we did not mind our place of origin.We currently reside in the US,We both share the responsibilities of the home here which is quiet normal.Trouble started when he suggested for us to run a joint account.i rejected at first knowing his spending habits but at the end i suggested that we could have a joint account put a certain amount then run a separate personal account.It dint go down well with him and he started fighting me over that ,He has called his parents over 4 times to report me that i am not contributing to his success.This is a man that i dont even make financial demands from rather i spend and manage my monthly income without depending on him.i feed and cloth myself and the 3kids i gave birth to for him.

He is into buying of cars from here in America where we reside,i gave him a some of 1 million naira.Nigerian money to add to his business ,He doesn't acknowledge this or even appreciate all i have done he said it to my face that when the profit comes are we not going to spend together,Am still waiting for the profits to come till date.He said am doing and playing my role as a wife and he keeps quoting Ephesians 5 -22,23 to justify his act of ingratitude.
Now his family sees me as the obstruction to him not sending them money back at home couple with the fact that he has gone to tarnish my image in there presence,I send money to his people and mine whenever i have sufficient funds ,he removes clothes from my body in the presence of his people and comes home to show me love in the house.

I dont love him like i use to do because this is the greatest act of betrayal a man can do to his wife.I am sincerely hanging on because of my kids.How can a man feel comfortable tarnishing the image of his wife in the presence of his people and still want the woman to go through thick and thin with him truthfully.
Is it a crime to make suggestions in a marriage
is it a crime to reject a decision that doesnt go well with you in a relationship

Am so confuse now and very unhappy that my kids can sense it in me,I need only MATURED AND CONSTRUCTIVE COMMENTS,I have been criticized enough on this issue.Thanks and God bless you all