₦airaland Forum

This is in no way okay. I feel so bad for her that she had this traumatising experience. However, I'm curious as to how long she knew this guy. I'm also curious to know how exactly she was "tricked" by this guy. Any lady should know that men that are not family members or family friends or the like should have no opportunity to be alone with her. It is imperative that ladies have this habit ingrained in them to avoid situations like this. I am aware that there are also rare cases in which family members and those legitimately worth trusting could take advantage as well. That's when it becomes the fault of the offender, not the lady in question.
But with that being said, could you tell me how long she knew this guy and if they were family or close enough to be family?

Well, I would not expect nationality to be the very first thing to discuss with an interest. But I know that if I were tell someone I was Nigerian and they decide to stereotype me based on the negative things they have heard about Nigerians, it's a red flag for me. This person is obviously quick to judge and is not giving me the opportunity to prove his perceived stereotype as wrong. The ideal interest will see me as a human first before they see me as a Nigerian.

The need to give an elder something with my right hand/both hands or the need to bow in the presence of an elder. I don't think it's necessary. I'd rather be honored as an elder by being genuinely appreciated in a way that's not commonplace than to be just expect both hands during a hand shake or be bowed to.

@miztapheek: Thanks for making my day. This was just wonderful.