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I am a south african and I like pidgin....I even practice it...its nt a turn off to me. My X taught me

neyostica: Thats a good man, dont let go

If he is a good guy for me why do I feel like I'm in prison.....last month he has an affair with a co-worker and he ddnt apologise he said its bcz of me.....even last year he had affairs and said its bcz I dnt listen and he says its bcz of me he can't stay unhappy he will look fr happiness....bt then he says he loves me I must change.....

[quote author=dabrake]@sine.com, do you have a low self-esteem, do you have this believe that if you break up with your guy, you won't find another guy(as in is he doing you a favour by 'degrading' himself to date you)? Can I assume your humility = stupidity? Can I also say that your meekness = weakness? . . . I'm just asking 'cause I find it difficult coming to terms that some people are experiencing what I will refer to as 21st-century/modified/upgraded version of slavery. He doesn't love you. There is no iota of his love for you. If I dey lie, make water carry me go.[/quot

I guess I'm afraid of startin a new relationship I just don't wana make a mistake and regret leaving him....the fear I had is that maybe I realy am stubborn bt now hearing even males commenting that he is insecure I can nw decide on what to do.

MRbrownJAY: may i ask:
what does he tell you when you reply to him that he ALSO goes on FB/Twitter/messenger or when you tell him that he also goes out at night or visit his friends?

He says its because I dnt listen that's why he just decides to not care at all....and sometimes he tells me that I must knw thrs a difference btwn men and women

Thank you gyz......my eyes are open now....I just want to be free cz I'm tired of this prison....stil love him bt i am nt willing to live mylife like this.....ill talk to him for the last time

[quote author=sine.com]how do i get him to loosen up bcz he is very sure that he is rite[/quote]

slimyem: nothing about you sounds stubborn here.
Instead your boyfriend sounds manipulative and you sound weak!
He is neither your father nor husband and you are supposed to be able to make your own decisions not live by ur boyfriend's standards!
Get him to loosen his grip,respect and trust your space,decisions and opinions!
Simple!

how do i get him to loosen up bcz he is very sure that he is write

i just wanted to make sure if im not the bad girlfriend.........i want him to stop all this but i dont know how to because he wont listen. how do i make him change his way of viewing things.

my boyfriend say i dnt listen, he tells me to change things about myself. he tells me to stop social networks like facebook,twitter and so on.....he doesnt want instant messengers, he doesnt like it when i go out at night, he wants to decide for me on ehat i should do, he says im stubborn. he wants me to stay at home he doesnt want me to visit the friends i have.........but he has many friends, he goes out with them, he is using facebook and so on and even instant messaging. i feel like im in prison and im in it alone bcz he is doing the opposite of what he doesnt want, help!!!!am i stubborn?