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I was once the most judgmental kid that ever lived on the surface of the earth. If things weren’t done my way or how I have known it to be, I had term it as being wrong or utter nonsense. I grew up in the Western part of Nigeria and saw Yoruba females kneeling down to greet their elders and I thought to myself that these ladies must either be seeking a favor or are just plainly doing “eye service”. The whole scenario of kneeling down just amuses me till date.
I have once labeled any lady with double ear holes and who smokes as a wayward and undisciplined person. I also referred guys with dreadlocks and tattoos as being uncultured and gangsters. I was very opinionated about how things should be. Nothing could change the “HYPOCRITICAL AND JUDGMENTAL ME”.
But then, growing older made me change my perceptions of so many things. I learnt the hard way on how to be receptive to people’s opinions, culture and way of thinking. I am still learning that. I have also grown to appreciate the Yoruba culture. I try as much as possible to respect people’s decisions and cultures even when I strongly have my reservations.
However, the issue of “being gay” is a fact I have not just come to terms with and I may never ever do. I still wonder how two grown men will come together and decide to live as a couple and have children too. How does “bone and bone” flow though? All the brouhaha and the heated debates that have arisen due to the “legalization of homosexuals” still baffles me.
I may never get to understand why two adults will make such a decision but I just wish the whole idea of being gay was a decision left unimagined and never heard of. I just have mixed feelings when I see a really cute Hollywood star coming out to declare that he is gay. If I am permitted, that’s just an under-utilization of human resources.
I don’t have to disapprove or approve of a homosexual because I am straight. I will keep working at respecting your sexual orientation but then I still will never get to understand why and may never come to terms with your decision. After all, it’s not like they are killing and abducting people like the Boko Haram or they are embezzling money like our politicians. Anyways who am I to judge, we are all sinners. Let God be the judge over each and every one of us.