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Mikester:
Cause I intend to know if the application of what you shared is serving you well or not; and if you`re to be sincere, you shouldn`t feel too uncomfortable sharing your life experiences here as one who intends to drive home a message...

Lol...I find your vigor about knowing the finer details of my life amusing. "The application" of what I have shared was endorsed and culled from real-life experiences of those with more experiences than you or I. This is an expression of what I have learned.

Mikester:
How are you coping in your relationship? Are things going cool?

Why is this important to you, Mikester?

Iyaebe:
I enjoyed this writeup and its so spot on.Masculine men are going into extinction, so sad.Men no longer want to be in charge, they want women to take up their roles,they are loosing their masculinity to women which is the major reason we no longer have a solid marriage that can stand the tests of times.

Thank you for reading
You are right on the account of how effeminate men are on the increase. There are so many consequences to this. The marriage and family structure in our society has become weak. Our own emotional healing is important so that we can help our children thread the right path if or when we eventually have them so that they may become a beacon of truth in an otherwise collapsing societal structure.

Mikester:
Softabby,

You forgot to add that true respect and peace of mind are the highest craving of a masculine man amongst others.

We men don`t really value relationships itself. Most of us in it just subconciously pretend to be cool with it due to the benefits we derive from it pending the time we intend to settle down.

We really hate the drama and burden ladies impose on us and our continued association with any lady depends on the level of her respect and value for us and nothing else surpasses this.

But why are we discussing this? Do you ladies ever heed true advice?

Mikester,

You are right. I absolutely agree that true respect and peace of mind are key to a fulfilling relationship for a masculine man. My post encourages feminine women to; 1) understand a masculine man's headspace when it comes to the fine balance between his purpose/work and his intimate relationships, 2)allow him to recharge his masculinity with the boys and hobbies, 3) without feeling rejected, allow him to retreat into his figurative or literal man cave when life becomes a burden, 4) trust and support his mission. It is important to note that it takes a woman who truly respects her man and values his peace of mind to understand and utilize the advise in this post. The write up is not for every woman.

Hello Lovely,

This is for you if you are a feminine woman who deeply desires a romantic, passion-filled relationship with a masculine man. Many ladies want a passionate relationship with a man who is confident, goal-oriented and achieving, independent and balanced, in essence, a man who can be referred to as a king of his domain. While there is nothing wrong in desiring these traits in a partner, these are a few of the deep truths a feminine woman must know to check her readiness for maintaining love and passion in such a relationship.

1. He is moved primarily by his overall direction in life.
A feminine woman is moved primarily by the flow of love in her relationships while the masculine man is primarily concerned with his goal and mission in life. This may look like a woman who seems highly concerned with the hotness or coldness of her relationship while marvelling at how her man can completely focus on work and seemingly ignore her. This is not to say he isn't concerned about the relationship, in fact, he may think about her more than anyone else. However, he is occupied with his direction and mission which includes the relationship but also many other aspects of life. He does whatever it takes to reach a goal without being moved from its tracks. Allow him to work out his clarity and direction. Give him the space to 'really work while he is working'. This will give him a sense of completeness inside that will allow him to be truly present with you when he is not working.


2. Let him be with the boys.
Many ladies are not aware that allowing their men to be with the boys and especially encouraging their masculine hobbies is one of the secrets of a loving and deeply passionate relationship. Having your man hang out with the boys or inspiring him to cultivate his hobbies develops the passion between you two because when men keep the company of other masculine men or hobbies, they become more masculine and more attractive in their intimate relationships. For instance, after making a killing on the stock market or on the football field, a man is all charged up, full of his masculine power and very ready to share it with his woman. Ladies, be careful of ruining this moment by being passive-aggressive because he did not spend all that time with you. Now he is charged up in his masculine essence, welcome his attentions with open arms and shower him in your beautiful feminine essence and love.

3. When he withdraws from you.
When a masculine man feels burnt out, tired and weary, his first desire is for release. He wants to get out from this burden of life or place. He wants freedom. He wants out. Some men find this release by drinking alcohol, watching TV, meditation, sleep. In his intimate relationship, this tendency "to want out" may be misunderstood by his woman. She may immediately feel rejected and assume that he doesn't love her. In many cases, this is not true. He just feels trapped by the constraints of life and so he is reacting to the feelings of being burdened by wanting out. He wants release but not necessarily an end to his intimate relationship. As a feminine woman, you may feel the need to press harder on his feelings to know if he still cares for you. Doing this may be disastrous because he may feel your prodding as insensitivity to what he is going through and another burden. It is more effective to do the opposite by taking this time to refill your own cup. Indulge in self-care, spend time with family and friends, watch some movies and enjoy the company of yourself and others. He is bound to reach out because he misses you so much.


4. The best gift you can give to your masculine man.
Women are nurturers by nature and so, we give to show our love. However, it is important to know what gift to give to deeply touch the receiver and what your masculine man may deeply appreciate as a gift may surprise you. For many masculine men, your trust and support of his mission and purpose is among the greatest gifts you can give him. Think of ways you can breathe life and love into his focused and goal-oriented life. This may not even cost a single naira. One example of how you can serve his mission is preparing him a snack and a glass of water so that he does not have to break concentration while working. Patiently listening to him without interruption is another wonderful way a feminine woman can gift her masculine man. Your feminine gift of love will turn on his masculine sense of purpose. He will feel immense gratitude and appreciation for your care and the gift of energy.

While there are more practices involved to keep deep emotional fulfilment and passion alive between a feminine woman and her masculine man, the four discussed here will be of immense benefit to the intimate relationship of a deeply feminine woman and a masculine man.



Love,
Abisola.[i][/i]