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Amanee:
You're a funny guy...


I'm female and let me give it to you from my angle, if she really loves you and sees a future with you, she will stay. I had to embolden the latter part because I hope it sticks to your brain.

Ciao

She said she's sticking, riding and down for whatever once I won't disappoint her.

CsRockefeller:
Gosh!!

What's wrong with you? Behaving like an 18 year old.

Who told you that you can't live without her and she's the best thing to happen to you? Negodu the epistle you wrote because of woman.

If u don't have money to marry her, free her na.

You are just being worried about nothing.

The most important issue (your finances) is staring u at the face and you are crying over a lady. See, let me just tell you basic reality, you don't really need a woman to love you, what you need is for her to respect you.

That means when she sees you, she sees someone who can defend her morally, financially, be her guide tru wisdom. Has your ego ever been inflated just by a woman telling you she loves you?

Wake up man.

Bro my ego has never been inflated over such because I've heard it so many freaking times at 1-2-3-4-5 side chicks at the same duration?! been there done that until I realized there isn't much in the game, I'm more of reading between the lines, patterns and actions guy than words. You talk about I dont need a woman to love me rather she should respect me, I understand your line and the thing there is that she loves and respects me so much. All the time we have been dating its only once she disrespected me and honestly I caused it and the situation would have been worse if it were another girl. I agree with you, my financial status is the most important. I've had my fair share of women, I mean you'd be blown away but when you finally see a real one, recognize she's a real one and understand how hard it is to find a real one only then you will understand you can't afford to lose her.

mrpaedo:
OP is clearly suffering from Oneitis
No woman is different from the rest and no woman is special
She will definitely marry one of her wealthier suitors,it will be her decision and there ain't nothing you can do about it
AWALT-yesterday,today and tomorrow

If its about marrying wealthier suitors bro, she would have been gone by now. She declined a wealthy man already because of me and she told me about the man but I called it bluff, it was some weeks ago that a friend to a friend of mine who happens to be a cousin to the suitor she declined got to meet her and told my friend about what transpired that how long have we been dating and checked with the time the suitor came for and was asking him who I am for the girl to shun her cousin and warn him to stop pestering her through her family that she's not interested and has someone she is in love with. I know it will sound alien to you that not all naija girls trips over money bags or lose their home training when a man makes it rain on them. Some value love over that bro.

Chubhie:
Using your case as a way of example. Tell us how your girl is manipulating this.

Is your case just a glitch in ubunja teachings?

That's what I'm trying to say, she's not manipulating me about this situation. I know women find ways to make the one that loves them to do their bidding and stuff. When she mentioned about the first suitor I called her bluff and more.

Chubhie:
It stopped being a private affair the moment you lunched a ferocious champaign to project your fears and weakness into the young minds.

Most of the things ubunja shares are facts, I won't deny that. It might be seen as fears by some but he's just raising some subliminal ways and so much manipulations that most females run on guys. All females use manipulation st certain points but the intentions behind the games determines if one let's it slide or not. it might be seen as fear, weakness and other negative stuff but on the other hand its very important that all guys knows and understands what ubunja is talking about so the wounldnt be a victim by bad females with bad intentions.

ubunja:
lmfao. once a man says all that "I can't live without her" "she's from God", "She's a queen" I just roll my eyes and know its pure infatuation and obsession. True Love is very calculated and very realistic.

Boss I respect your views and knowledge so much, I admire you a lot and have read almost all your stuff and honestly you know so much and I pick a lot from your knowledge. I know it sounds silly and stuff but what I mean is that she's a very good person, reliable (though women can't be trusted) but I can vouch for her due to the tests, trials and more she has passed successfully. Honestly I would love to hear your opinion on this. Thanks for your threads BTW, they widened my perceptions about females and their games.

I must confess your knowledge and for you to take your time and share it to guys is amazing, you're a gift to men bro.
To clarify things bro this is not infatuation nor obsession, this is love in its purest form, realistic too. Your thread helped me to sieve them when I was messing around, I've messed around and was messing around until I realized she was/is a real one. She

Chubhie:
Test of true love. Only a woman knows the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with. Encourage her to make her best possible decision. Never attempt to tip this delicate scale to your favour.

Be confident and own the shit you are presently. You are in the sewer already.

She either ride with you in this sewer or follow the guaranteed good life been offered. Do not judge her based on whatever option she settles with.

Take heart in advance.

She said she's willing to wait for me but she's scared that I might drop her that all she needs is for me to promise her I won't disappoint her that she's willing to ride with me through whatever comes and bro honestly she has been my ride or die chick. All my friends that knows her tells me never to lose that girl that they haven't seen a girl with such character. Not just one but like 7 guys have said this and its from after they must have spent time with us or talked with her during all these time we have been dating. Three said she's the one that if I lose her that I will regret it because they haven't seen such a lady and they thought she's pretending to be a good girl and all that most girls do but when they got to know her they realized its her character and she really loves me. Wella, she's been through a lot with me, good, bad, ugly, rain, sun and all. She stood by me.

Acidosis:
Wtf is this bro?




Stop disturbing yourself please. None of the three will marry her. In this age and time, strange men do not come for a girl's hand in marriage. We are not in 16th century.

In the current dispensation, men ask for a relationship first before courtship and marriage.

If 3 men are discussing and demanding marriage from your woman, it simply means your woman is dating all three men.

I hope you won't kill yourself on top this matter.

not same time, she decline one last year I didn't believe the first until the last three guys. They were four total and the last three she has declined one already remaining two and she told me when these situations came up. The one on her trail is one that her school proprietor's husband's brother, the woman recommended her to the man. she told me all these asking for my response.

GogetterMD:
Then with all the epistle that you've said above, she isn't going anywhere, at least for now. But quit worrying about if another man would have her or not and go hustle for yourself to make it, or else eventually someone else would have her.

Are you guys intimate?

Yes we are

GogetterMD:
How old is she? That might give us an idea of how much time before the pressure starts to get to her

She's 26

Apologies for the typos and stuff, I've been dating this girl for a year and some months now and she is literally everything I want and need in a woman. she is a queen, she understands me, cares about me, and I love her so much that I can literally do anything for her, I'm typing this with a heavy heart. last Sunday she graduated from a catering school, her father died when she was little, her mom and two brothers and her have had rough years. She also have had it rough to with life but she is so kind, name any good quality in s woman she has it, she is perfect. I've dated some girls but this one is God sent, an angel.

The problem now is like three men are seriously coming for her hand in marriage. She's been crying and telling me about it and what am I saying? at the moment I dont have money to marry her but I know that this is the one for me, everything flows together with us. we understand each other perfectly, honestly tears keeps dropping from my eyes each time the thought of losing her comes to mind. Some say Nigerian girls are this and that and knows nothing about true love but brothers I swear with my life true love exists.
I'm a graduate, I also knows my way around techs, blogs, fixing computers, laptops, designing building plan and whatnot, I used to be a DJ and music producer while in school. I studied building technology and can design and build too but one has to get his stripes before anyone can give you millions to build for him/her, I haven't gotten a contract of mine but rather work with someone or under someone but the construction business is not a steady one, I'm also into stainless rails, wrought iron rails and gate procurement and installations. I saved up some money since I graduated and since we started dating I've been taking care if her in anyway I can, she doesn't ask me for stuff two times and same with her.
I was saving up to start up another business by the side, something that yields income everyday like transportation, maybe buy a Camry so that I can be rendering uber and taxify services to folks or the minibus but this 2019 lots of problems especially my father's health cost me so much money, I almost lost my father last month thanks to hospital tests, surgery and meds we were able to keep him alive and he's currently on STC30 (he also had partial stroke)which 15 satchets of it costs about 25k.

Honestly she's the best, she will look at me and know if in worried or anything is wrong with me even when i try to pretend by laughing or making jokes so she wouldnt be worried about me but she will look into my eyes and ask me what is wrong and( she just called me right now while I'm typing this) whenever shes feeling bad or facing any issues I can feel it and I'll call her or whenever I want to pick my phone and call her or missing her so much and about to call her as I'm reaching for my phone to call her my phone will start ringing and its her number calling and her character is the best any woman can posses. I'll do anything to make her happy and she does too, the say no one is perfect but honestly she is.

On her graduation day I didn't have much money on me and when they're show casing their works the students are being appreciated by spraying money on them. I'm broke after the father's surgery, hospital bills and medication. She will do anything to make me happy, that's a little tip of the iceberg and she gives me lots of respect and I reciprocate because she my everything. She's been there when I had some money and took care of her and showed her how much I love her, she's been there when I was broke AF and supported in her own ways until I recouped and she has only disrespected me once and apologized so much for it and I also played a part in the disrespect somehow. Yes we've had misunderstanding few times and least we could stay off and ignore each other was a day and few hours, its easy for us to forgive each other and forget everything and move on, learn from our mistake and it never repeats again.

Meeehn I know its messed up for a guy to cry, I'm not crying but I can't just stop these freaking tears from rolling down my eyes, honestly true love really exists, there are very good girls out there. Her people are on her case, pushing her to marry one of the men that are coming for her hand and the pressure is too much on her, when she visits me she cries while telling me everything and nothing hurts me more than anything like to see her sad let alone crying. Brothers make una try your best and pray your plans work out so you won't have to be in situations like this or have family problems and dont have money to take care of it. Sometimes we make plans but unforseen circumstances can mess things up like crazy. She told me she doesn't want none of the suitors and only wants me and I want her too.

she's hard working, down to earth and everything and right now I know it sounds stupidd that I'm thinking of promising her marriage but its not about the fear of losing her or something but deep down inside me I've always known that she's the one and I want to marry her. Making babies can be done later when I must setup financial security and stuff, I'm also thinking of both of us travelling in the future because honestly I dont want to raise my kids in naija. I know it seems like a lot but I'm committed and focused to working towards this by utilization of time, opportunity and every skills I have. I'm trying to reach out to anyone for jobs and stuff because finance plays a major role.

NB: I know some guys must have been in my situation I want to know how they handled it, what they think and which way is best to handle the situation. please you can drop your advice and insight on this. Those whose been there and done that, what did they wish they would have done better? what will they do if the have the power to turn the hands of time?