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You know, that your personal relationship with people be it your friends, family or your spouse to some extent affect how far you can go in life, especially the kind of relationship with your spouse. So, if you are always receiving support from these people you love, it boost your confidence, balances your psychology and gives you a calm but positive mental attitude. This positive mental attitude of calmness and confidence helps to give you the belief that there is a power greater you that can make you achieve anything.
In the words of John Maxwell, “relationships help make us to define who we are and what we can become. Also, most of us can trace our success in life to pivotal relationship”. Thus, the kind of relationship you are into can either make you or destroy you. The choice of relationship you go into is yours.
Now, my question is, what kind of relationship are you into right now? Does it promote you and your values/beliefs or does it demote them? Does it make you feel like you have arrived in life or does it makes you think of when you will actually start up your life? I can go on and on, but the essence of these questions is to help you assess your love life. Furthermore, questions like, how far will I go in life if I continue in this relationship? Should paint a clearer picture of what your relationship is like or what exactly do I want from it and I’m I getting them?
After you have answered these questions, here are the few simple steps you can use to assess your relationship.

* Take a pen and a clean sheet of paper, write down the things you value most and believe in,
* Put down your goals and dreams that you want to achieve. Here you can also break them down into long term and short term goals and give specific periods of time you want to achieve these goals and dreams.
* Pick another clean sheet of paper, write down the things you have achieved so far in your relationship. Here, you must be very sincere with yourself and not allow sentiment cloud your sense of judgement after all, its your life you are trying to define and not some other person’s own.
* Compare your achievements so far with your goals and dreams then score yourself. If it is below average, then you’ve got a problem that needs to be fixed. This problem could either be you or your spouse.
* To know where the problem is from, ask yourself this question, what have I really contributed to this relationship? How much time have I committed to the success of this relationship? What have I done to improve my relationship? If you are not satisfied with the answers you get, you know you have not done enough that is expected of you to do to make your relationship better, you can then ask, how can I improve my relationship?

Note: you will be tempted to shift of the all blame to your spouse and pretend to have done everything possible to make it work and that your spouse always end up spoiling things. The fact remains that, until you accept mistakes, you can never make corrections. Accepting your mistakes is the first step to correcting relationship. This piece of information is not to make you feel bad about the mistakes you have made already but to help you correct those mistakes. You must understand that life is a ladder of progression, a sequence or errors and corrections. Sometimes, we don’t get it right on the first trial, so don’t give up because here is an opportunity to get things back to normal.
Next, , I will be sharing with you few tips you can use to make your relationship better that what it is now.
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