Red-Light:

ofcoz it hurt.. When u tried to be honest with sum1 buh no matter how hard u try.. He/she still judged based on the expirience sum of his/her had with your people.. We are to amazing people to be dealing with such.. Abeg free me lemme go enjoy my butthurt

btw are u a nigerian in diaspora or americana?

Black American

Red-Light:

thats the problem with u people ... no matter how open we are ... u still doubt ... me no get time for non sense anymore

Lol you people huh seems like someone's been hurt.

190-the-clown:
^Okay i meant,

what was the question again!


Ok there it is, I meant - Hope your 9th wonder of your world
is really rocking your world, taking you to cloud 9 and leaving you there in awe
you know we NIGERIAN MEN are the best when it comes to hot,spicy,sizzling, un-censored sex
that is why there's a general saying worldwide that once you HIT NIGERIAN you never go back


if you doubt how good we Nigerian men are- Ask the Nigerian girl

You are silly my friend lol

190-the-clown:



ask someone to interpret it for you

I'm asking you lol

190-the-clown:


tell me,
nor lie ooh

that guy nor dey package you well for bed!!
tell me why you nor go love am

Huh? What are you asking?

190-the-clown:
^O gurl as long as you;re dealing with a NIGERIAN MAN

ure in the best safest hands

we NIGERIAN MEN are God's gift to man kind!

the 9th wonder of the world

and we are indeed rear GEMS - if you doubt this - ask our NIGERIAN GIRLS

You may be right lmao he is great.. I'm not going to tell him he's a 9th world wonder though lmao his head is big enough as it is..,

To reiterate, I communicate with my boyfriend. I do not think that Nigerians are con artist. In fact I find it kind of weird that everyone keeps bringing that up when I never said that. Read my initial post. We are getting very serious and I care about him a lot. I know where he lives, I've slept there many times, I know all of his close friends and we have a great relationship. I'm just trying to understand our differences. I don't want to repeatedly ask him and his friends because I don't want to make a big deal about it but it does concern me. If you're not give an honest constructive opinion then simply don't post on the topic. Thanks

Ricky_Ross: If you dont trust this guy pls leave him alone.

1. You do not trust him 100% bc hes a Nigeria, yet you cannot leave him alone bc no white guy will fucckk u the way he does. IF YOU TRUST HIM 100% THERE WONT BE ANY NEED FOR YOU TO COME HERE AND MAKE THIS POST?

2. If he is yet to get his papers most of your friends and family will assume he is using you to get papers. There are just too many dumb assumptions from you people. The best thing is to use and dump your sorry assesss. I repeat, MOST white gals are no good to a blackman, just use and dump at random...

Are you too dumbb to ask why a man had to go to Canada to export cars to Nigeria? I repeat, since you don't trust this guy why not just leave him alone? Did you think by coming to nairaland you would get more confidence or trust? If you are honest and concerned as you claim you should have talked to some of his friends since you said you do travel with them. If you cannot get solid answers from his friends what makes you think you will get it here?

Finally, every man has every right to hide some certain things from a girl friend. I am happily married but not everything I tell my wife. A woman will always be a woman. I don't have to tell my wife every time i pay school fees for some relatives, she may not like it. I don't have to tell my wife how many bank accounts I have. I don't have to tell anyone every time i cough. So yes if this guy is hiding some things from you he has every right, you are not married to him in the first place.

I'm not white I'm a black American. I never said I didn't trust him because he is Nigerian. I wanted to know if Nigerian men were just secretive and if that were the reason it seemed as if he was hiding something from me. He's lived in the US since college and has citizenship so he doesn't need me for a green card lol In fact if he were a con artist he would be a dumb one because he's never tried to use me for anything. He makes way more money than me. We talk everyday and I see him all the time even though we live in two different states. I actually have had a very in depth conversation with his friend about our differences but I think
It's crossing the line to talk about this with his friends. So you are wrong wrong wrong and it looks like you are the one that made all of the wrong assumptions!

@ miss_sixty86 that last comment was actually for mrs. Chima

miss-sweety86:


I'm sorry but there are still differences in terms of cultures. I'm not talking about what he goes for a living, whether it's legal or not. I'm talking about the way he acts, because it seems that she says he stays vague.
I know everybody is different and not all Nigerians have been raised the same way, but I'm sure you can act any mixed couples and they will tell you that culture matters and influences their relationship.

I'm not saying, nor have I ever stated, that I believe that he is doing something illegally simply because he is Nigerian. That would be a stupid assumption to make. I brought up the cultural difference because I believe that maybe that is the issue. I honestly really just want to understand whether or not he is vague because Nigerian men are just vague and not because he is lying. I don't want to offend him by constantly bringing it up if its just the way he communicates.

miss-sweety86:

Have you talked about travelling to Nigeria?

Thanks for the well wishes. We seem to be exactly in the same predicament. He's going to Nigeria next month and he invited me but my work schedule won't really allow it with all of the time ill already have off because of the holidays. We've also discussed things I also read from reading about dating Nigerian men. If I went by what I've read it seems like I'm almost a polar opposite to the type of girl he would marry (I'm light skinned, skinny, dont really cook and I'm pretty "Americanized" as he would say). When I brought it up though, he acted as if I completely made the stuff up out of thin air. He told me that he didn't like that his ex girlfriend acted American but its ok for me because I am American. I didn't really know if I should be offended or not but I just let it go. I do not doubt that whether or not he cares about so I guess I'll just trust him. Thanks

Red-Light:
if u can trust him..one advice leave ...
the same problem i had with a girl i use to date online like that... i travel alot cos of my profession ...but she always doubt me cos am a nigerian... if u feel u cant trust him ..live him and lets hear something else abeg

Are you completely open with her if she ask you questions though? Or are you kind of allusive? I trust him for the most part, I just hope he's not lying to me about this one thing.

miss-sweety86:
You should talk to him about that. Or is he the kind of guys that avoids conversation? Because if you've known him for 2 years you should be able to ask him this kind of questions, especially if you're dating now. Have you met his friends/family?
I'm also dating a Nigerian and I know it's very hard with their reputation and what other people think and tell you.

miss-sweety86:
You should talk to him about that. Or is he the kind of guys that avoids conversation? Because if you've known him for 2 years you should be able to ask him this kind of questions, especially if you're dating now. Have you met his friends/family?
I'm also dating a Nigerian and I know it's very hard with their reputation and what other people think and tell you.

I haven't met any of his immediate family members because they live in Nigeria but I know most of his friends and have traveled with them. Because we live in different states I travel once a month to visit him. I have actually asked him to explain exactly what it is he does and he has no problem telling me, it's just I don't understand how it all works together. For example, he's a consultant but he also exports cars. I don't see why he would need to travel out of the country to say Canada to do that.

Okay, so basically I'm dating a Nigerian man that lives in a different state than I do. I've known him for almost 2 years now but we have only been in a exclusive committed relationship for the past 2 months. I see him pretty much every month and everything is going well. My problem is that I feel like he is keeping something from me about what he does as a profession. He says he's a business consultant but a few things just aren't adding up. He never seems to really work but he tells me he is at the office sometimes. He leaves to go to random countries for "work" but he never elaborates on the details. Whatever it is that he does he makes a lot of money. I guess I want to know if Nigerian men just don't go into much details about what they do or their whereabouts? Or does it seem like he is involved in something illegal? I'm a black American and I have noticed that we have cultural differences in our upbringings, behavior and beliefs but overall I really care about him and I know he cares about me too. It just feel like he is hiding something. What do you guys think?