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Hi to all,

I am new here and am in needed of advise here.

But fist let me explain this story, i will try to make it brief as possible!

We started going out last year in October and in November I realise I am in love with my man. However I didn't dare to tell him till he said it first (It didnt bother me) on new year's eve, he said it to me,  I am in love with you!,  after that I told him and we were together but in a long distance relationship!. Things been good and I just recently moved in with him amonth ago and on my birthday last week this is what he said " you know, I love you,  but i am NOT IN LOVE with you" explaining that his ways, and his trouble first marriage many many years ago. He belie ves when you marry, your in love then. I become stunned and confused. I was upset but stayed strong but still now I cant get it out of my head and wondering why, he in the first place said it. He act so romanctically to me,  kissing, holding hands, been together etc.

I feel like i have to now either push away my inlove feelings and just love him and move on and see what happens? I am so sad and angry inside and feel like a stupid fool. I had two marriages fails and this is the perfect partner (I have even written down the quailtiys in a man and describe it to be him!)

I feel like the world is tumbling down and now I am too scare if we break up only if we do break up,  THERE IS NO OTHER MAN EVER!!

Thanks.