bell1255:
U need to see this as a problem.. And its a problem on your part. First of all, is there something ur not telling us? Does she stink down there. D treatment for that might not even cost her more than N600 drug. If thats not d case and your problem is just poor libido. Try watch porn, Go to strip club etc. Its worth it. Else don't blame her if she cheats..

I don't even perceive a damn thing down there, I use to watch porn before to learn stuffs but now I don't even feel it that much again. I go to strip clubs and have private lap dances just for the fun of it. I get good erection and just enjoy the fun of it because am definitely not going to penetrate anyway. So sir, my case seems complicated right?

mysticwarrior:
Are you sure you are not having any problems with your erection?

My erection is perfectly okay.

greatnaija01:



You are more mature than your age....

You have always been, I perceive you are a deep thinker and you do not make any moves until you can see the whole yard... AND ITS GOOD... INFACT GREAT

But your issue is NOT SPIRITUAL SIR, rather it is PSYCHOLOGICAL... you are not even cheating on her, so its NOT about her... its just that you live on a HIGHER PLANE OF LIFE where SEX is not so much of a priority.


But there again, a woman has needs, I understand the circumstances surrounding your union with her was not what you planned for your life and you may be disappointed or not happy in your core at how things went, BUT you simply need to take HERBAL SUPPLEMENTS THAT BOOST LIBIDO.

yes, once you start taking them, you will get more hormonal changes that are required to satisfy your wife.
Also, I believe you should watch romantic movies and not crime/action/adventure stuff... listen to good songs for couples... so you condition your soul to begin to adjust to this new wonderful life that you have.

its well with you brother. i celebrate you

Okay sir. That's really a nice advice.

maak400:

Wether you feel like having sex or not, perform your duty in the other room. It’s a marital obligation commanded by God.

Thank you sir. Well noted.

ceeceeuwa:

Maybe there is a hormone you are lacking... doctors in the house over to you.

Before I met her, I had three ladies I call friends with benefit at my service anytime. I was so much very active in sex with them. But ever since I have been with my wife, even the urge for those ladies are no longer there.

Sometimes they call me and we hangout and I know they still want sex but then I don't even have sex with them anymore because the urge isn't there anymore. Even when they dress sexy and we meet at hotels were we normally chill then, I end up just chilling at the bar without booking a room like before and before you know, we just have some fun and am gone.

maak400:
By the time she seek satisfaction somewhere don’t complain o. You think her body is firewood abi? Even the Bible advice couples not to deny each other but you’re there denying your wife.

The reason am trying to sort it out before it gets to that level. Sometimes I just feel like I don't care because if I catch her it's just to go our separate ways. But I don't want it to get to that level anyway.

ceeceeuwa:
Apart from her, have you been sexually attracted to any other woman before?

Yes I get sexually attracted to a lot of ladies, but then I don't have the urge to have sex with them when I have the opportunity to.

lilwetdick:
it has nothing to do with spirituality

some men sexually lose interest after their wives gives birth, the changes in a woman body after child birth might have affected you.. you might be experiencing PTSD of the CS your wife went through.

another stuff might be over familiarity or hygiene it reduce interest too.

to digress a little, i am against a man seeing his wife give birth, the stress and trauma it gives on a man can also make some men stop having sex with their wives.

I don't think its about the child birth because if you don't see my wife with a baby, you might hardly know she has given birth. As for the CS I also even preferred the fact that she did the CS instead of the naturally birth because if it were natural, I would have even thought that might be the cause because of the mentality that her vigina might not be like before. But to me I just don't understand because we play a lot, do stuffs together but sex just don't fit in.

madridguy:
Are you sure your number 1 is active

Yes very very active. My number 1 is a very bad guy those days and even if I use it now, its still a machine. But the urge to use it is not just there.

Joel3:
You were not really sexually attracted to her couple with the fact that you are not a sexually active guy if I should say it correctly.

Take some vigra before you sleep. Every 3 days. From there you move it to every week. Next every 2 weeks. By then your mindset and sexuallity will readjust into her and you will be surprise how you want to bang her every other day

I thought vigra is just to having long sex? Satisfying a woman sexually doesn't seem to be my problem. My problem is more like I don't even think of sex or even get moved for sex. Not just even to my wife, I don't even think of it with any other lady as it it now. I have not cheated on my wife because of this. I have had opportunity to cheat just because I wanted to know if its just my wife I don't feel the urge for sex, but same thing with other ladies. The drive is not just there even when I have an erection it just feels I want to just waste my time.

I am someone that is not really a sex freak kind of person. I could be very romantic to the core but when it comes to sex, it could be once in a blue moon.

I met my woman about almost two years ago now, we got really close and though I tried to avoid the sex thing at the beginning because I wasn't sure if I was ready for a long time relationship, we had really romantic moments that eventually led to sex. I guess we had sex just about three times within 3 months and the next thing was that she is pregnant.

She insisted she will keep the pregnancy and I had no choice but to take responsibility, see her family, inform my family and we arranged a small single traditional wedding. During the course of the pregnancy we had sex very few times and there were times she would want sex and I will refuse because I wasn't in the mood, then she starts giving mean emotional tears which I will still ignore.

However, she got use to the fact that am I not keen on sex and decided to deal with it that way until she gave birth to our baby. She actually had to do a CS and she and the baby are doing fine.

Now the problem is that for almost a year now since she gave birth to our baby, we haven't had sex. I just don't know why I am not moved and sometimes I feel really bad and sorry for her because she gets scared to ask me for it knowing that I might refuse. I have tried to put my state of mind in a position that will enable me think of having sex with her but it doesn't work.

Not that is isn't beautiful anymore or she isn't sexy anymore. As a matter of fact I love taking her out because I love when people see her and the baby looking so cute together. We sleep on the same bed everyday and wake up happy. She treats me very well and she is very loyal. She keeps herself busy everyday (except Sundays) with the small restaurant I opened for her just in front of our house. All our neighbors like us a lot because they always see us happy and as a matter of fact no one has ever seen us having any issue before.

We look very happy because I take care of them both as a man not even paying any attention to her own restaurant business and how much she makes and she is just living very fine like we have no issue.

But deep down inside me I know we have a problem and I am the problem because I have denied her sex for almost a year now why we stay inside the same house all these time.

I just don't know if this is a spiritual problem or its just normal that I can try to do something about it.

Please no insults, I am just being sincere and straight forward.

I am someone that is not really a sex freak kind of person. I could be very romantic to the core but when it comes to sex, it could be once in a blue moon.

I met my woman about almost two years ago now, we got really close and though I tried to avoid the sex thing at the beginning because I wasn't sure if I was ready for a long time relationship, we had really romantic moments that eventually led to sex. I guess we had sex just about three times within 3 months and the next thing was that she is pregnant.

She insisted she will keep the pregnancy and I had no choice but to take responsibility, see her family, inform my family and we arranged a small single traditional wedding. During the course of the pregnancy we had sex very few times and there were times she would want sex and I will refuse because I wasn't in the mood, then she starts giving mean emotional tears which I will still ignore.

However, she got use to the fact that am I not keen on sex and decided to deal with it that way until she gave birth to our baby. She actually had to do a CS and she and the baby are doing fine.

Now the problem is that for almost a year now since she gave birth to our baby, we haven't had sex. I just don't know why I am not moved and sometimes I feel really bad and sorry for her because she gets scared to ask me for it knowing that I might refuse. I have tried to put my state of mind in a position that will enable me think of having sex with her but it doesn't work.

Not that is isn't beautiful anymore or she isn't sexy anymore. As a matter of fact I love taking her out because I love when people see her and the baby looking so cute together. We sleep on the same bed everyday and wake up happy. She treats me very well and she is very loyal. She keeps herself busy everyday (except Sundays) with the small restaurant I opened for her just in front of our house. All our neighbors like us a lot because they always see us happy and as a matter of fact no one has ever seen us having any issue before.

We look very happy because I take care of them both as a man not even paying any attention to her own restaurant business and how much she makes and she is just living very fine like we have no issue.

But deep down inside me I know we have a problem and I am the problem because I have denied her sex for almost a year now why we stay inside the same house all these time.

I just don't know if this is a spiritual problem or its just normal that I can try to do something about it.

Please no insults, I am just being sincere and straight forward.