KarmaMod:


I under if this was before the so called "sex", was he still acting this way AFTER what happened.

Before we went 2 Brighton, no, we never really talked about it. I tried 2 talk about it under general terms, but know he would ignore me or change the topic. Instead, he would bring the marriage/kids talk! How I don't know? Mind u, this is someone who is very talkative not shy at all,  Sex was more like a marriage talk-type-of-a-thing 4 him, That's how I saw it,

Tonim:


at your story sweething

I think it is really hard finding a guy that is over 20 and is still a virgin.

He was am telling you,

Treetop20:

Sweetthing
so why are still in contact? is he your back up plan?

We r just friends now, nothing much there. However, he still has hope that I'll change my mind. Not me abegi, once I'm gone then I'm gone,

KarmaMod:

Re read her post. She said she didnt have the patience to teach him.

KM,

I am very patient, annoyingly patient if u'd know me. What made impatient was the fact that he was avoiding the topic completely! When I tried 2 show him how 2 do it, he would tell me not 2 look @ his dee because he was shy and no woman has ever looked @ it b4. I tried both verbal & non-verbal communication and I failed,

Uche2nna:

Did I miss something from Sweething's post? How did the guy go from a virgin to a born again?  


The story is still too cock and bull-ish

Uche,

He was a virgin and a born again christian. I'm telling you the telling of the truth, abe o,

@Dave, Tt & KM,

The main problem was that, we had communication barrier when it comes to sex. Infact, this was one subject he would not talk about or even discuss with his old mates. When am saying his mates, I mean old uni friends from OBU medical school,

KarmaMod:

You met a deep born again in church and seduced him

Were you expecting Indecency moves?

KM,

I never initiated anything with him. He is the one who started kissing me, 5 months after we started dating. See, am not bad,

davidylan:

Man that dude needs some serious training. is he married now?

Dave,

I am stupidly patient at times and I was ready 2 teach/show him what I know but I couldn't. He is a very talky talky person, who ra rararara rants about anything and everything anytime. Come sexual talks, its another story completely! His friends know him well well that, even with them boys talks, when he is around no one talks about sex!!!

No, he is not married and no girlfriend. He is busy with his psychiatry residency @ Harlem Hospital Center, NY. So, he claims 2 b too busy with his training and doesn't have time 4 girls,

Treetop20:

is this story for real?

Tt,

I no joke like dat! I know I like 2 laugh but dit was "siriyas" o,

davidylan:

Only Ekiti men would behave like that.  

But sweetthing, how come you couldnt talk the guy gently out of his comfort zone? you really werent very fair to him. I'm sure every dude goes through that first time of not knowing what to do.

Dave,

We met in church, right. He was a deep deep born again christian and most of the time he was never talked about anything sexual, he felt it was wrong or evilish. Long before we even kissed the first time, I'd bring naughty talks just c how much he knows. He would blush, turn his face away from me, start giggling, play with his hands,change the topic & all that!

Hey Dave, u won't understand u know? I didn't wan't 2 make him feel uncomfortable. I really wanted 2 tell him that he 'missed it' but I couldn't because I was bursting with laughter, yet I was trying hard 2 control myself, Imagine the situation I was in, heh?

Uche2nna:


@ Sweething

U really expect us to believe that?

Seriously?
Did ur bum? I done die!!!!!!

My brother, I'm telling u the honest truth! When I told him that I can't continue with relationship anymore, u know what he did? He called momsie in and asked 4 my hand in marriage! He proposed a week later but I didn't accept it. That is why I still have contact with him 'til 2day,

davidylan:

^^^   Incredible!
Was the dude from Ekiti?

No. He was from Ibadan, Oyo state I think,

I can't really use the word 'detest' 2 describe how  feel about virgin men, My experience with one virgin man like that is something I still cannot describe up to 2day!!

He was 29 and I was 24, handsome and all dat(typical Naija man).  I knew he was a virgin and he knew I wasn't. We dated 4 like 5months b4 we even kissed! The kiss sef was such a disappointment but I ignored it. I thought, its just a kiss & I'll teach him as we go along. The guy was stiff, I always ended up with kiss bites/sores around my mouth, swollen lips & sore tongue. Hehehehehehehehehe, I can't believe I'm even laughing at it now,

After about 8.5 months dating, it was his birthday (turning 30). As part of the surprise gifts, I booked a hotel in Brighton 4 de weekend. It was going 2 b the very 1st time 2 b very close 2 one another. We always visited each other but never slept over. Hehehehehehe, I can't even type 'coz I'm in stitches hey.

First night, one thing led 2 another and I could feel he was turned on. I tried 2 UnCloth him, he didn't allow me 2. He switched off the lights, got under the duvet & undressed himself!He left the t-shirt & the boxers on ! I was still on top of the duvet and I didn't know what was going on.  I got up, switched on the lights, took my clothes off and the next thing he quickly covered himself with the duvet!!! Heh, don't laugh o.
I ran bubble bath and asked him 2 join me. What? He entered the bath tub with his t-shirt and shorts on, haba! He wouldn't even look at me below my chin. He was in the bath 4 like 3mins and he was out!

I took my time in the bath and I could hear he was on talking on his mobile. Went 2 the bedroom, got dressed in my new kinky lingerie. What? He covered himself with the duvet again! I pulled it off, tried 2 tease him & he told me he can't look at me half naked! I didn't know how 2 respond 2 this one or what 2 do next. He switched off the main light & left one bed side lamp on. I could c he was so really uncomfortable + looking embarrassed that I was teasing him. I still don't know why!

I entered the bed & tried 2 touch his dee, he stopped me saying he was embarrassed that I was his dee aroused! I tried 2 get his hands 2 touch my vayj and he did but he asked me if it was painful? Imagine his fingures were not even inside my vayj but he kept apologising 4 'hurting' me!!! I wanted 2 laugh but I couldn't,

Next, he said something like, "My dee is too hard & I am going 2 enter the 'cave' now". I didn't understand what he was trying 2 say/do initially. Next he gave me condom 2 put 2 his dee, but he asked not 2 look at his dee! Chei, am I with a 16yr old now? I couldn't answer myself. Next, he said something like, "My dee has condom so I am going inside yo 'cave' now". It was as a matter-of-fact, no kissing, no touching, no waiting 4 me 2 respond back, nothing! Do u know he didn't even realise that he didn't enter my vayg? He did my big bum and screamed like hell when he came!I should think, within 3mins the whole thing was over!!!
He was actuallly panting & sweating!!! He still had his shorts & t-shirt on, hey bo! He apologised again 4 hurting my vayj & I just told it's ok baby. The next minute he was snoring and gone, I was left wanting 'it' like never before!!! I was actually stratching my head and inside I was dying 2 scream with fustration! Infact, I was emotionless if u get me.

Saturday, samething happened!! The whole weekend, he couldn't look at me in the eyes. I never saw him dressing up nor did he c me!!! Sunday he thanked me for my patience and breaking his virginity . I wanted 2 tell him that, "Ehm bobo, actually, ehm, ehm,  u didn't enter me but u did my butt". I never told him tho. See, am a gud girl nheh?
Sunday, I got home & I did myself and it was de bomb! Yes o, I had 2 make-up 2 my vayj! Its one of those things I try not think about because I just laugh endlessly once it click on my mind! Ja nheh, I think I've it all,

After 2 weeks, I ended the relationship and he was deeply hurt. I just couldn't continue anymore, We r still in touch till 2day. So, no virgin 4 me again. Thanks but no thanks, 10months of my life gone that, mncim!

rikkard:

I am a working class single mother in need of a good, caring, romantic , muslim and God fearing man for a relationship that would lead to marriage. He should be tall ,humorous and working class. Please only serious minded people should get in touch . Thank you

Goodluck sistaz, Hope u find "the one".

Aragonc:

Single mother? Not interested ma'am,period

Ehmmm,,,, am not sure what 2 say

Goodluck,