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Say it. When you say the words "I Love You," do they carry it with them the desire to show someone you love them or do they carry it with them is it what you want to feel? And when you say it make sure you really mean it and are willing to do anything for that special person.


Empathize. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Rather than impose your own expectations or attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, where they come from, and who they are; and realize how they could also love you back just as well.


Love unconditionally. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulations, then it is not love at all, but deep-seated opportunism (one who makes the most of an advantage, often unmindful of others). If your interest is not in the other person as such, but rather in how that person can enhance your experience of life, then it is not unconditional. If you have no intention of improving that person’s life, of allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not striving to love them unconditionally.


Expect nothing in return. That doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat or undervalue you. It means that giving love does not guarantee receiving love. Try loving just for loving's sake. Realize that someone may have a different way of showing his or her love for you; do not expect to be loved back in exactly the same way.


Realize it can be lost. If you realize that you can lose the one you love, then you have a greater appreciation of what you have. Think how lucky you are to have someone to love.


You must put all of your heart into it because if both sides do not have the same amount of effort one of you will get hurt,


It does not make you a bad person to desire someone else's love, even if they do not love you. However, to truly love someone, you must let them be free. It is selfish to blame them for your feelings.
There are many types of love, for example: a mother-son love is different from a best friend's love, which is different from a romantic love. Don't be ashamed to tell anyone that you love your friends as much as you love anyone else in your life.
You have to find someone that will suit you, someone you feel comfortable with - not just someone to make love to.
As a word, love can be found worldwide and is often used to describe compassion and/or emotional attachment. Accepting those you love for who they are is part of love. You also need to learn to accept yourself before you can accept another. If you cannot love your self, how are you to love another?


Love genuinely. Do not compare your feelings now to what your feelings were when you were with another mate. At times, we can experience rejection.
Realize that love is a feeling that wikihow can describe and attempt to assist, but ultimately, you are the one who must take action in order to discover love.

Do things that make the other person feel good, but do not smother them with gifts and attention.
Consider some tips about what people in love do.
People in love are sensitive to each other's needs, and endeavor to meet them even when they do not feel like doing it.
Men and women may be equal in value but different by nature. People who truly are in love give their mates "space" to develop their potential and find their fulfillment in life.
Love does not brag. People who are truly in love refrain from rehearsing their good traits just to show off. Bragging in a relationship often is really defensiveness.
People who are truly in love do not insist that their way is best and demand that their mates give in to them.
People who are truly in love are considerate of each others feelings and courteous in their actions toward one another. Sadly sarcasm is a way of life for some couples. They ridicule each other, belittle each other and trade jibes with a fury. They may say it is all in fun, but it leaves wounds that will someday become festering sores.

People who are truly in love look out for their mates' best interests as much as their own. Those in love should be concerned not only about their own individual interests, but about the interests of the other as well.

People who truly love control their anger when the other displeases them. We are all human, and all humans feel anger periodically, but we only express our anger in destructive ways when we counting on someone else to meet our needs.
People who truly love each other do not take pleasure in their mates' disappointments or failures.

People who truly love each other treat their mates with absolute trust. Some husbands and wives torment themselves with groundless suspicions.If you look for trouble you will find it every time.

People who truly love look forward to their relationship growing more meaningful and precious. They have hope. Which is an attitude that happily anticipates the good. It isn't being blind and denies there are problems, but it does look beyond the problems. People who truly love each other do not allow their problems to rob them of their happiness.

StephenP:
@poster, Since no one seems to get it let me help you out

Artist: Brandy

BABY, you're my AFRODISIAC
I WANNA BE DOWN with you forever
Because with you, I'll never be BROKENHEARTED
You're my BEST FRIEND, my secret hiding place
HAVE YOU EVER felt a love like mine?
Remember ALMOST DOESN'T COUNT.
Well, together we will be on TOP OF THE WORLD
But for now, let's not TALK ABOUT OUR LOVE.

its lyk ure the only 1 dat understands wat i mean here, pls can u xplain it more to them.

u got me. am laughing hard.

DEAR NAIRALANDERS, PLS I THINK I VE AN ISSUE,WENEVA I LOVE A GUY AND HIS ACTIONS SHOWS HE DOES ITS EITHER WE CANT DATE 4 1 OR 2 REASONS.
AND WEN I SEE THE ONE I FEEL IS TRULY IN LOVE WITH ME, NO MATTER WAT HE DOES OR SAY I NEVA FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM. PLS TELL ME IS THERE A PROBLEM WITH ME OR IT IS JUST NATURAL, COS AM BEGINNING TO GET BOTHERED. I WUD LOVE TO READ FRM U GUYS AND GULS.

how come my name has not been mentioned here i wont take that pls.
am the hottest of course

well i had a situation like that, guess wat i did, i just dumped his sorry ass.
am not asking u 2 do that.

wen a guy whistles. and it is so obvious that it is u. OR
hey babe, i didnt catch ur name, wen u didnt even say it.
or wen he ask 4ur numba and u refuse and he says c'mon i tout u were a nice.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=156516.msg2596934#msg2596934 date=1217642633]i DON'T GET THIS SONG, BUT WHATEVER. . . . HERE IT GOES!

Dis just ain't no game these just ain't words
If you could see the thoughts that's in my head
Imma playa yeah, it's true
But I change the game for you
I want to see what it do[/quote]IS THIS A LOVE SONG?

THE ARTIST IS BOYS 2 MEN.
the letters i capitalized is the title of the song

nice question
because apparently you think you are addressing the TOGO people.
Hey, we are the good old Nigerians.
The african s smartest.
[quote][/quote]IS THE PROBLEM COS I SAID I VE BEEN DATIN A GUY FOR 4YRS AND NO SEX.

WATS THE DEAL?

IT WAS A TRUE CONTRIBUTION. SO IF U BELIEVE IT OR NOT IT DOESNT MATTER.

THIS JUST MEANS DERE CAN BE EARLY DATIN, YET NO SEX.

artist: boy 2 men.

There were times u showed me true COLOURS OF LOVE.
even as we ve allowed WATERS RUN DRY.
am tired of allowing things to PASS ME BY.
so i guess i wud be DOING JUST FINE, without you.
even if ure on BENDED KNEES.
i ve gotten TO THE END OF THE ROAD

[quote author=blue-sky link=topic=155684.msg2596716#msg2596716 date=1217638001]@ too cute
are u nigerian?[/quote]yes

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=155684.msg2596540#msg2596540 date=1217635244]Awwww, so you left the man you were telling us about? The one that barely says "I LOVE YOU"? eyah pele[/quote]thanks, so big deal, i wasnt 2 hurt, just the time wasted.

though he wants me back

SAM MILLA:
GO TELL THAT TO THE BIRDS!

I SUPPOSE YOU ARE THE CUTE GIRL I SAW ON YOUR PROFILE,
AND YOU STARTED AS EARLY AS 13.
THEN TURNED PROFESSIONAL GIRLFRIENDER/DATER AT 16. (STARTED THE SERIOUS ONE AT 16.)

AND YOU NEVER DID IT.

I THINK I HAVE D RIGHT TO DOUBT YOU.
DONT ASK ME WHY.

u dont ve 2 believe.

I STARTED DATING VERY EARLY(LIKE 13YRS), BUT IN MY CASE, I KNEW WAT I WANTED AND NO GUY CUD USE ME.

MY 1ST SEROIUS RELATIONSHIP WAS WEN I WAS 16 & IT STAYED TILL 4YRS. IT JUST CRUMBLED SOME DAYS BACK.

AND THE GOOD THING THAT AS YOUNG AS I WAS, NO MATTER HOW HE TRIED(EVEN IF I FELT SORRY 4 HIM ATIMES, I NEVA HAD SEX.

IT GOES LIKE THIS

USING UR FAVOURITE ARTIST AND THE TITTLE OF THEIR MUSIC.

COMPOSE A LOVE SONG FOR THAT SPECIAL PERSON.

NOTE: YOU CANNOT USE THE SAME TITTLE MORE THAN ONCE.

i dont just knw, but really they re sweet. even if they re some bad ones
an example is here in ghana, the ghanaian ladies here see it a priviledge 2 answer a phone call frm a nigerian, even 2 talk 2 a nigerian guy.
they re just too much. the thing abt them is that wen they do smethin, they do it and wen they dont, they dont, like wen a 9ja guy loves u, he really does and if he doesnt 4get it.

Lady J:
y is that this t00cuTE of a girl keeps resurrecting old threads?for christ sake this is a 2006 story

DO U VE A PROBLEM WITH ME, WAS I THE 1 THAT POSTED THIS TOPIC OR YOU CANT SEE

Lady J:
the girl just keeps bringing up dead threads,when there r so many recent ones

PLS USE YOUR EYES

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=29167.msg2530615#msg2530615 date=1216504064]this girl, why u dey bring up old topics?

na where boredom reach?[/quote]U DON REACH HERE NOW NOW

rubi:
Yes, I don't know the guy but why should he wait till she demands and ask if he loves her that makes her to wonder whether if she is in a relationship with him or not.

THIS IS IT, I DONT KNW IF AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM OR NOT, AND WEN I ASK HIM I WANT 2 KNW MY STAND HE ALYS LAUGHS AND SAYS JUST KNW URE MY SPECIAL ONE.

DO U WANT 2 BE A SUGAR BOY, THEN GO AHEAD, REMEMBER WAT GOD HAS JOINED 2GEDA LET NO MAN PUT ASSUNDER.

windywendy:
Inform her husband and ask him to kindly pass on the message to his wife. He might be more than happy to oblige you. But in the mean time, prepare to have your head axed

OR THIS OPTION

OK LET ME CONSOLE MYSELF

IF HE DOESNT LOVE ME HE WUD VE LET ME GO, ITS BEEN 4YRS

MyPeace:
AIDS is real, leave the IDIOT to die alone. abi u wan die with him?

good point UNA NO GO KILL ME


he als o feels he is all cos he knows both of u know and yet u re still dere.

pls knw ur worth, DUMP HIS SORRY ASS

CH3COO:
t00cute, I'm sorry, but I would be scared too. Your . . . . I will continue later

pls continue now

ibkaye:
Hmm, it could be pride, or maybe he doesn't love you, why don't you ask him why he does that?

I ALYS DO AND WEN I DO, HE ALYS SAY U KNW I LOVE U, AND WEN I TELL HIM I THINK HE DOESNT SO AM LEAVIN, HE SAYS Y DO U WANT 2 HURT ME, SO I DONT GET IT.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=152675.msg2530498#msg2530498 date=1216502548]
It's ok baby.

But am lucky sha, CH3COO always tells me he loves me.
sometimes it can get boring.

Normal situations like?[/quote]IS IT PRIDE, OR HE DOESNT AM ASKING 4 IT AND URE KINDA GETTIN BORED