ok! found two bday mates already

johnnygan and lukkie.

Yup, may 6th here

@kunleOshob

Not accountable to the pastor per se.

Accountable for 'issues '(am sure u get my drift) that may be a fall-out of dating/courting.

Spot on!

well, what i have deduced for myself is that its all towards accountability. anyways, id simply say u should do as the spirit leads. as simple as that. if you have a disquiet about it, then u should heed it. and vice versa.

Now, as i said earlier, these are not based on any biblical standards(at least. none that i know of).

ok, i have enquired about this in the past and these are some of the reasons i was given for this

1) in the case that the lady in question already has other people in church seeking her hand, the pastor would be in the know and would be better able to advise u. and her.
2) i guess it's just for guidance really, not any biblical basis.i have heard of a case where a 'brother' approached an already married 'sister' claiming he'd 'heard' from God. he didnt know she was married.

When you inform your pastor, who should know his members to an extent, he can advise you.

However, i note this usually works for mostly workers and co in church.

talk.play catch-up on the last 20 sumthing years or so  .build a friendship that will span a lifetime.

talk some more. i think communication is the bedrock of any relationship, any type.

yup. i can.

my bf is one(and he's not a nerd at that) and i love and appreciate him for that.

Cos I know he's stood for what he believes in. am proud of him and i know he' s proud of me too.

i so look forward to us learning together(after we get married (if and when he asks me to o!)).

Now that promises to be fun and explosive!

I keep reading this all the time and i cant say how much i disagree with it.

Whether to attend or not depends on several factors. For instance, would the other party be comfortable with my presence at the wedding? In circumstances where you and the party involved had been together for so long but broke up for family reasons unrelated to both of you as individuals . . . wouldnt it be a better sign of maturity to place some distance between you both so he/she can carry on with their new family without the emotional baggage that comes with your presence?

You're obviously going to run into family and friends of the other party who must know you both very well while you were dating . . . would they be comfortable seeing you there?


my sentiments exactly

methinks its cos cute guys have a higher number of chics(mostly cute too) hanging around them, and well, its all about probability(remember the math thingy?).

The more the number around him, the more likely he'd cheat on u or decide to find himself a 'cuter' girl.

And where will that leave her? so she runs instead to a less fine guy who don't have as many chics around him, and mathematically too, will have less chances of cheating.

methinks,

well, don't know if its true but a friend told me they are normally smaller. and grow with continuous activity.

Can any of the guys here confirm if that's true? am actually curious too.

, maybe, maybe not, kinda pricey

@poster:

This topic should read Mr/Miss Virginity pageant.

if not, very sexist.

Stop making out like girls are the only ones expected to keep to moral or religious values.

BM&I, babies,mammas and everything in between,

Lol!! enjoy urselves jare, life's short enuff

huh??

I'm kinda new on NL but even I can see that this must be a case of mistaken identity.mite u be thinking this was Unitee?

hmm, here goes,

Dear A,

It was wonderful dating you. a wonderful 6 years. we were kids, so in love.You taught me alot of the values I have now, and i know i did the same with you. You were always there for me, tho ur friends cudnt stand me cos i took up all ur waking moments.

I wasn't sure I loved you until we left school and u knelt down in front of ur friends(who didn't like me) one day to clean my muddy shoes. Then I knew I'd marry you if u asked.

And then u leave town, and cheat on me, and come back, and tell me, and I forgive you, and then u asked, and i said yes, But she couldn't let go, and i just couldn't fight, i thot that was ur job, so i left, after u gave me an ultimatum(guess i was/am a lil stubborn). U let me go, because I wouldn't sleep with you, after i just lost a loved one, dat hurt real bad which is why i just couldnt take you back, id always remember the double hurt.

You're married now and am glad for u, I'll always have a soft spot for u, and wish u the very very best. u are a great guy, and i forgive u all over again and many times over, and thank God i met u regardless, but please please, stop calling me and let's leave the past where it belongs,




That felt kinda gud! (BTW, this is the only ex that really mattered!)

hmm, well, ive been engaged twice, broken it off twice, first guy wanted sex at all costs, didnt love 2nd guy enuff, cos for me, marriage is a lot more than two lonely souls coming together, i have to love u, and u have o respect my values, looking forward to the one though,