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immortalcrown:
I am a man. I admit that the men you refer to are irrational, arrogant and stupid.

But your write up doesn't portray you as someone better than those men. In all you wrote, you didn't mention any mistakes you have made in your relationships with men. Are you indirectly saying you are perfect? Is there nothing you have done and won't encourage your fellow women to do?

Maybe you are married. Maybe you are single by choice. What about your fellow women who have crossed the age of 30 and are still single because they mistakenly or stupidly rejected good men? How does your post address their situations? Does your post try to save younger females from making those mistakes? Or, are you claiming that no single lady regrets being single? Are you saying that marriage is not necessary for any above-thirty-and-single lady? Even if marriage is not for everyone, is being single good for everyone?

No gender is better than the other. Every gender has good and bad people.

I understand you but my post is specifically for the "evening newspaper term". I created it in response to this thread. https://www.nairaland.com/8446166/ladies-aged-30-38-years-how. I already struggled to make this topic short. Yes. These categories of women exist. Maybe I would create a topic for that another time but I do not have enough experience to talk about it. Maybe some introspection would give me some new insights. Thank you for your contribution.

Pelanowire:
You are funny. All this rants because you clocked 30?

No. It was because of this topic. I finally had the time to create a thread for it. https://www.nairaland.com/8446166/ladies-aged-30-38-years-how

Pelanowire:
Seems like a book of lamentations to me. Well wish you ladies the best

Your description is already up there.

pocohantas:
Same here. It is how they act like they are the marriageable men but marry none. That is my grouse with them. Leave the evening newspapers and marry the morning newspapers. Why do you have to constantly remind us you don't want us? We have heard. Move on!

Hey Poco,

I finally created the thread.

This one is for the babes who are starting to question their worth because of what they see online. I turn 30 next Sunday, so I believe I’m in a good place to write this, not from a place of fear, but from experience and sense.

Over the last few months, I’ve seen some wild comments from men on Nairaland. Things like “after 7”, “evening newspaper”, “depleted ovaries”… you name it. But let me tell you: that’s not on you. That’s on them.

If you're feeling down because of these words, pause and breathe. . These men; the ones who use these terms. I’ve studied them. Yes, I went through their old posts. The youngest among them is about 43. 😂 Imagine a 43-year-old man online calling women expired. God forbid my own future husband is wasting his time typing such rubbish on a forum.
One even replied me once saying I should "rest". This is someone struggling to pay N150k school fees for his 8-year-old child and rent somewhere in the bush in Ikorodu. 😭 Another one, sleeping in the office Monday to Friday because transport to Ajah will eat his entire salary. We already had our third degree by 23 but one man from Ogbomosho thinks he would be doing me a favour by marrying me. These same people shouting “in saner climes” but the only airport they have seen is from watching James Bond movies. 😭😭😭

And these are the same ones screaming "I can't marry a 25+ year old, they’re too old." At 40+? You’re not even ashamed. Ato ole.

Ladies, these are the ones calling you evening newspaper. Do you now see that it has nothing to do with you? If you’re here and you’re worried about these people, don’t be.
This message is not for the real men who respect women and are just struggling financially. My message for you is: it’ll be okay soon, amen.

Now for the rest of us baby girls 👸🏽:
There’s a flawed logic these same men like to push. This idea of "100 women to 1 man". It’s a lie. Statistically, there are more men than women in Nigeria and in the world. You can Google it. They just use that flawed stat to make women feel desperate.
Let me say this clearly girls:
If you are not earning your own money, you have no business dating.
Once you start making money, your standards go up naturally. That’s why you’ll see Regina Daniels with a Ned Nwoko, but you’ll never see Temi Otedola with Dangote. 😏
I saw a thread the other day. One Nairaland uncle asking for advice on dating an 18-year-old. By page 2, he had mentioned giving money to her mother.
So please, work. Even if it’s small. Take yourself on mini-vacations within Nigeria. Join clubs. Play sports. I play chess. In fact, there’s no antichess player in Africa better than me. Just recently, I came 3rd out of 2,500 players globally in the Antichess World Championship . 💅🏽
I’m also starting Pilates with my girls, and I’m going to take standard chess seriously again. I want to become Nigeria’s first grandmaster by age 37.
So please my girls:
1. Buy good skincare.
2. Learn how to do your makeup — Mac, Fenty, Lancôme… get at least one.
3. Look younger, stay fresh.
4. Don’t ever beg for transport fare to go on a date. 🙅🏽‍♀️


Don’t settle because some man with a “Akungba university 1984” ID is calling you names online. 😭
Look at Asa Asika. Look at Davido. Look at Toolz and Tunde. Real rich kids marry close in age because they’re not looking for desperation, they’re looking for a match.
Take your time. Don’t lower your crown. Someone will love you fully with money, respect, maturity, and peace of mind.
There’s someone for everyone. Just don’t rush because of what these agbado philosophers are saying on Nairaland . 😂
Remember:
When they say “You’re too old,” just remember, The only thing outdated is their mindset which expired after Jonathan’s first tenure. Stop explaining your standards to people who’ve never met them.
There’s a man for every woman and yours will see your worth without needing you to shrink or beg for it.
So to every woman reading this: You’re not behind.
Evening newspaper still has breaking news.
Bye baby girls

Dalohad:
LOL..Madam feminist. You are pained I love it.

Nature made it very clear. Production of ovaries have an expiry date. Give or take 15-20 years shelf life from the day you start menstruating.
Sperm production continues for a lifetime.

So the man can still wait, hustle, make money, get married at 40 and still build a meaningful family life.

See you, see menopause, I know that is why you are bitter.

That guy who you thought was too short, too poor, too ugly or too fat and not your spec, has moved on and is now firing on all cylinders with his wife. You still dey find dream man wey dem mould with clay..

LoL. Don't worry. Be very grateful for the antispam bot.

I wil have your time on Thursday.

pocohantas:
Medieval low-thinking humans.
They have so much to say on the evening newspapers they won't marry, but nothing to say on the good women they are dating or married to. I don't even know how that makes any LOGICAL sense.

Funnily enough, I am not even offended by the Name. I just wonder why they grab any opportunity to use that phrase.

I will create a topic addressing this issue later in the week.

If you go on google and type "evening newspaper", Nairaland is the only platform that brings out that phrase.

Seun should not limit nairaland's antibot to tribalistic comments but also take derogatory terms like this seriously. The idiots up there think I am afraid to respond to them. I quote one and I am banned immediately.

I am going to create a thread about Nairaland men and their densdeeee opinions about women. Localllllllll ratsettttsss. Nairaland is the only platform that calls women Evening newspapers. Dirtyyy minnndeddd people

Dalohad:
In their 20s, them still dey hot. Their dream man gets six packs, handsome, rich, tall, fair/dark smells like roses.

When you tell them about marriage immediately after school, they will tell you they want to explore (enjoy life). In fact, the worst time to ask a lady for her number is the day she is graduating or convocating.

If you asking them out and they want to get rid of you forever, they will they tell they are engaged.
4 years later, Relationship status on Facebook- 'It's complicated'.

After all the shakara, the reality dawns on them really hard and fast. They realise that nothing dey outside.

Another 4 years later, they become very nice and homely. Shiloh becomes their second home. Online relationship counselling becomes their favourite pastime.

Whatever you do as a man, improve yourself everyday, you will become an attractant for many and then you can pick who you want.

I respect ladies who finish school immediately and settle down, especially the beautiful ones.

Only women are expected to complete schooling and hop into marriage after. Nairaland men and their "desnseee" thinking.

Do you not think you would also be respected for getting married immediately afer school? Your mates that got married right after school and still doing well, do they have two heads?

All these village old men who found small money and thinks the world revolves around them.

What else are you going to call them? Evening newspaper, After 7, Frusttyrated women. Archaic bluudoody iduitsooytss.

Lol

Whiteshield:
I thought as much. Na poor man pikin them dey harvest before their potential blooms.

You killed me with this comment 😅😅🤣🤣🤣

I patiently searched for money reasons 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ExBachelor:
Hey I’m good. Yourself?

Just thinking we could know ourselves outside the app. But it’s cool still

Lol. All right.

ExBachelor:
Microsoft teams 😶‍🌫️

Hey ExBachelor,

I received your mail but I reckon that our communication should be limited to nairaland for now.
So what is so important that cannot be discussed here??

ExBachelor:
it’s been a minute. You reckon we should talk? And no team please 😂😂😂

What team ?

ExBachelor:
Taquin

Hiyah

The indirect advertisement of products on nairaland always kills me 🤣🤣🤣🤣.

All right. I will check out realme


Please come for consultation on subtle marketing

ExBachelor:
Fair enough.

Ermmmmmm, what’s the deal breaker for you in a relationship/marriage? Where do you call it quit? Would you also take back a cheating partner?

Even coffee as tea? That’s funny. But I actually understand what you mean 🙃

That is actually a question I have thought of. Would I really take back a cheating partner? I do not think so but then I cannot say because I have never been in that situation so I cannnot predict my true reaction.

ExBachelor:
@bold technically, this generation can’t keep the institution called marriage since their thought on marriage and reasons for it doesn’t fit. Remember, love is not enough.

Inspite all these, I’ll still like to get married. I’m sure you would too 🤐😉😌

Ofcourse I will get married. Bad examples should not deter one from achieving their marital goals. For the other question, as a Nigerian, I classify hot beverages under the term Tea. I take it when I find it difficult to swallow food during flu season.

ExBachelor:
Taquin, what’s your take on this?

Marriage is not going extinct, especially in Nigeria where it’s still seen as very important. But the things that used to keep marriages strong in the past don’t really work the same way today.

Before, many women were expected to get married by a certain age, even if it meant putting their career dreams aside. Men were mostly seen as the providers. Now, women want both a good career and a happy marriage. They are not choosing one over the other. Because of this change, marriage today feels more complicated, but it’s not disappearing.

It's just that the old way of thinking about marriage doesn’t fit our generation anymore. Kapish

ExBachelor:
Taquin, what’s your take on this?

I will reply when I get home