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God bless you for this..thank you mynd44 and seun with other mods needs to see this comment..we really do have people with great intellectuals on NL,I'm impressed

Xiadnat:
I think the answer is multifactorial. Successful woman and marriage is not a cause and effect relationship. It is more of a correlation and there is a difference. First, what is success? And, how do we define success? Is it by financial/wealth accumulations, accolades? Career ladder attainment? Let's assume, success is defined by career and financial assets.

The answer is two fold.

1. women differ with regards to marriage successful or non successful.

2. Men & their egos are also to blame. It is virtually a rare breed of men who are confident enough to let the woman be more successful than

The long answer is elaborated below:

To even begin to unravel why there is a correlation between success in women and tendency to either be unmarried or marry late, you have to go deeper into these women's personalities, skills, characteristics etc.

You will find that the same personal traits that allowed them to be successful is similar to or the same trait that allows them to either marry late or remain unmarried. Case in point: myself. I put off getting married and in fact I was not really interested in getting married because I was DRIVEN to succeed and achieve independence first. Something in my personality trait wants to establish and being satisfied with myself first before sharing it with someone else.

In some, this period of self attainment last longer (hence "late" marriage). In others, it is shorter. Even yet, others don't feel same way I do about personal achievement and marriage. And they marry when opportunities present itself. And, that's okay.

Maybe Oprah or Linda Ikeji do NOT want to get married or feel they have to get married?

In an alternate world where Oprah and Ikeji were not wealthy, they probably would have still chosen to remain unmarried (provided society and economical circumstances) does not pressure them to get married.

There are women who are married but wish they were not but had to marry for variety of reasons: economical advantages being one.

There are unsuccessful women who are not married or marry late.

There are successful women who are married plus/minus kids. Case in point: my sister is very successful in her career but juggles her husband and 3 children.

Lastly but not least, MEN are also 50% of the problem. If they can check their egos at the door, perhaps more successful women WHO DESIRE TO BE MARRIED BUT CANNOT FOR LACK OF SUITABLE MEN- can then have choices to marry who and when they want.

I believe though that a lot less women who would be unhappily married if they have the economical means to support themselves especially in developing nations across the world.

I have a dream of a world where women (and men) will marry (should they want to) out of love and their own personal volition, interest and desires devoid of societal pressures, economical disadvantages and other externalities.

Oladipupo22:
For me, this is one key issue that we need to address this issue

My questions are:

Is Marriage Compulsory for women?

Truly, If not, Why do we victimize the women who are obviously successful but not married?

Lalatisclala, obinoscopy

These are issues worth discussing in our society!

LOL this stuff is really affecting us and I'm sure lalasticlala saw this already

nnachukz:
Again I tell you my sister, if thou has passed 35yrs of age. Nobody, witches or wizards is following you. They have all passed you and are causing hold up ahead of you blocking prospective suitor from locating you. At that age, they have already finished work from behind and are sure that the remaining work is in front of you. At this point, the lady is now the one following the witches and wizards.

LOL..this is hilarious

ronald4lif:
Did Linda tell you marriage is her priority? Are the married ones fairing better than her and other unmarried successful women? Why are you so bothered?

Whatever..and is that all?

StillBrandnew:
I love successful women as long as they are not proud or full of themselves and that is pretty hard to find among the women folk.

No way man..successful women will always be like that,she'll always have the "I can do without you" feeling

nnachukz:
Men love women both successful and unsuccessful women, mostly successful ones. The problem is ego, lack of respect and constant attempt to claim equality and public display of such. Nobody likes to hear words like "I made you who you are today remember " "Marrying you was a mistake because we are not of the same class" "You don't tell me what to do, I'm not your kid" etc just at any slightest provocation. So fear of having another man as a wife is what chases us away as you can not easily tell if truly the wealth hasn't gotten into her head until you marry her.

True..I like this

dollyjoy:
Be giving yourself false hope there,men love successful women who don't let their wealth or position in the society cloud their sense of reasoning

I only asked for your opinion

Moneyhatesme:
Thanks. Hope it's BOMB

Yeah sure

I know men loves it when their woman is independent and not a burden on them because nobody likes to carry burdens on their shoulders,but seriously why do successful women find it hard to get a spouse of their choice and women with less cash get married within a snap of their finger.Like is this a curse or something?

Case Study: Linda Ikeji
We all know how rich this woman is and we know how much she bought her mansion,to those that doesn't know.Linda Ikeji mansion worths N500m and she's 35years of age and we have never seen her going around with any man,neither have we heard she had clash with her husband like the Tiwa and Tbillz case,and she's as straight as a ruler.

People will say "men are cheats" and they are after the successful women's money and I say "is there no loyal man in life again" it bothers me a lot and discourages me into having a successful life also.

Will these successful women stories not discourage our women growth and how our women think of themselves?

We are Africans not Westerners and Africa is a place that when you get to 30 years of age and you are still single and searching they say "They are following you" and they start taking up heartbreaking rumours like "you used your glory to be successful and that's why you aren't married"

My aunt has a bsc,mba and all of those certificates and she's still single although shes living fine and shes also wealthy,but she doesn't even have one child and she's over 40years of age,almost in her menopause stage of life.

Please what's your contribution to this?

I would like to know from you..Let's Discuss!

LOL,God is good..Money is good anyways

His throwback looks like adekunlegold,is this how adekunlegold will be when he grow up too?

Moneyhatesme:
How much did u buy ur l8

30k I bought it a day before yesterday

VictorRomanov:
You've never heard people call their wives their girlfriends?

my first time...well looks amazing

VictorRomanov:
Is that not his wife?

so why did he call her girlfriend

I'm talking about my Tecno l8 that has 5050mah...it actually brought back the niyola memories tho, "bobo yi bad" who remembers that jam by niyolapretty cool sha

Photoshot looks romantic though but I thought this guy was married or lemi say "is married" how come he has a girlfriend??as you can see it captioned on his palmchat broadcast...nawa oh,non of my business sha

Anyhow,who will take me to London too from Nairaland,I believe there are Rich men here,not everyone is wretched here I guess...I'm waiting oh

CrazyScientist:
what about we that have the Samsung galaxy tab 10.1,the iPad air 2,the iPhone 6s ,sister puhleeezz..
Let me not mention my lappies...

#NonYahooBoyWithLaptop
#IrepTechVarsity

Dash me one

windyjosezy:
Someone dah doesn't know what he's saying

yeah..its obvious man

IRserveMyComent:
How much did you get it? i priced it yesterday in computer villa they said it goes for 44k.

were u ready to buy it at all??

topradar4:
Fan ko, AC ni. Mtseeeeeew

Common gerrawt

Lmao,boom j8 always have a separately packed headphone,aba boys don comot am

Heeyhun:
oga o.....it's a crime to be a celebrity. Everything you say or do will be used against you in the court of law

You say?

winnijaf:
Please take it easy on her, She might just be so Excited to Surf with the droodpad 7C pro. Lol

Yes I'm excited,I bought it 30k on jumia

praizeblog:
kilokanmi

Abi

topradar4:
So what Sense are you making in this Post? Do you want to tell us you browse with droodpad 7c pro? I don't understand the reason for the Stale Gist.

Whatever u say,I know you are a fan and I dont expect anything good from you

I'm not totally a celebrity stalker but I must admit what I have seen so far from blogs and live comments...

I use IG a lot,on my tecno boom j8 though that isn't my only phone but I love the phone because of it wideness I use ikeji blog on it also,and I see things clearly on it..As we were saying..I will be listing two things I have noticed in toolz that I have seen myself

An Instagram page posted of pictures of toolz in a RED dress and captioned it "get toolzo look with 4000N" and they tagged her and mentioned her,then our lovely miss tolu was like "you didn't sell the dress to me,why should you advertise with my photo" and they started arguing so she asked for a photo take down,and the page took it down,I dont think the post was bad except if shes mad because she wears a "4000" dress...Oh puhleazzze after they took it down self,go check the pic they uploaded,the later picture was even finer and sexier than toolz


The second was where someone was telling her husband on Instagram that he's so fine and all that and your role model was like "thank you" ..Seriously??do people like that even last at all in their marriage??Why should she stalk her husband page?what about those that goto her page to comment,,thats one big immature behavior anyways.

Well I hope this gets to her,I'm not expecting her to change because of my post but

cruz97:
when you won't listen to good music

I also dont like Jesse jagz

hotmolo:
lol u bet. sorry for d typos my screen was having some ish

U better register and "cash" fun

hotmolo:
this thread login. quite interesting login. quite interesting. i dont think its developing. it has been around for a while just haven't done enough publicity. av known about it since wen techno started rolling out android. das like 3 to 4 years now if i am not mistaken

You probably don't have the 5.2v
The app needs support,lol
I think the app is better than Nigeria self,Nigeria has been in existence for over 50years...

hotmolo:
yea

and its a developing app,I like it

iykekelvins:
[color=#099999]So,u talked to him yet?[/color]

Yes of course...

hotmolo:
its just dormant on my phone

You mean the app?

Laveda:

Sadist