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Pataki: Do you really need to go abroad to have a Masters degree?

I see three things here: 1) Your child; 2) Your education; and 3) Your boyfriend.

Is your boyfriend equally willing to let you go abroad for your Masters while he is left in Nigeria? I assume not. And besides, how are you so sure he is ready and willing to pay for your Masters study abroad when there is no serious commitment as such between you guys except a boyfriend - girlfriend relationship status.

Sorry I sound too skeptical about him. I just needed a pinch of reality here. Whatever you choose to do, your child is a priority which you should never compromise on.

Cheers.

The masters in Nigeria is definitely on the table. Its just that a foreign degree from a top school gives me a much better chance to get a research fellowship which is what we are really after.

I have no way to know if he will actually pay when d time comes but since I won't have to give up my son until I know for sure I am travelling ie fees have been paid, there's no danger of me giving up my son for nothing as it were&therefore no need to worry abt if he really will pay.

Finally, He plans 2 register for a programme in the same school during d same period.

I am a mom to a three year old boy from a previous relationship that ended because it was abusive.

My boyfriend of about six months is pressuring me to give my boy to his fathers 'people' (at least for a while)so I can move on with my life.

Since I was a girl I have wanted to be an academic and I was right on track(excellent grades&everything) until I fell pregnant.

Now boyfie wants to pay for my Uk/US/canada Masters degree with the hope that I will get a PHD research position immediately after.

I would love with all my heart to be able to travel for graduate studies but I clearly can't do this with a little boy in tow, that why my man insists I have to take him to his fathers people.

The problem is my boy stayed with them(at his fathers insistence) for few weeks last year&came back malnourised, sickly&very frightened. It broke my heart several times over and I swore I won't do it again.

My own mother is sick and constantly needs care herself.

My boyfie insists that I am overly worried that my son will be fine, he tells me repeatedly that if I give up on my dreams I will eventually regret it. This issue is beginning to cause a rift in what is an otherwise perfect relationship.

What do u all think? Should I let me son live with relatives for a few years? Am I being too protective?

I will really like to hear from anyone who lived with uncles, aunties, grandparents etc growing up, what was it like for you?

Everyone else, can u ever consider letting ur kids live with someone else?

Hi house,

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