Mcslize:


I don't think there is anything like love between them. The girl doesn't love the guy. This love of a thing is just mere emotions. Yes, he will be heart broken but he will be OK with time.

Time heal broken hearts. When you look back, you will just smile how you cried like a baby over a girl that doesn't care whether you exist.

As a man, always guard your emotions when dealing with women. They are heartless and mostly self centered. As far it is not about them, they won't feel what the other person is feeling. They don't care whether you are heart broken or not once they make up their minds to do something. That's ladies for you.

That's why you need to toughen up your mind and kill your emotional side when handling women due to their insensitive natures.

A girl that loves you will shift a ground for you and make some compromises just to make things work. But when she sensed that you've completely built all your life around her and you can't let go of her, she will use you to play football.

Never build your life around any girl. That's the worst mistake some men make in this life, because when things do not work out, she will be the one to easily move on while you will be there crying and begging like a baby. Do you know when you beg a girl, that's when they become more insensitive?

I will strongly advice the OP to let go of that lady. I promise him, in 6 months times, he will get healed of his destabilised emotions and will forget this girl completely.

Word!!! Very obvious!!

Thanks man!!! God bless you!

Holyfield1:
How did you mail her chats to your email?

On WhatsApp...the persons chat, you see three dot on the top right hand corner. Click on it and you options on what to do

Scot1255:
I had d same problem recently.. I do not practice religion n she's a Christian.. We r one year plus. We got talking about religion few weeks back n that's how she changed it for me o.. Saying if I can't start going to church or mosque then its over.. This is a gal I don't even care if she's a witch, I just want her in my life even though she has nothing to offer other than sex. A gal I give money every month like she's working for me. She was so serious, we didn't talk for a week. I had to give in n tell her I will start going to church. But I know I will so deal with her if we ever get married. I will throw her stuff out of my house over little things. This girl breaks up with me every week over little things. I will start begging like a baby. She must experience it too once we get married.. She will know how it feels after many children. girls are so self centred. Once they know u love them n ur life is already wired to theirs, they start going to any length to ensure u do what they want.

Ha sorry bruh but I think you don't need revenge at all...she was right for you to choose either going to mosque or church...and she might be breaking up with you cause you don't choose one...i don't see any reason getting revenge on her...girls are manipulative when they know you are in love..when you recognized that, then don't dance to their tune...breaking up and making up on that aspect you gotta becareful though...dont be like me hahah

Youngpo413:
That lady is gone,na their way,she has forgotten about you totally,don't hold on to a sinking TITANIC.

Obviously....God bless

SaintChukz:
Op...Do you have a problem with the use of punctuations? I could barely understand a single thing out of all that long story save for the other people's comments on the thread.

One thing i noticed...through out your lengthen story, not once did you ever mention giving up your own faith for the sake of the thing (I won't call it love because it's obvious you're clearly blind and still don't want the scales to fall off your eyes) you may have for her.

Do you really want her because you love her? Here is what you really need to consider - give up your own faith for hers...period! If you're not willing to do so, then please save us the pain of reading this incoherent story of yours any longer.

PS: You know that if you actually have good intentions for her, you would give up your faith but you don't!

God bless you too

TheLioness:
Op, you already know what to do, you're just scared and confused. I've been in your position before and I know how you feel. Just go ahead and end it. 10 wasted years is nothing compared to a lifetime in a loveless marriage. The foundation of your relationship is too weak and broken to hold a marriage.

I'll advise that you move on quickly, don't spend time moping about lost love. She'll definitely come back to you if love doesn't smile at her again.

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Waist:
I want you to assured her of her faith, it is very important, while your upspring, should be the one to suffer dilemma, of your religion decision.
If I were you, I will go ahead with the marriage, while I make it clear that in future the children will keep the father religion.

My guy if you come before then, that one na your luck.
To survive in this kind of situation one person must play the part of fool.

Yes you are right! Have played my part have been there for her at lowest form and when am down as human I hardly get same gesture from her..i don't know why...about assuring her, have done that my family has done that my mum called her one too many time about it...my dad was a Christian before cause he grew under white people during those colonial era...explained so many things to her...i am very tolerant when it comes to religion in fact I know about Bible cause I read it sometimes..have been to church to worship when life was hard, we have been to touch together too (we wake up at night to pray) ...she ain't just satisfied...she wants it all...she said she will be selfish in marriage cause when kids involve she will be influential on them when it comes to faith..i told her you and I can do our thing and let the kids knows what to choose I will be supportive but if you can support me by allowing them to follow me you have my loyalty as always it is a sacrifice I will never betray...just don't influence them! She said she can't...she gave many scenerio of what hasn't happened yet and using others story to judge and I asked her why are you focusing on the worst part and not the good part too? I think I just stayed this long with someone that don't feel the way I feel about her...its sad..i really don't know how to quit her and leave her

luminouz:
I just dont know what to say to you OP.


Most of these tales are lies anyways

This is a true one!

mrblessed:
Interfaith union is usually not a recipe for harmonious relationship in this part of the world. Except in rare cases where the people involve are super tolerant and are able to accept their divergent, and sometime, contradictory faiths. Since your relationship is already riddled with existential problems at this early stage, why elevate to higher levels with marriage?

You were merely being emotional at best and irrational at worst when you express inability to extricate yourself from something/someone that gives you discomfort. I suggest there should be a meeting between the two families to find a way to manage/resolve your religious differences, for the sake of stability and happiness of your homes. If such a meeting is not held, I don't think it is reasonable to continue with the relationship.

The thing is her parents knows me very well they know Whats up between us...but I broughg my intention forward to her mum..you know she hasn't called me to even know whats on my mind and all that...she said I shouldn't worry her pastor is praying that we should wait till when she hears from the pastor � ...that aside! It takes two to tango! I know this girl doesn't feel as much as I do with for her...letting go and starting over is the problem...wasted years

I will try as much as possible to keep my story short!

I met this girl in 2009 during our 100level registration. Wow cute looking. She sat on a slab and I had to peak to get her name (which eventually wasn't her real name). Anyways after months I approached her and we started talking. Am a muslim and she is a christain! We went home for ASUU strike and that was when I had to let her know my mind. She was young and super cute then and she had a boy friend that doesn't care about her so after she dumped him I came in and it was beautiful beginning for both of us! We were in the same department and well I just didn't care what people thought of like guy you try o...dating a girl from your department. Blah blah! She lost her virginity to me after dating for 3 years and yes we had our issues we fight but still find a way to always come back. I should have paid attention to that thought of hers about religion difference being a barrier cause that was the beginning of the end of our relationship..anyways I always managed to talk her out of it and all of that.

Fast foreward we graduated, and she told me she had a dream that we were posted to the same state that ends with OS! Well lo and behold when posting letter came out we were posted to the same state to serve (sokoto).. We were in the same platoon, same primary place of assignment. In short I was just convinced mehn God has hand in this till she started showing her real color..in nysc one her friend introduced to her to an airforce officer all cause she couldn't come to the north cause she was serving in the east. She told me and I told her to be discreet about it she shouldn't do anyhow and she promised me she won't now knowing it was another begingin of the end of our sweet love..my girl started falling this guy even after I brought all good stuff kept it in her lodge cause she was the female CLO. I was so heartbroken and all of that I faught to get my girl back. All she kept saying was religion is a barrier I told her, your parents knows me and yes they do in fact am treated like a family already..well we kept on going though after nysc reality dawned on me I was at home for good 3 years before getting something doing while she was already into a teaching job in lagos then moved down to abk now..she was supportive during all those while even though we fight and all of that.

So then she did it again, she met another guy over there and started giving in for him and i knew something wasn't right I asked her talked to her she wouldn't tell me...she is the quiet type. i was literally going mental I summoned courage and traveled down to abeokuta to visit her. When she knew I was coming she insisted I shouldn't her younger brother told me to go...on getting there she told me she wouldn't see me and I agreed I just made up my mind I will hang out for 2 days and leave back to abuja..sha she came after her brother talked to her...she came to the hotel I lodged into and she told me after her work she would tell me everything..i wouldn't want to go through her phone yes cause the following morning she cooked and I went to get the food from her and my battery was low so she suggested to give me her small phone..lo and behold I saw this number like more than 10 calls like they talked often...i was going crazy this is happening again....i didn't collect the phone later that day she came to my hotel room and I asked her yet she couldn't talk she was on her period so she went to the bathe room and I picked her phone and mailed her chat to my mail and the funny thing was she archived it...


Mehn reading those texts was devastating...she said things to the guy about me she has told me this and that and I don't want to agree now blah blah..mehn I cried like a baby...i cried like a baby! You didn't have the courage to tell me I had to find out myself babe..she didn't feel remorse and all of that...i left ogun state on a Sunday to resume work on monday...we still did talk and all of that and I had to proved to her this guy has nothing for you cause a female friend of mine had to talk to the guy and this guy started playing along with her too and mehn...this is what I can never do you bae ...why do this to me this guy ain't loving you at all...


Fast forward things didn't work out between them and I still got her back even knowing in my heart and asking myself I hope you are not digging your own grave guy...if this guy loves you and believe in you and your dream she wouldn't be doing all of this...we are 10 years plus and this year I made the move to her parent of my intention..i want to marry their daughter..her mother that was my team started giving excuses of letting a pastor know this and that ...my mum spoke with the family and her mum was like she will pray about it you know religion this and that....the thing is she told her parent we was gonna come around to meet them...so the covid19 palava happened....interstate movement banned...her parent are in the far north (maiduguri)..


Sha to cut the long story short I am back to the same boat again....religion differences...after all.these years and moving on and taking huge step already, talked to your parents...wow! why don't you just believe in me at all..she gave excuses that she is scared I might do this and that...and she will be selfish cause she wants her kids to be raised in a Christian home and one faith..her mum hasn't even gotten back to us...each time my mum calls her she said she still waiting for the pastor to give her results and all....seeing all this, she has kept me in a situation whereby I just don't know where to start from...2 weeks I haven't been myself and asking myself this was all wrong in the first place...she never truly feel anything for me...causw she is adamant about the religion differences now...she can't continue again she has been depressed and all of that...since I know her we haven't stayed a week not talking....2 days was highest...i feel emotionally abused and I feel bad why can't I just let her go...?


Please I need advice! She is the girl have known all this while...letting her go is more difficult for me even when I know she doesnt have anything for me inside her again..am just so confused! I want to let her go I don't know how to tell her cause it is what she wants already..thinking I should change my lines and let it go like that


Your candid advice will be appreciated..thanks...plesse forgive my typo error and all