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Destined2win:
please don't laugh at me, I am ashamed

Thank you

Archarofficial:
Okay. So it's a long distance thing. plus, according to your 3rd answers it seems your relationship with this girl has not even taken off officially. Anyway, this is what's happening in a nutshell: you're pushing her away, as usual!

I know you probably don't get how that statement makes sense but listen,:

If any two people are attracted to eachother, but one person's attraction becomes too hot too early, the other person would begin to back off and lose interest. It doesn't make sense but that's just the way we humans were created.

So, that was your error. And from your answer number 1 I'm sorry it's going to keep happening because it's a cycle: you're getting close to a girl or u even start dating her, everything seems to be going fine until YOU start worrying that something would go wrong and she would leave you, this fear makes you begin to act clingy or jealous or controlling or all of the above, she begins to back off and maybe give you attitude because of your annoying behavior, you panic that your fears are coming true so you try even harder to appease her attitude, she gets angrier and maybe leaves or becomes cold to you, you conclude that God doesn't like you that's why he's bringing heartbreaker girls your way. But really, it wasn't her; it was YOU!

My advice: you are not ready for the dating world. You need to first subdue your fears and learn to not need any girl in your life before you even try to date one. As for this one you're talking about, just forget she even exists. This is not to spite her, because, really, she didn't do anything wrong; shes just being human. But it's you who needs to write-off relationships for now. You're like a wounded animal who has to lie down somewhere and heal properly before trying to hunt another animal again. If you date any girl now, she will literally become the centre of your universe and that may be too much responsibility for the lady. Im not asking you to get busy with work cos that's just trying to hide from your problem. I'm asking you to find your passion, your joy, what makes you tick, then devote yourself to it. You can save up some money and take a trip to a random new place (not your village o) because new experiences help to open up ur mind and you may just find your passion. You'll become happier and it will heal you. Then I promise you that any girl you get involved with will be complaining that you don't have her time- because you're too busy loving your life!

If u still need more advice Go to https://passionresolve.com/project-lora/
It's only for Ladies but u might be an exception. Take care!

Thanks for your response on my thread... about your questions.

1. I've been heartbroken several times...

2. I am a graduate who doesn't have a job yet but I run a little laundry business of my own pending the time I get a job.

3. The girl was someone I met through a friend, 5yrs ago but recently we connect on facebook and we exchanged contact. She's an undergraduate of Osun state university. She often complains to me about her bf that he's too nosy and I try to be a good friend and I advice her, but as for me, I don't have a relationship at the moment.

This are the answers to the question, if there's more I'd gladly answer them..

Archarofficial:
Okay. I guessed as much. This is a typical instance when it comes to boy-girl relationships. Sometimes it's the girl who begins to panic that she's losing the guy. And it only gets worse unless you quickly control things before it's too late. Okay let's talk:

1. Have you been heartbroken by a girl before?

2. Are you a student or working? What do you do with your time?

3. Tell me a bit about this girl and your relationship.


Lets start from there.

It means he lost interest in you. It has happened to me before when I caught my gf on another guy. I just didn't have the urge to touch her anymore even when we are together...

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]When a guy doesn't ask you for se.x anymore, what could it mean?[/color]

Well, I feel she's losing interest in me and am really attracted to her.... Am scared I might lose her...

Archarofficial:
Hello, you need to be more elaborate with your exact challenge when youre asking for advice. Do you feel like she's losing interest in you or you're worried you're falling in love or, what exactly is the problem?

I have a friend of the opposite sex, we've been friend for a long time but we just recently got close and am starting to get used to her. I miss her when she doesn't chat with me, I feel I have an incomplete day when I don't talk to her. Recently she's not been that friend anymore, I think am getting attracted to her.

Please nairalanders and the proffesional with matters of the heart should please help me.

I got this message too and im confused if it's real or not. Does anyone know this company?

I got the same message this evening...

Dejinho14:
Pls who else got this msg, nd how true is it....





you are invited for a Customer Service/Telesales job opportunity, come with a CV and passport photo to 634 Adeyemo Alakija Str (Ground Floor) VI, Lagos 1pm Jan 15th. Salary is very attractive. Call Ms Tolu to determine eligibility.

I graduated with a Third class in school and i wish to go for a post graduate degree in Canada... Does anyone know how i can go about this? I need your advice please.

Jimi Agbaje for mequote author=brio post=28714626]The primaries have been concluded in Lagos and the two gladiators that I predicted to clinch their parties tickets have done so. I saw it coming but the Ogas at the top did not let the thread to see the light of day!

Let look at their profile

JIMI AGBAJE

Mr.  Joseph Olujimi Kolawole Agbaje is a pharmacist by training from the then University of Ife, now Obafemi Awolowo University Ile-Ife.
He possesses veteran experience with over 3 decades as a practicing pharmacist. He served in many health management capacities in his early years as a pharmacist in Lagos State, and is currently the Managing Director of Jaykay Pharmaceutical & Chemical Company Ltd. which is responsible for the manufacturing and distribution of pharmaceuticals across the country. He is a Fellow, Pharmaceutical Society of Nigeria (FPSN); Fellow, West African Post Graduate College of Pharmacists (FPCPharm); Merit Award Winner (MAW), Pharmaceutical Society of Nigeria (Lagos State).

Mr. Agbaje has also held various professional appointments which include National Chairman, Nigerian Association of General Practice Pharmacists (1990 – 1993), Chairman, Pharmaceutical Society of Nigeria (Lagos State) 1994 – 1997, Chairman, 1994 National Conference Planning committee of the Pharmaceutical Society of Nigeria, National Secretary Nigerian Association of General Practice (1987-1990), just to mention a few.

He has participated in various international programs including the Executive Management Program at the Wits Business School, Johannesburg & Cape Town Business School, South Africa; World Health Organization training course on Good Manufacturing Practice (GMP) in the Pharmaceutical sector; UNICEF Oral Rehydration Therapy program (train the trainer course).

He sits on the Board of other organisations including Oakwood Park Ltd and Atlantic Hall Secondary School Epe.


AKINWUNMI AMBODE

Akinwunmi Ambode is an Accountant, Administrator, Public Finance expert, a retired Civil Servant who served Lagos State meritoriously for 27years; holding key positions across all cadres of the state’s civil service such as the Auditor General for Local Governments, Permanent Secretary, Ministry of Finance and Accountant General of Lagos State.

After his retirement from the Civil Service at 49, he established Brandsmiths Consulting Limited – a public finance and management-consulting firm with a deep knowledge of the Nigerian public sector. He serves as the Managing Consultant/CEO and has used his wealth of experience and social network to build alliances that will establish Brandsmiths as a world-class professional services provider, engaging in strategic planning, operations improvement, business planning and public financial management. The firm and its associates are presently working with State and Federal government agencies to cut-over to the new IPSAS system of public accounting which takes effect from 2014.

He graduated with Honours in Accounting from the University of Lagos at the age of 21. At 24, he had become a member of the Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria and finished a Masters degree in Accounting specializing in Financial Management, also at the University of Lagos, via a Federal Government Scholarship. He also received a US Fulbright scholarship for the Hubert H. Humphrey Fellowship at Boston University in Massachusetts.

He is an alumnus of Wharton Business School Advance Management Programme. He has attended courses at renowned institutions such as Cranfield School of Management, Cranfield, England, the Institute of Management Development Lausanne, Switzerland, INSEAD Singapore and the Harvard Kennedy School of Government, Boston, USA.

He is passionate about Lagos, developing young leaders and professionals and contributing to the society from which he has gained so much.


Please Nairalanders let give our words for each of these candidates.

Who do you think will win?

This was the thread I created
https://www.nairaland.com/1996386/lagos-gubernatorial-poll-jimi-agbaje[/quote]

livinbygrace:
At 33 am still a virgin.

... Good for you...

woky:
Mtcheeew!! So ur friend opened her legs for Chukwudi in exchange of a cheap job.. Cashier

.. Lol, her friend is a fool