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Allthingswork:
Dominique, i took the time to copy and paste the below comments from other female members of the forum to drive home a point, and the point being that your agenda at whipping up sentiments from females didn't succeed. You want to support what is wrong just to make the man in the story look like the actual " person of particular interest " Nah, it's the lady. She's the one we are all reading about here! Ntorr.

You even went as far as saying that a lady who disagreed with you and spoke against the dirty blocked one -night -stander must be a male using a female moniker, in order to get males on here to slide into her DMs. How low can you go? * singing the song, " how low can you go "(*2). You just can't come to terms with women disagreeing with your one-sided view. It shocked you.
Comments from females below:

winnah(f): Quote Post
How hard is it to process information.
According to the lady, she messed up the place, the house was clean before her arrival. The guy bought her food... She ate the food and leave the entire place untidy.


Did you observe that she didn't clear up the leftover from the food he bought for her the night before? The guy is supposed to do that for her? She couldn't even tidy up the bed she slept on! That's not ladylike at all.

Maybe it's a fake story sha.
winnah(f): Quote Post
How hard is it to process information.
According to the lady, she messed up the place, the house was clean before her arrival. The guy bought her food... She ate the food and leave the entire place untidy.


Thelma001(f): Quote Post
Excuse you sir! First and foremost, i don’t need to prove my gender to you if you finding it hard to believe. Secondly, a woman is in the house, sleeping after eating and dinning in your apartment, on a Monday that you were rushing to work, so you were actually gonna sweep, clean and tidy the house while she sleeps. You can only do that if you don’t have a good intentions towards her. If you really see her as a wife material, you’d expect more from her and I guess that was what the guy was expecting and since she didn’t tick the box, he let her go. What’s bad about that?

ultraviolet27(f): Quote Post
mere looking at her physique you will know she is a lazy, slothful, dirty thing just like my friends cousin in the university Idowu she could sleep till 10am in the morning same thing with my neighbour here that guy could sleep till 10am also and very dirty no wonder he isn't married till now so you can see it's not a gender thing fortunately idowu was very clean though!

I can't just stand any member of the 2 genders that sleeps too much,are dirty and lazy a man still on his bed till 10:30 am and won't even brush till 3pm because he hasn't gone out yet when you speak to him his morning breath will be visible,how is he even going to hustle for his daily bread?(that's my male neighbour)same with a lady a mother to be in the future who has to be reminded every hour to close the windows,trash the dishes,lay the bed,sweep the floors when she isn't amnesiac then how is she going to instill those values into her kids?

I take my personal hygiene highly I can't stand an adult who still has morning breath at 3:30pm because he/she hasn't left her bed

dominique:
It's so baffling how nobody sees nothing wrong with a man leaving his house dirty. He must have kept the environment dirty in expectation that his girlfriend is coming to clean it up. Total pig! If anybody dodged a bullet, it's the lady. Women! Add value to yourselves so men won't see you as maids to clean up their mess.



So it's only women that are required to clean up their surroundings when they wake up? Men are expected to stink up the whole place till a woman comes in to clean it up? It's very easy to spot a male disguising as female, and some imbe men go don slide into his DM to get to "know him better"

Excuse you sir! First and foremost, i don’t need to prove my gender to you if you finding it hard to believe. Secondly, a woman is in the house, sleeping after eating and dinning in your apartment, on a Monday that you were rushing to work, so you were actually gonna sweep, clean and tidy the house while she sleeps. You can only do that if you don’t have a good intentions towards her. If you really see her as a wife material, you’d expect more from her and I guess that was what the guy was expecting and since she didn’t tick the box, he let her go. What’s bad about that?

dominique:
It's so baffling how nobody sees nothing wrong with a man leaving his house dirty. He must have kept the environment dirty in expectation that his girlfriend is coming to clean it up. Total pig! If anybody dodged a bullet, it's the lady. Women! Add value to yourselves so men won't see you as maids to clean up their mess.



So it's only women that are required to clean up their surroundings when they wake up? Men are expected to stink up the whole place till a woman comes in to clean it up? It's very easy to spot a male disguising as female, and some imbe men go don slide into his DM to get to "know him better"

Excuse you… Did you read properly?
Let’s call a spade a spade. A woman is in the house, slept, ate and dined in his house. He woke up and she was still sleeping, so he should tidy the house while she sleeps.

Those things you claim to forget are basic things a woman do on a daily basis. You ain’t used to doing them was why you forgot. As a lady, you wake up in the morning, wash, clean and do some little tidying if not much. Because you’re dirty and your apartment stinks is why you left the guys apartment to stink. I’m so glad the guy didn’t ignore the red flag. Someone like you would forget a child in school or always call your husband to remind you to pick the kids at 3pm. What nonsense!!!!

lordm:
If civil servant with lower salaries are building, what's your excuse?

Remember they have access to loans

Babatunjo:
Nothing I wrote was about me personally. I just made an argument. And you didn't dispute a single point. Not one. You went straight for character attack. That's called ad hominem.

If the argument is wrong, show me where

You made an argument based on your perspective, you view, your ideology, your mentality. And I told you to work on that perspective of yours, that mentality of yours that’s making you think and write what you wrote there, because with this mentality you’re having, you won’t take any lady serious.

I pity the woman loving you atm. With this your mentality, dating you will be headache. You really have a long way to go on working on yourself, your perspectives and your mentality. I hope you be better.

If you have a problem with her mum checking on her that means you have a very sick intention towards her. I mean the world generally is not safe for women. Imagine going to see your bf and he butchers you into pieces. Her mother could be her best friend that she tells everything. Listen times are changing and our parent are getting to understand that been harsh on children is not the solution, because they would do what they want to do with them being harsh, Infact under their nose. Even if it’s two days you’ve been talking to her, and she decides to visit you, she must tell her parents. Theirs is to give advices or opinions and hers is to decide either to take them or leave them. Still, if she decides to ignore her parents advice, they still have to watch after her to ensure nothing goes wrong with their daughter. So if you have a problem with that, go to club, you’ll find those who have no one to check on them.

Love800:
Phones nawadays are one of the organs in human body.
I doubt anyone can do without phone. Especially android.

Android you say?

How can they be in Lagos without getting their medal first?

Namaster:
First of all, the boy is NOT your step brother.
He's your HALF-BROTHER.

A stepbrother would be the man's son before he married your mother.

You would have ZERO blood relations to a step brother. Unlike this one that is your mother's child.

Now to the MAIN issue:

Your mother is an IRRESPONSIBLE woman married to an equally IRRESPONSIBLE man.
Both of them ABANDONED their responsibility of parenting their own child and want to FOIST it on you.

REJECT it!

In your own words, you are still STRUGGLING.
Your financial capability is LIMITED.
And you are currently UNEMPLOYED.
Just hustling from day to day.

If you add a growing boy to that mix, get ready for TROUBLE.
Poverty will GRAB unto you like a childhood sweetheart seeing for the first time in decades—and refuse to let go.

You will need to STRETCH your resources for two people.
And then expend the MENTAL resources you should be using to plan your future into PARENTING a boy whose parents are both alive.

Plus, you can rest ASSURED that the boy will DISRESPECT you.
NOBODY attracts disrespect like a POOR MAN trying to play Big Brother.

You will have to spend time and effort to BEAT the sheet out of him.
Over and over again.

Then when you get tired, you'll be FORCED to send him back and become the DEVIL you are trying to avoid in the first place.

Plus, I'm pretty sure that NOBODY will assist you with money when you are financially stranded.

You NEED to get your sheet together before you can help anyone else.

Help yourself BEFORE you help anybody.

Siblings are NOT substitute parents.
Let his parents PARENT.

Piling financial and parental BURDEN on someone still trying to make their way in life is why GENERATIONAL POVERTY is so difficult to shake off.

You’re so wise. I love your submission. I hope he listens