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APOPTOSIS:
What can you do?
What ideas can you bring onboard?
Which part of Nigeria do you reside?

I'm a freelance writer. I craft engaging and converting SEO articles, original and emotionally gripping stories, copies that converts, and blog posts that keeps viewers glued and return to your blog site.

I reside in Ilorin, kwara state.

Spiff20:
The sad part is the recruiters lacking the kindness and decency to at least tell you your application was rejected. They just ignore like it's garbage, keeping hopes high, and the hopes fading after months of waiting. At the very core of our humanity, we lack kindness and empathy. When we complain about how cold the world is, everyone should just share from the blame. It's on us.

Honestly, it's not the rejection that hurts most times but the silence.

I wish they can have the decency to say an outright NO and save people from having hope in vain.

harjay1986:
If you don't mind there is a graduate Training opening with a company that is Lagos and Ogun state

The link to their site is here

https://primeatlantic.seamlesshiring.com/h/advanced#/jobs

Register and try your luck

Thanks so much for this

Hardeybohwarley:
Aameen.

It's not really a big deal, just follow the job board and apply to jobs you think you can do as much you can.

I had an interview in Lagos scheduled for sales executive but I didn't honour it because I have a plan and it won't allow me reach my objective.

So just continue applying, job hunting is funny, I got two jobs that I couldn't remember when I applied for and despite offering me the job, I was ghosted at the onboarding stage.

Just pray persistently and apply voraciously, and I believe you will smile sooner as well.

You can also drop your mail so as to send you a group that posts job offers.

ummulkhayr101@gmail.com
JazzakumuLlahu khayrah

heracles1:
welcome to Nigeria it will reach a level where u will stop applying

So pathetic.

Hardeybohwarley:
I sent out more than 100 in a month and didn't get nothing.

Meanwhile recently I got a job through Nairaland job boards.

So just keep applying.

Really?

BaarokaLlahu feek. Can you please guide me on how to apply?

Millions of job offers are being rolled out daily but to secure a job is like taking a donkey through the eye of a needle.

I've sent out more than 30 application this month; 2 replied with outright no and the rest was met with silence.

No call nor message to prove my worth and experience in the field.
I believe recruiters can do better.

Getting a rejection mail is better than waiting in vain.

Postpartum Depression.

Let’s Talk About Dealing With Postpartum Depression (PPD)

Approximately 10-15% of women experience postpartum depression in a year. So, that feeling of being overwhelmed, sad, extreme mood swings and exhaustion beyond normal, or you not just being your usual self is okay.
You're not alone, you just pooped out a whole human so it's normal for you to feel different.

Society will tell you “ You should be happy to behold your bundle of joy” . They expect that natural glow that comes with a new baby, the gleefulness, the happiness and joy that comes with a new baby.
But what happens when you feel otherwise?

What happens when instead of cuddling your baby, you feel repulsed by the presence of your child?
What happens when you feel empty with zero connection to the one you carried in your womb for nine months?
Postpartum depression is real, it's common and it's very okay to talk about it.



Have you ever felt any of these after having a baby?

You feel empty, hopeless and sad.
You cry over little and silly things
You don't feel any connection whatsoever with your baby
You feel terrible about yourself
You have difficulty falling asleep
You don’t enjoy things you used to
You feel anxious and panic@##ked for no valid reason.

If these sounds familiar then you might be experiencing postpartum depression and you should seek HELP!

Being scared of what people will say, how they'll perceive you, their judgement about your mother's instincts and all might feel overwhelming but you need to seek help and not validation.


Ways to overcome PPD

1. Talk to someone.
Speak up, talk to someone you trust. It may be your spouse, friend, parents, family, doctor or even a fellow mum. Saying “ I don't feel okay, I need help” isn't a weakness. It's strength

2. Seek help.
Seek help through therapy, support group and even medications helps in some cases.

3. Rest.
Take a nap, eat, sleep and breathe. It's not laziness, it's healing.
You can't pour from an empty cup. If you're not okay, you can't care for your child.



Dear Momma, Remember This:

You're not weak. You're not lazy.
You are not broken. You are not a failure.
You are healing from one of the biggest emotional and physical shifts a person can experience. Popping out a baby is a hard job and you deserve an ovation.

Your body needs rest and your baby deserves the healthy you. So take care of yourself.


Have you experienced postpartum depression?
Do you know someone who has?
What helped you? Or what do you wish you knew earlier?

Let’s make the comment section a safe space for real talk.


With love from a fellow mother who understands.

I'm yet to publish but I'll advise you to make use of Facebook.
You can post your stories on Facebook. You can start with free stories, after you get enough audience you start posting premium stories (you post some chapters and stop, anyone interested will pay for the ebook)

My writing journey.

I was six when my mum had my little brother, it's safe to say I became a mum at the age of six.
I'd rock him to sleep, feed him, clean up for him and back him. I couldn't really play with my peers because I'm always busy caring for my little baby.

Staying indoors always made me develop the passion for reading. I used to read one story book per day and by the age of eight, I could read a novel without guidance.
I would read and look up new words from the dictionary without any guide.

I wrote my first story at the age of ten(not complete till now, lol). I would write and read to my friends in school.
I used to dream of becoming a writer, not just a writer but a celebrated writer with many books published in my name.

After my junior school certificate examination, my dad asked which department I would love to go to and I mentioned arts without thinking twice.
Well, typical of a Nigerian parent, he refused and convinced me to go for sciences because he wanted me to be a medical doctor.

I obliged and the three years went by so quickly. I wrote my first jamb with medicine and surgery as my first and second choice courses and I got 198.
I wrote the second the following year( I chose statistics) and I got 218. I got admission into the university with the second Jamb to study statistics.

I got into the university in 2015 and graduated in 2019. I came across a flyer for a writing course in 2022, I enrolled but couldn't complete the course due to some personal issues.
I wrote a story in 2023(not yet complete but hope to complete it soon).

I re-enrolled for the writing course this year and I can say that my writing skills have improved to a great extent.
I'm writing another story now (The psychopath), I still can't tell how I developed interest in horror and thriller stories.

Writing is not something you can just start and perfect in a short time. It's exhausting and highly demanding.
It requires a calm mind and focus and it must be passion driven because you'll become bored at a point.
If your zeal for writing is not so strong, you'll give up on your dreams of becoming a writer.

I hope you've learnt a thing or two from my story?
Follow me for tips on how to develop your writing skills and also for motivations and encouragement.

Comparing the way homes are operated 100 years ago and now, we will discern that Technology is having a great impact on home management. Technology relieves the homemaker from so many stressful house works. How does the baby monitor help in easing housework stress? Why not just walk to the nursery to check on the baby? After all, it takes less than a minute to walk from the living room or studio to the nursery. It's often said that Technology abets laziness but is it true? I'd say it's more about freedom than laziness as it helps to bridge the physical distance between the mother and the baby giving the mother some free time to herself. With the baby monitor, the mother can cook and care for the baby simultaneously. With less than $200, you can buy yourself this freedom.

Children are being deprived of their childhood all in the name of education. Imagine a two-year-old leaving the house as early as 7 am and coming back by 3pm. Getting home very tired, instead of performing siesta, the child continues with homework leaving the child with few hours to rest. Parents should let the kids grow at their pace.

In my own opinion, I'd say kids under 4years should be homeschooled. Homeschooling kids for the first few years helps a lot with the child's development, it helps greatly in boosting a child's confidence and communication skills. "Slow and steady wins the game" lets allow the kids to enjoy their childhood, starting school early doesn't guarantee a child's brilliancy.