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go for ignis

im grateful for my parents. how about you?

Dimaya:
keep building your dreams. your time will come

thank you boss. great one

it means they've been scammed by the bank


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0r4pp-u_uI
there's no difference between the bank and the young men here.

great

Damilare2023:
Baba I Dey run same job
Make we reason
I go email u

EFCC go soon gbab you

Bonab:
The reason why you are suspicious of everything about the opposite gender is because of too many negative stories you have heard about people in marriages and sometimes your own past negative experiences in relationships or marriages.

It is not your fault that you can't believe anything different, because the trauma of your past and many negative testimonies of others have altered the way you see things.

We always make guesses in life by matching known patterns to new experiences. If you were betrayed in the past, despite being good and kind to people,your new reaction to any relationship is fear and distrust.

However, if you're not observant to recognize that your past trauma is seriously affecting your relationship presently,you may end up destroying what you have.

We all treat people in a certain way based on our past experiences,which maybe negative or positive. It is bad if it is negative, as that can ruin our chances of maintaining healthy relationships or managing people.

First, through deep retrospection identify patterns that exist in your life,which could be traced to a particular past trauma.

Secondly, forgive yourself or the people involved who caused you such heartbreaks. If you don't forgive them,you will keep getting angry and justifying your actions; which will make you to remain stuck in that loop of past experiences and make you never to trust and commit to anyone.

Forgiveness will aid your healing. What you forgive will have no power to break you again. What you refuse to forgive,will continue to diminish your peace and affect your every decisions. Understand that certain heartbreaks teaches us how to value good people and gives us feedback on how our decisions (right or wrong)molds our destiny.

Lastly, give yourself time to heal. Looking for a rebound will not help you to heal,rather what you have refused to learn from in the past will keep showing up all over again.

If you don't heal properly before entering another relationship, the same mistake will recur.

If you don't evaluate your past trauma and heal from them,you would think that you're jinxed in life, because you will continue to get a particular outcome and blame others for it. This is why some people wonder why every good person that enters into their life leaves unexpectedly and they will end up saying,love is not for them .

Past traumas are a big deal.Deal with it before it destroys you.

I agree with you whole eartedly. but what will you say to this girl who has hard 6 abortions for her ex and now has a great suitor. should she postpone the guy until she heals or what?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=em0ztzwHRaI

It's easier said than dealt with.

GeneralKoko:
Although I have always been suspicious but I didn't have evidence on my hand because she cleaned and cleared all evidence sha.

But I later got the confirmation I needed about my girlfriend cheating.
The thing is she's saying she's been distancing herself from the person.
When I caught her,she crode and begged and but I refused. Although I have told her that I forgive her and want to give her another chance.

Can a girl that cheated once change?

You're not the only one with a cheating girlfriend. This guy has the same problem, and he was given very great advice here. I watched the show live and I'll advice you watch it till the end.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Hg8qQ8WZL0

Pay particular attention to the story that was told by Ebube from 17:50 about the lady that attended her church. You'll know what to do.

cheers

Flows001:
Music title: Long Story
Artiste: Erigga

Go and listen to the real gist in that song

just listened. e be like say na true una dey talk

duduade:
Fake story

On the other side

She must be a cheerful giver...

not fake. watch the video

My name is Tega and I am from delta state. I proposed to my long time girlfriend early this year and I invited my best friend to come for my wedding. He's an artist who lives in Lagos. i told him about the wedding preparation, that he will to be my best man. He accepted and made the necessary preparations to come to delta state.

He got to Delta state and got checked into a hotel. I wasn't in town at that moment and I promised to be at the hotel first thing in the morning the next day. I told him to be comfortable and I had ordered everything and if he needed anything else he should order it. I also told him to feel free to bring a plus one for my wedding and he told me that it's not going to be an issue because he already had a girl coming in tonight to the hotel and this particular girl and himself already has history prior to the time he was in delta state.

Fast Forward to the next day i got to the hotel and i met up with my friend at the reception and we got talking with all the excitement and all, he later asked me for 150k that he lost his ATM card and he had network issues with his bank, and he would refund me later , he said he needed it urgently to give the girl that came last night, that she said she needed to buy some things for a party she's planning. I had no problem because my friend would always refund me and we went upstairs to his room so i could even see the girl ,when i got to the room i could not believe my eyes



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Hg8qQ8WZL0