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jameswolex:
Still paying.
Start doing something now.

Done.

But nowhere to download the app

Don't worry.

You will get tired eventually

We are not even talking about overhead shower here.

Just to burst hole and connect drain pipe.

You had better do the needful quickly to avoid that storm in the horizon.

Paragonpric:
Good afternoon everyone, am a 28 year old guy with good successful businesses and I can say I am doing well all thanks to God.

The problem I have is my inability to spend money on myself, I don't dress well nor do I eat well. People often doubt if I have the things I have cos I don't look it at all. Am modest to a fault, I haven't eaten chicken for the last 5years am being serious here. I just find it extremely difficult to spend money on Myself.

Sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me. I asked my few friends if I give off poverty mentality vibes and they said YES. Growing up was really really tough on me as i come from a very poor home, I don't know if that has affected my psyche.

Please how do I defeat this mentality

Who exactly are you keeping all that money for?.
You better start enjoying life and spend on yourself
Start by purchasing top quality clothes. You need to look on-point. Infact OP, I challenge you to buy 3 new pairs of shoes, 5 trousers, shirts, native attires and perfumes in 2025
Get a big mirror and talk to yourself positively once in a while.
Take yourself out and squander money once in a while. Infact , I challenge you to enter KFC and order your heart's desire.
You cannot have money and be living in penury.

Samantha125:
He is entitled to express his emotions, but because of a mere fabric? Come on...😑😑😑

Thats why I said, to some trivial things matter, to others it doesn't.
It's just part of being human.
Everyone has their own programming.
There are some things you will tolerate and I will not, and vice versa.

Samantha125:
All because of a fabric? He's a drama king...😑😑😑

LoL. Still doesn't change the fact that he's entitled to express his emotions.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

The product of an idle mind!

Ending your life?? That won't stop your ex-wife from eating rice and stew, with meat after 2 or 3 days. You better discard that thought.!
The first thing you need to do is to make peace with what has happened. Weep, cry, feel bad, feel angry, feel however you want to feel...then LET IT ALL GO!!.
What has happened has happened, there is no turning back now. It is better to focus your energy on your future than dwell on a past that will only suck the remaining life out of you.
As time goes, you will feel less pained and you will only remember that past in passing.
Just like the death of a loved one, after a while we rarely remember them because the cares of day to day life ends up displacing their memories.
The worst mistake you can make is to dwell on it like your life depends on it. It will make you become a shadow of yourself.
Since you are an introvert, surround yourself with family and close friends, or start one or two projects ongoing to keep your mind busy and infuse your life with some new purpose. Not all battles should be fought alone. Sometimes just knowing that someone out there knows how you feel or empathizes with you can give the needed strength to forge on

Sink or swim, the choice is yours!

Samantha125:
Drama king spotted...😑😑😑

Cut the man some slack lady!. Last I checked he's also human and has emotions.
You think it's easy to form "iron man" all your life?. You ladies get away with pettier issues, but for a man, nobody cares how you feel.

Sorry Op.
Sometimes you have to make concessions for people in order to have peace of mind. Don't expect everyone to think or act like you do all the time. You wife's intentions were honest, but delivery was poor.
Like the post above me said, sometimes you just have to ignore certain things from people who are close to us.
To some people, certain trivial things matter, others don't even give a damn. We must learn to balance and react to both in the life.

Talk is cheap!!.

Make peace with certain things in life. It will help you sleep better.

Some white lies are better than the gospel truth.

Some painful memories eventually leave after teaching you a lesson.

Carry no one on a pedestal. No one is truly altruistic.

So sad.

Like I told someone.

Alot of people travel everyday. Some will make it to their destination, some won't. Such is the life we live. The lottery wheel of life and death.