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READ What Is Happening To Ladies These Days:
“I Must Marry This Year”
A desperate person is someone who feels she
has no hope and is ready to do anything to
satisfy this burning need. I read the tale of
woe of two individuals that will be getting
married in a couple of months. I will call
them Emeka and Lola (real names withheld).
Lola is in her late 30s and her desire to find
the right guy has gone from hopefully
optimistic to desperation so much that after
only three months of knowing Emeka, she’s
decided to marry him.
The thing about Emeka is that he is the
complete opposite of Lola. She is obsessively
neat; but Emeka never learns to clean up
himself. She is an independent career woman;
he has a chauvinistic streak a mile way. She
manages her money well; but he buys based on
what he wants rather than what he can afford…
and the list goes on. They fight constantly to
the point that it is uncomfortable to be
around them. With the wedding only two months
away, the only thing left to ask is:
“Why would she want to marry a man who is
obviously incompatible with her?”
A female friend of mine also shared the story
of a guy she met, who didn’t even ask her out,
and blurted out suddenly: “Please, marry me.”
He didn’t hear her out, and started making
plans for a wedding. Individuals like this
have an invisible signpost on their head with
the inscription: “Will you marry me?”
After a year or two into their wedding borne
out of desperation to get married, many men
and women soon realise that they are miserable
with their spouses. Yes, you are being
pressured by friends and families to get
married; pressures that make those family
picnics and extended family events bitter
experiences. That is not enough reason to rush
to the altar.
Anything done in desperation is usually as a
result of a decision taken under pressure. The
romance novels and movies showing quickie
marriages and glamour often don’t show the
reality of a couple’s life later in their
journey together. No thanks to singles
seminars which only promise participants swift
marriages without teaching them how to go
through due process in relationships.
According to Dr Angelis: “When you are feeling
lonely or desperate, you are much likely to
make poor love choices and end up in
unfulfilling relationships”. Some people are
so emotionally empty that they are desperate
for anyone to marry. In the end, they end up
in a painful relationship. The following are
the signs of desperation which are not
exhaustive.
Getting too attached too early:
When you start getting attached to a person
you just met and even saying “I love you”
after a few dates, it’s a sign of desperation.
You can make a clean break if you are involved
with a needy, clingy and desperate person.
Having a profile listed with every single
known dating site online:
This is a serious clue that you are desperate.
If your profile is on every dating site you
come across, that is a red flag you must deal
with.
Constantly buying gifts:
Getting gifts is good, but when it becomes too
much it loses its meaning and relevance. This
is usually obtainable among men. The average
dude believes he can use gifts to buy his way
into a lady’s heart.
Wanting to meet the family too soon:
“When am I meeting your people?” Is usually
the question a desperate person asks. You
should give much time before introducing
family and other relatives to a suitor. If you
are dealing with a person who is pushing to
meet your family and you are barely dating two
months that’s a red flag. Allow time to play
its role in your relationship.
Dressing in attire that is provocative:
This is a clear example of someone who is
insecure. This is prevalent among women. If
you come across this type of lady it’s time to
move on to someone who is comfortable in her
own body and doesn’t need to show off her
cleavage to everyone she comes in contact
with.
From a young age many of us have been taught
that marriage is a rite of passage and you
don’t become an adult or a woman until you get
married. This social pressure, real or
imagined, doesn’t make it true. You do not

A husband is that man God made and
then saw
that it may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose for
making him, without a help mate and then made
the woman
and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE
IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building
the family
of God here on earth. For those who see marriage
as a way
out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women
are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH
WITH HIS
DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route
to where
God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth is that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT
HIS
DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not
saying that
you should pick anyone that comes your way and
talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials. What
I am
saying is that you should stop setting your
standard on
material acquisitions or physical.appearances.
Look beyond
the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS
NOT WHAT
HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS
MADE UP
OF. And that which he is made of is, most times,
not seen with
the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a
permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and
that which
is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in
prayer. God
did not just make Eve for making sake; He made
her for
Adam's need to be met. 2A4F57B9

Ensure you master these tips, it might not come your way again. As I receive I write and as I write, I pray that God will inspire every reader to act as instructed to avoid marriage pitfalls. My discovery shows that many marriages are established daily and more marriages are tearing apart from the wedding planning process. Be wise and guard your heart with diligence.

* CHOICE: The only thing that will keep you happy for life is the "choice" of a partner you make today. Imagine how many years you intend to live after marriage, would you like to live those 50, 70 and more than 100years in pain, agony, abuse and regret for life, no you wouldn't. Then take time to chose your partner right.


* Your word are seed, they come alive or dead. All the battles of life are won in the mind. As a man thinketh, and taketh so he acts. "Chose" to speak your future marriage into being.


* Marriage is a mystery, try an uncover the mystery before you say I do. If not, you may be heading towards an unsafe ground. "Chose" to discover the various mysteries in marriage by working in wisdom


* Marriage is an empty cup, you will find nothing inside marriage. Its like an A4 paper. Whatever you desire your marriage to be, become it before you say I do. Do not expect to get better or see things better except by "choice" you become what you desire.


* Marriage does not give you what you require, demand or need, it gives you what you work out for. By "choice", decide what you work for and things you expect to happen without effort, else, you will regret your ignorance towards seeking wisdom.

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Roll up 2015 like dice,
Cos 2014 has gone cold in ice.
So as you activate this year like a device,
Here are my words of advice...
Be strong and courageous, eradicating all cowardice.
Avoid strife and issues that will lead to prejudice.
All that glitters a'int gold, don't be entice.
Keep good company like spice and for the bad ones get them slice.
Life may not be rosy but please be nice.
For every price pay the sacrifice.
Then at the end, your party will be celebrated with lots of chicken and rice,
Because God's blessings will not only come twice but more than thrice.

Happy New Year!!!!!
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"The heart of the problem is a problem with the heart."

"You're just a prayer away from a change of heart."

"Finding relief in your problem is fine, but it will not cure the problem."

"My environment can give me relief from sin and tension, only the Lord can cure it."

"You can manage your sin, but that's not repentance."

"If it's sin, that's good news! Sin is the simplest thing in the world to deal with."

"There's no human remedy for sin."

"Jesus wants to give you peace."

"You would think that everyone would leap at the chance to get rid of sin. Not so. They want relief not a cure."

"Your walk with God does not depend on people, places, things or events."

"You don"t have a marriage problem, you have a sin problem."

"I am a victim of my own behavior."

"God's children have a limitless supply of the fruit of the Spirit."

"Biblical counseling is listening to a person long enough until you hear a violation of scripture."

"Anger is inside you, revealed by an outside source."

"What your soul needs is a check up."

As a Christian single, keep serving the Lord Jesus faithfully as you wait for the right person to come into your life. Keep your main focus in sight, namely being faithful to the Lord Jesus. In heaven there will be no marriages (Mt. 22:30). Also, Isaac was forty before he got married (Gen. 25:20) and some great men and women of God have never gotten married. The Lord himself was never married.


Never forget: Your most valuable possession is your eternal SOUL. Don’t ever jeopardize it for anything or anyone. Keep your main focus in sight always, that is, getting into God’s paradise kingdom. Something infinitely worse than never getting married is ending up in hell.

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When involved in Christian dating and trying to locate a potential Christian for your life’s partner, evaluate him or her by his or her heart, not their physical appearance, how charming they are, how much money they have, etc. Since God does everything right and he looks on the heart of man, then we should exalt that as most important too. Also, remember some very handsome men and beautiful women have had wicked hearts, as shown even in the Bible with Absalom (a man) and Bathsheba (a woman).

This notion that Christians don’t battle sexual urges is kind of silly and churchy. No person is exempt from any form of temptation.
 The idea that because one is a follower of Jesus Christ they won’t get tempted to have sex or engage in sexual activity is non-sense. Whether you are a married Pastor, single minister, or a layman… you will deal and struggle with temptation.  A lot of people tend to believe this is limited to men only, but females struggle just as much as men – society just looks at the situations differently.
So, the question becomes… how do you (single male, single female, married couple) deal with sexual temptation?
Here are 7 things I have considered when dealing with my own struggle to deal with sexual temptation:
1. Being saved and having morals is not your medicine against sexual temptation. We have to understand this and not think that, because we are not doing certain things, we will not even be tempted to do those things. We have to always be mindful of where we are allowing our minds to go. The same goes for single people who are living a life of celibacy.
2. There is no medicine that makes you immune to sexual temptation.    
3. Sexual temptation is about a personal choice. However, if you do fall to the temptation, get up and keep going. Never allow defeat to steal your joy.
4. Sexual temptation and sin are not synonymous. Just because we are tempted, does not mean we have to yield to it.
5. If you keep falling to a certain sexual temptation, personally decide you will stop. Look deep inside and discover the root cause of it and up-root it. Understand this is a personal decision and a lifestyle. You must actively work at it to defeat it.
6. Eliminate unnecessary contributors to your sexual temptation: specific people, intimacy gadgets, masturbation, pornography, and anything else that makes you vulnerable.
7. Ask a trusted friend to hold you accountable for sexual temptation. Men should ask a male friend and women should ask a female friend for this.
What other tips can you think of?
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My friend Diane got married recently. Walking down the aisle, smiling big, she winked as she passed me. She was stepping into a new season of life—a husband, a new home, new responsibilities … sex. I chuckled at the thought of the "s" word. Diane and Bill hadn't even kissed yet. They wanted to wait until their wedding day. Hence, their dating intimacy had consisted of lingering handshakes, brief hugs, and very few moments completely alone together. "We hold hands and look at each other a lot," Diane once confessed. (Oh, please!) To this day I shake my head every time I think of it.

We've always been different, Diane and I. My mind drifts to the time when a man like Bill was nothing more than a whisper of hope hidden in Diane's heart. Back then we talked about men, marriage, romance, and sex. I was the verbal one; Diane, more modest. I'll never forget how her mouth flew open when I approached our pastor's wife with a fairly provocative question about sex. "I don't want to hear this!" Diane protested adamantly. She covered her ears and stomped away before the pastor's wife could answer. Me? I had no shame. God would send me a husband one day; I wanted to be ready!

Diane says I think about sex too much and must learn to master my bodily urges. I tell her I'd rather let a man do that. She says I'm carnal. I say I'm passionate. She says I must wait on God. I tell her I think God's watch must be broken because he's running a bit late. She says I'm silly because God invented time and doesn't even need a watch. I hate it when she gets theological on me.

My friend Diane says I must learn to master my bodily urges. I tell her I'd rather let a man do that.
A few years ago, Diane and I signed up for a women's conference at our church. The subject was holiness, being set apart for God's unique purpose in our life. The host of the gathering, a cheerful little lady with sparkling eyes and a bright smile, told us we needed to yield every area of our life to Christ, including our sexuality. The ladies in the room—several of whom were married—nodded their heads in agreement. I looked around. Easy for them to say! As for the others—was chastity really that easy for them?

I'd accepted Jesus as my Savior years before. I'd left my boyfriend behind and started a new way of life. I truly loved God. But my hormones were going crazy, and I desperately desired to share my life—and my body—with someone special. So there I sat, feeling like some carnal beast among this lofty group of good Christian ladies.

Finally, it was question and answer time. I swallowed hard and bit my lower lip. Diane looked at me and furrowed her brow. "What are you thinking?" she whispered. "I know that look. Don't you dare embarrass me!"

"Shhh!" I motioned to her harshly.

"You're going to say something about sex!"

I mouthed the words to her, "I want to have sex."

I'd never seen her eyes get quite that big before. She hissed, "So help me, I'll never speak to you . . . "

"I want to have sex," I said plainly to everyone and to no one in particular.

A dead silence descended upon the room.

"Excuse me?" the speaker chirped.

"I said, 'I want to have sex.'"

Diane put her head in her hands. I continued. "No offense, ma'am," I said, "but how do you handle not 'doing it'?"

A few gasps rippled through the room. Suddenly I became embarrassed, but there was no turning back now.

"I mean, I'm 32 years old. I came to faith a few years ago. I was, um, … active before, if you know what I mean."

I looked around me. Some women had their heads down. Others had turned various shades of red. In an instant my mouth went dry. I felt like a fool and was about to apologize, when I saw her. We locked glances across the room, and her big brown eyes implored me to go on. She nodded in approval. She understood. A kindred spirit! I felt empowered.

Looking at the host, I continued, "It's like no one wants to talk about it. You make chastity sound so easy, but it's not. There are nights," I whimpered, "when I'm so lonely, all I can do is hold my Bible close and cry. I love God, really, I do. I just. …" I didn't know what else to say. I felt small again, and ashamed. Why was this area of my life so difficult for me? I looked around the room. Eyes that had avoided me earlier now looked knowingly into mine. Perhaps I wasn't so alone after all.

"I know what you mean," a voice said. My kindred spirit stood up, her eyes full of tears. "Sometimes it's all I can do to hang on."

"But you do hang on," someone replied. "Maybe that's what counts."

"Sometimes I don't," I said softly. Sometimes my mind lingered unashamedly on intimate memories. Sometimes guys from the "old days" called, seemingly on cue, to test my resistance. Sometimes I was strong—but sometimes I acquiesced and hated myself for it. I didn't go "all the way" anymore, but I'd compromised my integrity too many times. Although there'd been no recent incidents, my body screamed daily. I knew I stood on the cusp of falling at any moment.

As I considered my shortcomings, conversation began. I listened, amazed, as one woman after another shared personal stories of struggle, triumph, and even failure to maintain purity. We laughed and cried together, candidly discussing how to stay pure amidst raging hormones. The need to dress sexy and be sexy calls to us from every arena—magazines, books, media. The message we receive is that sex outside marriage is healthy, it feels good, and of course, everybody's doing it. For those of us who've tasted the delight of physical intimacy, finding satisfaction in life without it can be a challenge.

Is it possible to be content when something you want so desperately seems so out of reach? The answer, we concluded, is yes! Contentment comes by trusting with every ounce of our being that God wants what's best for us and will supply it at the proper time.

Choosing to live celibate during this season of life allows me to focus on God's will—to rely on him in times of loneliness and doubt. When my body aches for affection, I run to him, talk to him, and cry to him, learning to allow his arms to hold me. And in the end, there's nothing more satisfying than succumbing to the love of my Creator.

That day, I discovered I'd been putting my life on hold while I waited for a man. God, however, was waiting for me to take hold of the abundant life he'd planned for me. Focused on what I didn't have, I allowed my wants to determine my outlook. When I stopped whining for my way—right here, right now—I realized God was beckoning me to a closer relationship with him.

One woman stated, "I realized a long time ago, before I got married, that to get the caliber of man I wanted, I had to raise my standards as a woman. I threw myself into God's Word and learned as much about him as I could. I found things I enjoyed doing and began doing them. I found out who I was as a person. I not only began to feel better about myself, but I began to feel worthy of love, and worthy of waiting for someone who'd offer me more than just a feel-good in the middle of the night."

"I envy you," I said.

"Don't envy me," she replied. "Emulate me."

"Honey," one older woman prodded gently, "is it simply sex you desire, or is it closeness, affection, and affirmation? Look, I've been married more than 40 years. Sometimes an empty feeling sweeps over me like Cinderella's broom. You may not believe this, but no man can fully deliver you from that. So before you go doing something foolish, think of the consequences. Honor God with your life. Keep your vows to him even when it hurts. It'll pay off in the long run, you'll see." Her tender words rested on me with grandmotherly warmth.

The session ended with prayer, the exchanging of phone numbers, and insights into a new way of thinking—and behaving.

Still, progress takes time. The following week I was on the phone. "Diane!" I cried, "I'm about to explode in an exuberant cacophony of hormones."

"Again?" she asked. "Aren't you being a tad dramatic?"

"I can't help it," I responded. "I'm in my prime. One day you're going to come into my bedroom and I'll have exploded. There'll be a big purple stain on the bed, traces of what I used to be."

"Purple?"

"Purple, the color of passion." Must I explain everything?

I breathed a heavy sigh of frustration. She was spoiling a perfectly fine pity party. "Oh, brother!" Diane sounded exasperated. "Look, God knows you're in your prime. Go get your Bible and let's pray." When we finished she said, "You know, there's a lot more to having a man than a cacophony of hormones."

"Like what?!" I cried incredulously.

"Have you been reading Song of Songs again?" she asked.

"I had to do my daily Bible reading, didn't I?"

"You have a problem."

I overlooked the offense and filed it away. She'll need me one day. When that day comes, I'll remind her of her snippishness—and graciously forgive her.

The pastor pronounced them husband and wife, and Bill and Diane kissed for the first time. At the reception I pulled her aside and whispered the answer to the sex question I'd asked the pastor's wife a few years prior. Diane blushed but smiled big. "You're a sick woman," she said, laughing.

"I know!" I cried, doing a little dance. "But my husband will be a happy man."

Diane grabbed my arm and pulled me close. "So will mine!" she exclaimed softly. "So will mine!"

Was that a sparkle of passion I saw in my friend's eyes? We both laughed and did a little dance together. Maybe we've helped balance each other in more ways than we've realized.

Funny thing—I caught the bouquet. "You're next!" everyone shouted. In the meantime, however, I have things to do and dreams to follow.

The practice of making New Year’s resolutions goes back over 3,000 years to the ancient Babylonians. There is just something about the start of a new year that gives us the feeling of a fresh start and a new beginning. In reality, there is no difference between December 31 and January 1. Nothing mystical occurs at midnight on December 31. The Bible does not speak for or against the concept of New Year’s resolutions. However, if a Christian determines to make a New Year’s resolution, what kind of resolution should he or she make?

Common New Year’s resolutions are commitments to quit smoking, to stop drinking, to manage money more wisely, and to spend more time with family. By far, the most common New Year’s resolution is to lose weight, in conjunction with exercising more and eating more healthily. These are all good goals to set. However, 1 Timothy 4:8 instructs us to keep exercise in perspective: “For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.” The vast majority of New Year’s resolutions, even among Christians, are in relation to physical things. This should not be.

Many Christians make New Year’s resolutions to pray more, to read the Bible every day, and to attend church more regularly. These are fantastic goals. However, these New Year’s resolutions fail just as often as the non-spiritual resolutions, because there is no power in a New Year’s resolution. Resolving to start or stop doing a certain activity has no value unless you have the proper motivation for stopping or starting that activity. For example, why do you want to read the Bible every day? Is it to honor God and grow spiritually, or is it because you have just heard that it is a good thing to do? Why do you want to lose weight? Is it to honor God with your body, or is it for vanity, to honor yourself?

Philippians 4:13 tells us, “I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.” John 15:5 declares, “I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” If God is the center of your New Year’s resolution, it has chance for success, depending on your commitment to it. If it is God’s will for something to be fulfilled, He will enable you to fulfill it. If a resolution is not God honoring and/or is not in agreement in God’s Word, we will not receive God’s help in fulfilling the resolution.

So, what sort of New Year’s resolution should a Christian make? Here are some suggestions: (1) pray to the Lord for wisdom (James 1:5) in regards to what resolutions, if any, He would have you make; (2) pray for wisdom as to how to fulfill the goals God gives you; (3) rely on God’s strength to help you; (4) find an accountability partner who will help you and encourage you; (5) don’t become discouraged with occasional failures; instead, allow them to motivate you further; (6) don’t become proud or vain, but give God the glory. Psalm 37:5-6 says, “Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.”

The true meaning of love, as defined in the Bible, has been corrupted in the common usage of our English language and society. Most often, love is confused with infatuation - that elated, "high" feeling we get when we "fall in love." This kind of "love" is something that lasts typically less than a year, and unless replaced by true love, results in broken relationships.

Origin of Love
The Bible indicates that love is from God. In fact, the Bible says "God is love." Love is one of the primary characteristics of God. Likewise, God has endowed us with the capacity for love, since we are created in His image. This capacity for love is one of the ways in which we are "created in the image of God."

Different Kinds of Love
The Greek language (the language of the New Testament) uses two different words to describe and define love. The most commonly used Greek word translated "love" in the New Testament is "agape." This love is represented by God's love for us. It is a non-partial, sacrificial love probably best exemplified by God's provision for our rebellion:

"For God so loved (agape) the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life." (John 3:16)

The gift of God's son as a provision for sin was given to all humans, regardless of who we are. God's love is unconditional.

In contrast, our love is usually conditional and based upon how other people behave toward us. This kind of love is based upon familiarity and direct interaction. The Greek word "phileo" defines this kind of love, often translated "brotherly love." Phileo is a soulish (connected through our emotions) kind of love - something that can be experienced by both believers and non-believers. This is in contrast to agape, which is love extended through the spirit. Agape love requires a relationship with God through Jesus Christ, since the non-regenerated soul is unable to love unconditionally. Agape love gives and sacrifices expecting nothing back in return.

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Following are the names of seven mischievous Misses who are responsible for most of our troubles:

Miss information
Miss Quotation
Miss interpretation
Miss construction
Miss conception
Miss understanding.
Beware!!

WHO IS A REAL MAN?
* A real man is not a person who can impregnate a woman; any idiot can also impregnate a woman. Even a 17 year old boy can impregnate a woman but that does not make him a man.
* A real man is not a person who is good in bed. Any idiot can be good in bed.
* A real man is not a person who beats his wife/ girlfriend. Infact it is only idiots that beat their women.
** A real man is a person who tolerates his woman
** A real man is a person who controls his anger
** A real man is the person who shows real care and love to his woman
** A real man is the person who knows how to solve the crises and problems in his relationship
** A real man does not beat his woman
** A real man is hardworking. He is not lazy
**A real man can endure, persevere and be patient
** A real man can overlook the bad behaviours of his woman
** A real man corrects his woman with love.
** Real men make their women happy.
Therefore, ladies, when choosing a man, date real men only. Marry real men only. If you are not happy in your relationship now, that means your guy is not a real man.
Look beyond sex and money and go for happiness and peace of mind. God bless you. Good morning my people

I.T OJO
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MARRIAGE TIPS

Don't Marry Because of SEX,
Don't Marry because u are getting OLD,
Don't Marry because u are of AGE,
Don't Marry because ur LONELY
Don't Marry because u Need someone
to Support u FINANCIALLY.
Don't Marry because u Mistakenly Got PREGNANT forHim,
Don't Marry because u don't want to LOSE the PERSON,
Don't Marry because of Family PRESSURES,
Don't Marry because u Like the IDEA Of Marriage,
Don't Marry because of PITY or Out of PITY,
Don't Marry because of TRIBE,
Don't Marry because u Admire all the WEDDING GOWNS you See,
Don't Marry because u Love KIDS,
Don't Marry because all ur Friends are getting Married,
Don't Marry because of Physical Academic Qualifications.

But Marry Because ur READY for IT,
Marry Because u want to Fulfill ur DESTINY,
Marry Because u want to Fulfill PURPOSE,
Marry because u want to be a Good HELP MATE...

I pray to God Almighty to give u the Best Life Partner who
Truly Desire to Marry u with the Right Motives in that name
of God almighty

[color=#000099][/color]There are many lonely people these days. It’s not because they can’t find their love, it’s because they can’t maintain their relationships. Maintaining a happy and long-lasting relationship is a challenging task. You should learn to love and appreciate your partner and his family, support him and help him when he needs you. A long-lasting relationship can also require some adjusting to meet your partner’s needs. You should also learn how to make compromises, if needed. Although you will have to put lots of time and efforts into your relationship, the results are worth the work. Without further ado, here are 8 important steps to a long-lasting relationship.


1. Love your partner
It sounds strange, but love is the key to a happy and long-lasting relationship. Sometimes women date or marry men for money or because they believe it’s better to be with someone than alone. You should’t expect your relationship to be successful if you don’t love your partner, or if he doesn’t love you. Only few people can live long together without love and then regret it. If you love your partner, keep reading…

2. Respect his parents
You should always respect your partner’s parents no matter what. You should be thankful to them even if they don’t like you. Maybe your parents don’t like your choice, but he respects them, isn’t he? It will be hard to build a strong and happy relationship without respects for both parents. If your partner doesn’t respect his parents, you should help him and teach him to love them. Just because he doesn’t love them doesn’t mean you have a right to hate them too. Compliment them as often as you can and tell them “Thank you for your wonderful son” at least once a month. They will certainly appreciate it.

3. Communicate with each other each day
When it comes to a long-lasting relationship, everyday communication is incredibly crucial. Both of you should learn to communicate more clearly and effectively and tell each other what things bother the two of you. You can’t read each other’s minds, so unless you two tell each other what you want, you will never fulfill each other’s desire. Regardless of your busy schedules, find time to communicate with your partner to build a stronger relationship.

4. Have realistic expectations
Many couples break up because they set unrealistic expectations. No one is perfect. We all have imperfections and we all make mistakes. Learn to accept them. Your partner will never be perfect neither will you. When you or your partner make mistakes, try to learn from them and avoid making them down the road. Stop looking for his imperfections and faults. Look for those things that make him so wonderful and special.

5. Admit your mistakes
One of the reasons why so many couples break up these days because they can’t accept their mistakes. As I mentioned above, we are not perfect and we all make mistakes, but most of us don’t admit them. When you are having an argument, place yourself in your partner’s shoes and look at things from his perspective. If he is right, don’t try to find his little faults, just admit your mistake and apologize. However, your partner should learn to admit his mistakes too. Otherwise, you won’t be able to build a long-lasting relationship.

6. Don’t take your relationship for granted
If you’ve been together for years, chances are that you take your relationship for granted. It’s a huge mistake! You should cherish your relationship and appreciate your partner and everything both of you have. While you don’t have to tell your partner what a wonderful person he is every single day, you need to show your sweetheart how much you love him and how much you appreciate your relationship.

7. Enjoy this life together
Learn to enjoy this life together. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude and stay positive no matter what. Don’t allow financial problems to ruin your relationship. If both of you are on a very tight budget, try to find some free and fun activities. Don’t just sit at home in front of your TV. Enjoy doing things you and your partner love and have fun together as long as you can.

8. Put work into your relationship
Nourish your relationship daily. Remember even the smallest thing matters. If you ignore your relationship, don’t expect it to flourish. You might have a super busy schedule and your partner might understand you, but your workaholism may ruin your relationship in a while. Put some work into your relationship and it will definitely last forever.

Building a strong and happy relationship is not an easy thing, but very rewarding. Don’t neglect your partner, cherish your relationship, respect each other and you will have the happiest relationship in your life. What are your secrets to a long-lasting relationship? Share them with us.

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EMBRACE THAT INDIVIDUAL INSIDE YOU

Text: And Nathanael said unto him, can there any good thing come out of Nazareth? Philip saith unto him, come and see; (John 1:46)

When people say they can’t see anything good in you, Hug them and say “Life is difficult for the blind” but say this to yourself: I am growing in to the best version of me.
Judy Garland once said, “Always be a first rate version of yourself instead of a second rate version of somebody else.”  Live by this statement.  There is no such thing as living in someone else’s shoes.  The only shoes you can occupy are your own.  If you aren’t being yourself, you aren’t truly living – you merely exist.

Remember, trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are.  Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Don’t be pushed by your problems; don’t get discouraged, the road to your dreams may not be an easy one. Think of these disappointments as challenges – tests of persistence and courage.  At the end of the road, you shall have testimony.
 
Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms.  Improve continuously, take care of your body and health, and surround yourself with positivity, above all PRAY WITHOUT CEASING. 

Prayers
Every shackle tying the real man in you is broken In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth! As you type AMEN

Become the best version of you.

I.T OJO
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Courtship is a period set apart by spouses in order to try to win the affections of each other with a view to marriage. Therefore, in light of this, whatever you do in your process of courtship determines the success or failure of it.

However, in order to have successful courtship, there are 5 very important tips you need and they are:
1. BE AVAILABLE: So many things puts demands people’s attention today. Yet in the midst of all the distractions courting partners must make some sacrifices to be available with each other. This will help them have a better understanding of each other emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially.

2. BE OF SERVICE TO YOURSELVES: In order to have a successful courtship, courting partners must be ready to be of service to each other. They must be ready to know each other’s needs and make sacrifices to solving then. These services may includes caring for each other, spending good time together in prayers for each other, and doing whatever will bring joy or happiness to each other within the period of courtship and during marriage apart from sex.

3. BREAK EVERY SOUL TIE: To have a successful courtship, you must be prepared to break up any relationship you have earlier established with any other party. This is because when you maintain two or more relationships at a time, you put demands on your emotion and spirit. This is the same as flirting or lasciviousness; such kind of relationship will be a cancer to the success of your courtship and future marriage. To do this, you must pray well and be ready to stand for one person. Someone once said, “Those who cannot stand for one thing will fall for almost everything" .

4. BE HONEST TO YOURSELVES: A relationship built on lies is a relationship built on a sandy soil. It will collapse. To have a successful courtship, courting partners must be honest to themselves at all costs in all their dealings with each other.

5. MAINTAIN SEXUAL PURITY: Sex is for marriage and not for courtship. To have sex before marriage destroys love and trust. It will even bring guilt to your spirit. Therefore, to avoid this, you must say no to sex during courtship and prayerfully stand by it waiting for your wedding day. When you do this, you’ll find that God will honour your marriage in heaven and make it bliss on earth.


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DECIDE TO TRUST THE LORD
Text: “Those who trust in the Lord are like Mount Zion, which cannot be moved, but abides forever. As the mountains surround Jerusalem, so the Lord surrounds His people from this time forth and forever.” (Psalm 125:1)
I believe that faith and trust go hand in hand. They are like a one-two punch. Before you can trust the Lord, you must have faith that God exists, that He is who the Bible says He is, and that you are truly saved under the shed Blood of His Son Jesus Christ.
God has a specific purpose and plan for each person’s life. Therefore, you must fully surrender your entire life over to God so that He can then enter you into His perfect plan and destiny for your life. Your life is no longer your own. You have been bought at a price and God now wants to do something very specific with your life.
Many Christians already know this, but they are still having a very hard time in actually trusting God to handle their lives for them.
Even though they know God is totally perfect and that He can perfectly handle and direct their lives much better than they can do – they are still having a hard time in making that leap, in clearing that final hurdle to completely turn the reigns of their entire live over to God the Father for Him to fully handle.
You must make a final decision sooner or later as to who is going to run your life – you or God.
And the longer you wait, and the longer you keep from making this final decision, the more years you are going to lose in this life in being able to produce any real lasting fruit in the Lord.
No matter how bad you have been hurt in your past, you must now learn to fully trust God with both yourself and with your entire life.
You must take a big leap of faith and dive off that cliff, and decide that you will now fully trust in God and that you will now follow His Holy Spirit in the direction that He will want to take your life in.
Jesus has to be the Rock that you are to build your life on. If you try and build your life on what you want or what you think other people want from you, you will be building nothing but sandcastles that will perish the minute any serious storm clouds come against it.
Take the decision today and you shall give testimonies in all arrears of your Life.
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