My oga ..firstly am sorry for the situation you find yourself in..but I understand you wife..nothing is wrong with her....she definitely has had her heart broken in the past.. you know somepeople when they lose someone they love ..that person actually takes away a part of them..when this happens several times ..there is nothing left to give or emotions left to give..only a miracle or finding someone that has almost all the xtics the want and they can start to build again..its not always about looks and money..there some things people crave in a partner..This things are abstract...just don't pick a fight about her..she is a very special and strong woman..just keep patience ..aslo some people don't just like attention..i also don't like it...i try to do things on the low alot..and people miss understand me..