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why is it always about you and you alone.what you want,what you can collect, always collecting.You never give,you guard yours, you're so selfish with everything..

Why is it so hard for her to say sorry, it's so obvious you're wrong,why can't you just apologize for once.

why do I keep going back

I feel so much pain n hurt,I only want to just go back n apologize even when I know I did nothing wrong

DaddyRochie1642:
no worry, Your eyes go clear very well when you guys make the mistake of getting married

No this won't happen,I thought about it and imagined the endless scenerious of pain and lack of true peace and happiness..I wouldn't want that for myself

tablesturn:
Bro you are at the point where you can easily swing the power games around.

Go ahead, do something extremely nice to this girl, make sure you point out what you did. When she does not appreciate it, call her out one more time, warn her and let her go. Immediately after she leaves in pretense, make sure you start hanging around other girls she knows and be extremely nice to them, and genuinely do not contact her, no matter how long it takes, ghost her. If she does not come back, allow her go, if she does, state your ground rules clearly before you let her back, if she hesitates, hang with other girls again, at not point should you miss her, call her or apologize.

Hear word!

Yea I tried,I failed woefully after the 4th day

Nazgul:
I believe it has to do with how they're brought up and their current financial condition. From my experience, broke and jobless girls only think about money, why because they're idle, they lack intellect, they don't have the mental capacity to engage or sustain an intelligent conversation because their thoughts are occupied with needs and how to and request they're planning to demand from you. Dating such girls can be really frustrating like you rightfully pointed out because they're so entitled. You can give her 100k today and tomorrow she'll still grumble that what she needed was 150k, you can't satisfy them cos they don't know what it feels like to Hussle for money.

Financially independent girls on the other hand are quite different, they're used to doing things for themselves, most of them live in rented apartments which they paid with their money, they furnish it with their money, they're used to living a life of responsibilities, unlike the jobless ones who sit at home all day chatting with random guys and making several humiliating materialistic request, these ones understand what it means to be independent.

So when next you want to date, assertain her financial level, before wasting your time on her, if she can't provide basic amenities like data, hair fixing, sanity pads, creams, soaps...etc for herself, and can't spend her money on you no matter how small, please don't waste your time on her unless you're just there for her coochie.

the bolded is one of my biggest problem

You can never get a dime from her,a day I wanted to take something worth #10 ( I don't want to be specific cos I think she's an unregistered nairalander also,saw it on her phone) from her because it's the last one left she yelled and insisted No..It was so painful something I can afford a truck load,I went out n got a bag of it and she shameless took from it, sighting rubbish excuse afterwards

Carchoice:
Isn’t it funny you already know your problem and you are still asking what to do?

It feels like I do and at same time I don't too

NewSoul:
I see you wallowing in your stupidity

I see you spending more money on her

I see her taking you for granted and disrespecting you because she knows you can't leave her and has you wrapped around her fingers

I see you coming to lament once again on nairaland

I see you telling her how much you love her and how you cannot do without her

Finally I see her leaving you at your most vulnerable moment for a guy who didnt/can't do half of what you have done for her.

This I have seen!

Sadly I agree completely with you

In the quest to please her I have out done myself in my own stupidity.

SweetCunt97:
Break up. Before going into another relationship, know thyself. Understand your temperament, your love language so you can bond with someone who possesses similar trait.

Such selfish person will see you die before ur time.

the bolded seems to be the hardest part,it felt so bad when I had to not talk to her for a few days and then I imagine myself breaking up completely

I use to think that I'm not always lucky with getting the right partner, which is also true but getting the entitled once has always been the trend for me.

My current girl is so selfish, arrogant n entitled.You can never go away with her 1kobo yet she never hesitates to ask, take n spend yours with reckless abandon.No matter what I do for this girl she never appreciates,not even the slightest.You can be helping her with one thing and as soon as you done,she wants you to do something else and if you refuse it becomes a quarrel for her, forgetting almost immediately the one you just finished helping her with.. She's very manipulative and the worst I hate the most she likes to ask people to help her with this or that one..I feel she's someone that will beg your enemy in the slightest observation of your "brokeness"..So far money is concerned she can collect from just anyone.

This and so many more I cannot even begin to write down.yet I still find myself wanting her.What I feel for her I'm trying to kill within me but I'm failing,we had a quarrel and the highest I could go not taking to her was just 4days afterwards I shameless went to apologize for doing nothing wrong ... it's so pathetic and right about now I need help,it feels like I've lost myself and she knows I'll always come back again and again no matter how she hurts me.What do I do?