₦airaland Forum

Hmm my first ever comment on this forum since i joined over 10 years, i usually entertain myself with topics and comments to keep me busy.

Now to respond to this "poor" mother's issue, i can't imagine what you have been going through with this dilemma you find yourself in. A mother that has to witness the travails of a first son who is undergoing so much suffering due to no fault of his. No. 1 he did not ask to be borne into the circumstances he finds himself in, unwanted, unloved and basically abandoned by basically everyone that should show him love. You see as blacks, especially as a Nigerian, we have had it rough with bad leadership, and poverty which has led to a gradual degradation of our humanity and soul. to show love to ourselves even in marriage something seems alien, that is why men on this forum find it easy to say the man tried in marrying the women even with "two: children.
It is very easy for whites to express love and show their humanity due to the superior society they find themselves in where everything works. That is why you see whites adopt black children and from other races easily without seeing anything wrong with it. I had a white older colleague who married a Nigerian woman that had kids, adopted them, took them abroad, they all became citizens and schooled in higher institutions there.
I just felt a bit emotional about this woman's plight and suggest you enroll your son in a good boarding school, provide with all the good things he needs in school while you continue to plead with your husband, before you know it, he will be ready for University and then you can rent a place for him to stay close to you till he finishes, becomes a man and fends for himself. God will strengthen and help you.
To my fellow Nairalanders, let's learn to spread love and be easy on other people's plight without judgement. God bless you.

To me there is absolutley nothing wrong with it. If he is going through challenges, and he needs to be there temporary to find his feet. Why not? It is better the family stays together during the trying times, and plan their next move. Than living seperately. My two pence.

Hi, this is my first post on nairaland. The truth is you need to confirm via Dna if she really is your daughter. If she is you need to first share with your wife this new situation& hw u want to be a part of her life. Not taking over, just being known as her biological father. It would help in future. Cheers!