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Thanks Seun. I'll take a look.

I do consider myself to be open minded to other cultures and races so maybe afterall is said and done the reasons won't even matter.
But, I still need more reasons to consider though,

Without a gun to my head: Absolutely Not!
With a gun: Would consider it a little.

From A Recovering Hater-a-tor

At the urging of a sister-friend here's my issue:
And before you jump to conclusions, let's just establish the fact that I know I need some help

BACKGROUND
I am a Nigerian who grew up in Nigeria [all my formative years were in naija] but I can't figure out why I can't date a Nigerian man anymore. Although I claim that I like Nigerian guys I've come to learn that I am very critical of them and very dismissive of any woo-ing efforts from that direction.

I find myself being impatient with you guys and will completely blow-off a Nigerian guy for the same reasons I'll find a man from another culture attractive.

Surface Example:
Recently, a naija co-worker/toaster friend of mine called me, and then drove over to my house to show me his newly purchased BMer. My attitude was somewhat negative and I recall thinking "how tacky, am I supposed to be impressed?" On the other hand, another toaster from a different culture did something similar and I felt it was a sweet gesture that he wanted me to be the first to see his new car. Not sure why I'd react in different ways.

QUESTION
So help a sister out and tell me one reason/way to start loving a Nigerian man today!