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Gabrielshow24:
what stack? MERN?

No, django/flask

SocialJustice:
Relationship these days is based on pay as you go. If you are not bold enough to politely ask her what a night with her will cost, then do come and marry. Come and marry is complicated and you will still end up spending money so look for girls that are reasonably financially secure to do it with. University and NYSC are the periods you will get girls the most. Once you graduate, you start building your career, you're still in the game though.

You must find the constant courage to talk to girls, start with the ones you're already talking to.

Walk up to 10 girls everyday, say you'd like to hang out with them, forget you are broke, just be collecting their numbers, don't call. This exercise is to embolden you. It does not matter if they are older. Talk to any girl you like. Sort what you can afford. If not for economic hardship, uni babes were a lot more decent.

If you're having any difficulty, quote me, I will reply with practical steps. Also know girls are very confused people, another gist. But fimd the courage and follow up. No dull yourself. Them go get you down you go fear self.

Thank you very much.

I will reply with practical steps.

I wouldn't mind this

AffiliateGuruNG:


The journey to 1,000 steps starts with a step and the right direction that's what the wise people say.

So from a look up things I can say you're under 25.

So there is nothing that is really wrong with you but to start you need to have some cheese in your pocket.

Take life for instance.

Everything involves practice.

To build confidence you need to practice confidence.

It may seem awkward but at time goes on you are going to build confidence.

The fact of the matter remains that you are okay, just old fashioned because a lot of guys have started way more earlier than you like 10 years back.

This shouldn't take away anything from you in fact he's going to add to your personality good luck

Thank you

Kobojunkie:
1. Are you planning on a career as a gigolo or what? What does it matter whether you used to have game or are not ugly? You are embarrassed because even at this age you have yet to realize that being popular with girls cannot put food on your table unless you are a gigolo or male prostitute?

2. What has game to do with your being broke and with no skills to show after many years in tech? Where exactly are you headed? Maybe I should start by asking that.

It's not about being popular with girls. More of communication, holding conversations (not even with girls only, I've read books and watched videos, idk what I'm doing wrong). Game in the sense: I used to know how to talk, what to say, stuff like that (and I added not being ugly cos someone might say "nobody bleeps with ugly guys" in retrospect, I probably shouldn't have added it to the post).

And tech, I should have put a more specific timeframe, I've only been in it for almost a year, idk why I put several years (I think that's what was in my post). I have the skills and I think me not being able to hold conversations and putting myself out there has led to me not making as much money from tech as I should be.

Idk man, I just posted this to rant and find someone who might've gone through this phase and figure things out (no matter how insignificant or "pointless" what I'm going thru is)

yemmit90:
How I wish your parents that sent you to school see this. Face your studies and excel in life, women are the easier beings to have in abundance if you are successful.

Academics have never been a problem for me, I do really well in school.

Maybe the reason why I posted this is to find someone that relates to this or has experienced something similar and can give me pointers on how to figure things out. Unfortunately, all the replies just make me feel more shame, as if my post (or experience) is inconsequential. Maybe I should focus on what matter, making money, right (cos that's all that matters)

Hampers001:
I am more shocked that someone is thinking this way honestly.
You are into tech? What area?

web development (backend)

Before I got into university, I used to have game. Things changed when I arrived on campus and realized just how big the world really was. First, I noticed how short I was at 5'6 (because in secondary school we were all more or less the same height). Second, I realized I was broke and constantly struggling financially.

Those two things fed into my insecurities, and they ate away at me. In my first year, I even let go of my high school love since it was long-distance anyway. I started wearing a face mask all the time just to avoid people seeing me. The only thing I did back then was read.

By 300 level, it hit me that I should have been learning other things as a fresher, like talking to girls and maybe even building some real romantic experiences. Now I am in my final year, and honestly, I have no idea how to start a relationship or even make a move physically.

Its really embarrassing. I am not ugly, so that is not the problem. But I am still broke. I have been into tech for months but have almost nothing to show for it financially. I feel like my biggest problem is confidence, but I do not know how to overcome it.

Before I got into university, I used to have game. Things changed when I arrived on campus and realized just how big the world really was. First, I noticed how short I was at 5'6 (because in secondary school we were all more or less the same height). Second, I realized I was broke and constantly struggling financially.

Those two things fed into my insecurities, and they ate away at me. In my first year, I even let go of my high school love since it was long-distance anyway. I started wearing a face mask all the time just to avoid people seeing me. The only thing I did back then was read.

By 300 level, it hit me that I should have been learning other things as a fresher, like talking to girls and maybe even building some real romantic experiences. Now I am in my final year, and honestly, I have no idea how to start a relationship or even make a move physically.

Its really embarrassing. I am not ugly, so that is not the problem. But I am still broke. I have been into tech for months but have almost nothing to show for it financially. I feel like my biggest problem is confidence, but I do not know how to overcome it.

All my life, I've been an "inside boy" so socializing isn't my strongest skill. Recently, I met a girl in school who I'm interested in. She's cool and apparently a good person. We've been talking for a while now, and she seems to be interested in me too. But lately, she's casually mentioned breasts in our conversations, which is kind of awkward for me. I've never had a conversation that led to that point with anyone, and even my guy friends avoid talking like that with me because they know I don't want to. This is probably because of how I was raised.

Now the problem is, how do I respond to similar messages without looking uncool or lame? Someone might ask; "What's your goal when you get her?" I genuinely don't know, I just enjoy talking with her.