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The world has always been fascinated by the concept of adultery and cheating.

While considered taboos in most cultures, one cannot help but admit that it has become a prevalent part of society. This is where the so-called “other woman” comes into play. Many cannot help but be drawn to the fascination surrounding her.

Society is quick to label these women with derogatory terms, such as “LovePeddler”, “slut” or even “home wrecker”. She becomes exposed to shame and forced to wear the infamous “A” as a blatant reminder of her involvement in adultery.

Many women have fallen into the enticing world of being the other woman. A great number of these women are not the “mindless bimbos” society has perceived them to be. In fact, many great women of history were mistresses of kings and noblemen. Take the examples of the brilliant Madame Pompadour, the controversial Anne Boleyn and the seductive Diane de Poitiers. They each had their own reasons for doing what they did and in a way, the course of history became better because of those reasons.

Many people have found themselves to be caught in this particularly complicated setup where they find themselves waiting on borrowed time, and all logic is thrown aside.

Do these women really deserve the stigma that society has so harshly dealt them with? Some would say that they truly deserve it. However, let’s take a moment to reflect on what it’s like to be in the other woman’s shoes.

#1 You are the “dirty little secret”
When one becomes the other woman in a relationship, she will always be kept under wraps. Whether it is a boyfriend cheating on his girlfriend, or a husband cheating on his wife, you will be kept hidden and not spoken of. This means going on secret rendezvous, stolen text messages, and certain “conditions” that you have to follow.

This means no going out on dates in public, unless you want to be fuel for gossip.

As the one being cheated with, your fellow thief will make sure that you will be far from prying eyes. You will treat each other as strangers when you are in public but within closed doors, you own each other. In the long run, something like this would take its toll on anyone.


#2 You have to deal with loneliness

Having a secret relationship can get quite lonely because there will always be something missing. Sure, there will be many moments of physical intimacy but it is never enough to cover the pang of loneliness over something deeper than just the physical moments that you both share.


#3 You have to deal with the stigma of society
When it comes to illicit affairs, society will always rear its ugly head. Women who have made the mistake of being the other woman have to endure harsh names given to them, like “slut” or “home wrecker.”

It doesn’t end with the name-calling or slut shaming because she will also have to deal with the condescending stares as well as muffled whispers whenever she enters a room. But at the end of the day, she’ll still try to brush it aside in order to keep her relationship with the taken man.


#4 You have to play the “waiting game”

This means you have to wait for your lover’s go signal, such as the next time the two of you will get to see each other, before you do anything. The waiting game is such a difficult and oftentimes, frustrating game to play because you are starved for whatever crumbs of affection your lover has to throw at you.

Once your tryst is over, you’re left pining and waiting for the next call, which can take days or even weeks to arrive.


#5 You become the “meantime girl”
A woman who becomes the “meantime girl” finds herself living in emotional hell. You will be filling the void of whatever your lover is not getting from his marriage or legitimate relationship.

What hurts about being the “meantime girl” is that you will only be an option, and a second one at that. There will be no talks of a future together, you find yourself living in the moment. You find yourself clinging on to whatever happiness you can get from your time together, when you know in your heart that these moments are just fleeting.


#6 You live on “stolen moments” and “borrowed time”

One of the underlying conditions in being the other woman in a relationship is that you have to work around a fixed schedule. Remember that the object of your desire has someone to go home to everyday. He has obligations to fulfill.

Naturally, you cannot see each other every day, so you have to work around a certain agreed schedule, usually comprising of a few hours. At most times, your lover cannot even spend the night, lest he rouse the suspicion of his legitimate partner. With this in mind, you have to make do with whatever little time you have together and this could cut deep, especially if you have fallen in love.


#7 You are guilt-ridden

Many women who have entered these kind of relationships have often complained of sleepless nights. They find themselves wracked with guilt, especially those moments when they find themselves alone without their lover to comfort them. They are guilty on being the object of sin against another woman. Oftentimes, these women feel that this guilt is a one-way street.


#8 You are not a priority

The first few weeks of a relationship are always filled with bliss. One gets the emotional highs of being in love and constantly wanting to be with the person that you love. However, the “honeymoon stage” will soon end and you will soon see reality for what it is. You will see how the entire situation is affecting you as a person.

You will know that he will not be there to comfort you during the days when you are feeling down. You cannot spend the holidays with him, and you cannot help but feel saddened by the fact that he is spending the holidays with his legitimate loved one. You cannot hold his hand when you feel like you need it the most, or put your arms around him whenever you feel lonely. In short, you can never experience life with him because he clearly has established that with someone else.


#9 You tend to “idealize” the relationship

Most women tend to escape from reality and romanticize their entire situation. They have become the tragic heroine in the romantic novel that they have written for themselves. They have become the Eponines of the real world, doomed to pine away for a lover who would never truly be theirs.

In worst situations, they would fantasize about the situation turning in their favor, in which the lover leaves their spouse and they become the legitimate partner, but like many fantasies, these are all in vain.


#10 You have an expiration date.

This is perhaps the most frightening and heart-wrenching truth to being the other woman. The entire affair could end as abruptly as it started. This means you probably even won’t have any closure, at all. This would make the situation even more painful since you cannot even go back to how it was before.

You were secret lovers to begin with, and now you must part as strangers. While men have claimed that they are capable of loving more than one woman at the same time, he could only keep his affairs with his mistresses for a certain amount of time. Something such as this cannot last forever. Whether you will be the one who will want to call it quits, or your partner will be the one to initiate it, remember that there is nothing secret that can be hidden forever.

Many women who have found themselves in this precarious situation tend to seek therapy afterwards. There are those who have attested to the fact that being the other woman in the relationship is like committing social suicide. You tend to abandon whatever ideals you have set for yourself in exchange for a few moments of bliss.

With all these things wreaking havoc on the emotions of the other woman, you may be wondering why she still bothers to put up with any of it. In reality, there are myriad different reasons, which differ from one mistress to another. These reasons are often strong enough to make them stay, despite the abuse that society may heap upon them.

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A young man, Anselm Ugwuoke, is currently on the run after killing his father, Paulinus Ugwuoke, 60, on Christmas Day, in Enugu State.

The incident occurred in Imilike-Agu, a community in Udenu Local Government Area of the state on Thursday during Christmas.

It was gathered that, at about 10pm on the fateful day, Anselm and some of his friends had a heated argument with his father at their family house.

The subject of the disagreement is unknown, but our correspondent learnt that the matter took an ugly turn when Anselm struck his father with an object.

Paulinus, the father, reportedly collapsed, and became unconscious, following the development.

He died shortly after receiving the fatal blow.

However, after noticing that his father had died, Anselm took to his heels, in company with his friends.

The culprit is yet to be apprehended.

His elder brother, Sunday Ugwuoke, who expressed shock and sadness at the tragic incident, urged the police and other security agencies to ensure that Anselm was brought to book.

He said Anselm would not get away with the crime.

“I am still in a state of shock over what has happened but I know we will still get Anselm,” Sunday said.

The spokesman for the Enugu State Police Command, Mr. Ebere Amaraizu, who confirmed the development, said the police were on Anselm’s trail.

Amaraizu said the police were equally investigating the incident.

He added that the victim’s remains had been deposited in a mortuary, adding that an autopsy was to be conducted on the corpse.

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Andres Moreno, who weighed 980lbs at his heaviest, passed away on the morning of Christmas Day Dec. 25th as he was being rushed to hospital from his home in Ciudad Obregón in Sonora, Mexico. He suffered a fatal heart attack in the ambulance and could not be revived.
In a Statement released today, his publicist - Carmen Palacios said: 'Andres died at 8.30am on Christmas Day in an ambulance from a heart attack as he was taken from his house to San Jose Hospital.

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The Police in Pakistan on Saturday arrested six men for allegedly drugging and raping a teenage girl in the eastern city of Lahore.

The 15-year-old survivor had left for a tailor’s shop near her house when she got kidnapped on Friday and taken to a guest house where up to eight men raped her. Her family received a message on Sunday that she was lying unconscious in a room of a hotel situated in Upper Mall, Lahore. Police recovered her and arrested six people, including the hotel manager. A police officer, Ahmad Usman, said the victim had been under treatment in a local hospital where initial tests proved that she was drugged and raped.

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Nigerian singer, Timaya, is again enjoying spotlights especially since he dropped a single he did with Mavin Records’ boss, Don Jazzy titled ‘I Concur’.

The song, released about two months ago, is making waves and its video only recently dropped.

Timaya, speaking with NotJustOk TV, stated that, “There is just only one collabo I have ever done in my life that till today, I appreciate the artiste, I respect the artiste more even after we did the collabo is Don Jazzy.

“Like this ‘I Concur’ song I just did, I only called Don Jazzy, I had finished doing the song and I was in my studio, I said ‘if I put Don Jazzy on this song, it will be nice’ I did not even have his number, so I had to call Skales my boy, and he was able to get me a number that led to calling Don Jazzy. He was busy so I sent him a text to call back and he called back. Me and Don Jazzy we dey close o.”

Speaking further, Timaya said, “The project took us seven days and on the fourth day we shot the videos. I put out pictures and next thing the song came out but even at the video shoot when we went I just told him that Jazzy na this time be the video shoot o.

“I was even thinking that I was going to suffer the stress of the way some artistes dey do, but Don Jazzy we even on set before me because I was worried about the costumes he was going to wear and he was so patient and stayed you know what, my mindset about that dude just changed, I fell in love with that dude sincerely from my heart. He is not my friend …lots of respect to him,” he added.

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Governor Umaru Al-Makura of Nasarawa State on Friday paid N700,000 hospital bill for two cancer patients.

Al-Makura paid the N400,000 hospital bill for a two-year-old girl, Dowese Tyengo, who has tumor of the eye before she was diagnosed of cancer at the Benue University Teaching Hospital, Makurdi.

Making the donation, Al-Makura said he was touched by the plight of the little girl when he saw her picture and decided to defray the hospital bill.

Receiving the cash on behalf of the parents of the patient, Pastor Telumun Vaatia, thanked the governor for the gesture and prayed God to reward him abundantly.

NAN reports that Al-Makura also settled N300,000 hospital bill for one Rukaiya Mohammed, whose one leg was amputated and needed money to undergo operation in ABU Teaching Hospital, Zaria, to prevent the lost of the other leg.

Represented by his Special Assistant on Media and Publicity, Mr Ahmed Tukur, the governor said he heard the announcement on radio and decided to pay the bill in order to save Mohammed’s second leg.

The money was received by Mr Aloko Flashman, the Director of News, Nasarawa Broadcasting Service (NBS), Lafia, where the announcement was made to assist the patient.

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After months of intensified suspense, Mavin first lady, Tiwa Savage has finally showed off the face of her baby. This is coming 6 months after the baby was delivered, which has led to several drama on the social media space with many calling out the diva for hiding her baby’s face.
As a Christmas gift to her fans, the ‘RED’ star moments ago unveiled the baby on her official Instagram account with the caption, ‘My Little Christmas Teddy Bear’.
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Operatives of the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency in Ogun State have arrested two suspected drug peddlers while attempting to sell 295 bags of cannabis estimated at N35m.

PUNCH Metro learnt that the suspects, Ihenacho Chinweuba, 27 and 33-year-old Uche Enuosa, were on Monday taking the narcotic to some parts of the state and Lagos for marketing when officials of the agency swooped on them in the Ijebu Igbo area.


It was gathered that the suspects had loaded a truck with bags of the drug, and covered them with some cartons of biscuits to evade arrest.

However, their gimmick was exposed when the truck was flagged down by the NDLEA team, said to be acting on a tip-off.

The suspects owned up to the crime, saying they took to it because they were unemployed. They added that they wanted to raise money for Yuletide celebration and make their families happy.

Chinweuba, an indigene of the Nsiala-Ngwa Local Government Area, Abia State, said the expected proceed from the drug was his last hope.


He said:
“I am married with children. I have not bought anything for my family this season. It was joblessness that made me to deal in hemp. All my hope was on this cannabis shipment because I know that if we were successful, I would have made my family happy. The cartons of biscuits were to hide the drugs but it is unfortunate that we were arrested and my dream is shattered.”
Enuosa, a plumber, who hails from Asaba, Delta State, said he was stranded and needed to travel home for the celebration.
“I am a plumber, but due to lack of work, I decided to drive the truck. I have no savings and the only way I can travel home this festive season was to engage in the cannabis business,” he said.
The NDLEA Commander in Ogun State, Mr. Bala Fagge, said the truck had been confiscated while the suspects were still helping the command with relevant information.


He said:
“A white Mercedes truck with number plate, Lagos KJA 132 XN, was intercepted in the Ijebu Igbo area, in the Ijebu North Local Government Area of Ogun State. The truck, carrying biscuits and cheese balls, was found to contain 295 big bags of dried cannabis sativa weighing 3,542.2 kilograms. The two suspected traffickers were immediately apprehended and are currently assisting further investigation. The suspects will soon be charged to court and if convicted could get life imprisonment.”
The acting Chairman of the agency, Mrs. Roli Bode-George, also said the truck conveying the drug would be forfeited to the Federal Government in accordance with the NDLEA Act.

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Perfect couple
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When Benin lady uses otumokpo on you.lol
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I hope they also talked about business oh and not just snap pictures for bloggers like myself to publish.
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May God help our county
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This is so sad. Abuja drivers are used to moving with very high speed
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In the new survey gotten from IndianTvNews, it states the top nationalities of women who are prone to being unfaithful even while being married, according to their countries. The new survey showcased how regardless of marital status, s*xual orientation, or a committed relationship, women still in the real sense tend to be unfaithful.

The new survey was conducted by c****m manufacturer, Durex. A total number of 29,000 people in 36 countries were interviewed and the interview ranked Nigerian women as the most unfaithful in the world. All in all, 50-65% of husbands and 40-55% of wives have an affair before they are 40.
Here are the top the 8 countries of most unfaithful wives according to IndianTvNews and reasons why:

1. Nigerian women
62% of Nigerian women are unfaithful. Recently Major Chitsiko, a soldier, committed a suicide after his wife cheated on him. The couple was estranged. Also in November 2011, Erelu Tola Solomon, a social elite in Lagos and Abuja, decided to ruin her 25 year marriage after having s*x with a Lagos businessman.
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