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As a single lady, there isn’t any pressure about giving birth just yet until when the right man comes along and your dream wedding is actualized. After the wedding comes the quest to raise a family; this is a period where you need your fertility and ability to conceive intact.

As simple as this process may sound, you may be amazed that a large number of married couples are trying hard to conceive. A process that affects the couple physically, emotionally, psychologically and financially. It is something you shouldn’t have to look forward to when you take the right precautions to stay healthy and detect fertility issues on time.

Ovulation in female is the process leading to reproduction. It is the essence of our fertility, a synchronization of all female reproductive organs (Internal: uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries; External: vulva, labia, clitoris and vaginal opening) towards creating a new life and as a woman, you wouldn’t want anything to tamper with this natural process.

Now even though they are other genetic or natural causes of infertility, it is better to do your own part and maintain optimal fertile health through engaging in the following:

How to care for your fertility

Chart and take note of disorders in your menstrual cycle and report quickly to a specialized doctor for treatments.
When your menstrual cycle is above 36 days or fewer than 8 cycles in a year then your fertility alarm should be ringing. Similarly you should be worried when your menstrual flow is longer than the usual 4-6days or it is heavier or lighter than usual. These are not signs of a normal ovulation process and an indication that you may have any of the disorders such as Oligoovulation, anovulation, Oligomenorrhea and Amenorrhea. It is advisable to see a gynecologist fast.

Maintain a healthy nutrition that supports hormonal health.
Do you know that your ovaries are responsible for the production of hormones such as Estrogen and progesterone the important hormones for reproduction? And that excess consumption of foods that are processed, have additives or preservatives are generally not good for your health and ovaries? Too much intake of caffeinated food and drinks, alcohol and sugar too cause unhealthy conditions to our ovaries; the best practice is therefore to take fresh, unprocessed and fiber rich foods like organic vegetables, fish rich in omega 3 acid and fruits.

Avoid contraceptives that don’t react well with your body system or contain system altering hormone
As a sexually active single female, it is essential to be on a contraceptive to avoid unintended pregnancy. An example is with the use of hormonal contraception which can be in form of pills, injections, patches, vaginal rings and intrauterine devices. Like their name, this form of birth control methods uses hormone such as estrogen and/or progestin to either suppress ovulation occurrence or thicken the cervical mucus thereby reducing the chances of the egg and sperm to meet or making implantation difficult.

There are benefits to this method as they are side effects: bordering from the minor (headaches, anxiety, weight gain, irregular periods, nausea, mood changes etc.) to the major (heart attack, stroke, ovarian cancer, blood cots etc.). The rule of thumb is to consult a family planning specialist to examine and determine the best method for your body system. But please take note that no birth control method is 100% effective other than abstinence.

Note also: extensive use of birth control pills for long period of years (i.e. over eight years) is not advised because the continuous altering of your hormone and cycle may cause hormonal imbalance in your general body system.

Carefully manage your weight; Don’t be underweight or over weight.
Fat stored in our body especially tummy fat, also produce estrogen and may lead to an imbalance of this hormone in the body. Its attending fertility issues like fibroids, endometriosis, PMS Etc could occur if not cheCCoed. So if you’ve been procrastinating on your weight loss routine or tummy fat reduction exercises, now is the right time to stop unless you want to cause fertility issues for yourself.

Similarly, being underweight is not any better because it has a negative consequence to how your brain send signal to other hormone producing organs of your body. For example, hormone production needed for ovulation may be abandoned in preference to other body functions. Functions that would help the body retain the much needed fat and energy.

Quit smoking and the intake of excessive Alcohol
Smoking is not only unladylike but also brings about fertility issues. Eggs of smokers are prone to abnormalities more than non-smokers. Also, the risk of having a miscarriage during pregnancy is higher for smokers than non-smokers. And according to Yourfertility “smoking affects each stage of the reproductive process, including egg and sperm maturation, hormone reproduction, embryo transport, and the environment in the uterus.”

Do you also know that smoking causes you to reach menopause earlier than usual? And that it affects the development of the fetus in the womb, lead to pregnancy complications, birth defects and low birth weight? The best and only solution is to quit.

Consider the dangers of having an abortion to your fertility
Sometimes, these things happen that no matter how much careful we are, unwanted pregnancy occur. Added to the fact that contraceptives are not 100% reliable.

Now you may be thinking of having an abortion, but before you carry out the procedure; consider the risk it may have on your future fertility, especially if it is not done appropriately. Or if post-abortion treatments (Antibiotics) are not administered or you allow the pregnancy stay longer before getting it done. Such risks according to NHS include:

1.Womb infections; damage to the uterus and/or cervix (entrance to the womb)
2. Severe pain in your abdomen that defiles pain killers
3. Excessive bleeding days after the procedure
4. Getting some of the pregnancy remains in the womb
5. Infection spread to your fallopian tubes and ovaries causing Pelvic Inflammatory disease, ectopic pregnancies or infertility.
6. Smelly vaginal discharge
7. High temperature fever
8. Experiencing a continuing pregnancy symptoms

Note also that having series of abortions is very dangerous to your health and can impede your ability to conceive again in the future or give birth to normal healthy babies.


Avoid multiple sexual partners
As this could increase your chances of contacting Sexually Transmitted Diseases that may lead to infertility or pelvic inflammation if not well treated. Also, ensure that your sexual partner clean their sexual organs before intercourse so that underlying germs do not find their way to your vaginal.

Read more at: https://tripplemonline.com/2018/04/25/how-to-care-for-your-fertility/

After a break up, your emotions are very fragile and your heart still feels physical pain. But instead of dwelling on questions like: what went wrong? How didn’t I see this coming? Did he ever love me? Will I find someone else to love me? What will my life become? Be positive and keep saying these words to yourself.

Positive words after a break up

“I don’t know what is wrong with me but I will snap out of it. I am strong, I have God, I am supported all around by family and friends who love and want the best for me. People are going through worst things, worse than I am right now and they are still standing. Therefore I have a future to look forward to.

I don’t need someone to love me before I love myself. My God has given me a big heart full of love, kindness and joy; they are for my own good and I don’t want less. I cannot be affected so much by other people’s action and in actions. I will not allow it to make me less of a person.

Even if I do not find anyone to love me completely (But I know I will!), I have God‘s love abounding for me. I can no longer depend on the love of any man or woman to be whole and complete. I am a talented, confident and strong man/woman who can have the life I so desire irrespective of any man’s love, affection or attention.

No one can help me but myself and my God. Pain is only temporary, the future is a long stretch of happiness and self-fulfillment waiting for me to achieve; and with time, I will definitely be all right.”


https://tripplemonline.com/2018/04/24/positive-declarations-that-can-help-you-get-over-a-break-up-fast/

The pressure is real, the longing even more. But what can you do? It is only crazy ladies that engage and marry themselves and even crazier ones who bend on one kneel in proposal to a guy. Dear single ladies, being single isn’t a crime and being married isn’t an achievement on its own… you need more than that to make you happy as exemplified in the life of Linda Ikeji.

One lady whom I admire and believe should be a role model to the singles out there wallowing in self-pity and low esteem because they are not ‘settled’ yet is Linda Ikeji. If there’s a public figure that has received backlash and criticism from the Nigerian audience over marriage, it is Linda Ikeji. But guess what, she has rolled it off her back and kept striving to make a name for herself in Nigeria media industry.

But alas! On a beautiful Wednesday, Instagram buzzed with her engagement story as close friends and family took to their Instagram handles to congratulate her. Typical of her, she didn’t make it a trending story nor pulled publicity stunt with it. It was her personal matter regardless and there should be a limit to how public it got right?

Anyways, these are the lessons I learnt from it and believe single ladies out there should too:

Stay positive, it will come when it will.

Bringing negativity into it will only make the wait tortuous and depressing. Simply believe that your time to be married will come, the man that the universe has predestined for you will come, and if you are not opposed to marriage in totality, then believe that ‘None shall lack their mate’ according to the bible. You read quotes saying people’s time and phases are different, then why not wholly believe it, thanking God for life as it is and enjoy each day as it comes.

Get busy, build up your life

Like Linda Ikeji, get busy; learn a new skill, pursue a career path, learn and develop yourself. A man cannot give you these things but yourself which are still beneficial for when you finally settle down. You should also have something to offer in your marriage, so instead of waiting and yearning for your prince charming to come to your rescue, it is better to rescue yourself and be your own princess charming.

Don’t give in to depression or petty jealousy.

Like Linda, be glad for your friends, colleagues, sisters and classmates when they get hitched. Support them with marriage preparations whenever you can in good faith. Believe it’s their turn today and tomorrow yours will come.

Don’t lose your morals or self-discipline

Very importantly also, there’s no need to hop from one man to the other in a bid to test the waters and meet with luck. I dare say that wouldn’t augur well for you. Even though it may be tempting to give out your number easily, keep a date with all the party in twon or go out of your way to be friendly to most men that come around you, if not properly handled, this might make you look cheap and desperate. So be a woman of class and choice, do not try to sell yourself through nudity and compromise, for you may end up attracting the worst of them.

Read more on....https://tripplemonline.com/2018/04/04/5-things-linda-ikejis-engagement-teach-single-ladies/




@Mynd_44 @Lalastical

asuustrike2009:
Waiting for telemundo criticism

Nah, Telemundo is a darling

@Mynd44,
@Lalastical... lets hear more opinions.

The name ZeeWorld does not need any more introductions to the Nigerian audience, ever since 2015 it made its debut on GOTV and DSTV, the channel has been enjoying a lot of attention and reception by Nigerians, females especially. This is quite understandable because they have not fallen short of airing different Bollywood series with themes centered on love, family and romance.

Also, since their inception, they have shown not less than 38 drama series to their audience, some of which were very popular while they aired. Be that as it may, if you have been an adept fan of ZeeWorld and constantly follow most of their series, then they are pitfalls which you may have noticed as this article dissects below:


1. The series seem to have similar theme

Regardless of the fact that we understand that romance is their predominant theme, one would expect a variation or plot development that don’t seem similar to almost all of the airing series. The series seem to be more concerned with marriages, arranged marriages, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law relationship, family conflict, family gang-up against a wife, mistreatment of daughter in-law, Family class and strata, to state a few. These unfortunately seem to be the preoccupation of most ZeeWorld series, and with time may become monotonous for their target audience.

2. They have a tendency to extend their series into numerous episodes (as long as 200 – 1000 episodes!)

Talk about watching a series that seem to run forever! You may even end up following a series for two years and not having the desired climatic ending. And in a bid to combat this trend, ZeeWorld recently increased the run days for their series to 7 days a week (Mon – Sun) as against five days. The cause of this unnecessary length in episodes could not be unconnected to prolonged twists of events and actions, overly extended scenes and unnecessary sub-plots cropping out one after the other in the story.

3. They can easily switch to a new plot while a major story is still running.

This is true especially for series with over 500 episodes, once the story of the main characters seem to have come near a resolution, another crop of character take over, often involving their children or close relative. One would normally expect that the story would soon end, only for another major twist to occur and a new plot surface. Sometimes, it may even be difficult to trace the preceding characters to antecedents. And it may sometimes see like the viewers are being taken for a ride.

4. The resolutions to their story are hardly climatic.

Same as above, once you’ve concluded that the story is finally unraveling and everyone is getting what they deserve, an unexpected twist knocks you off sail and you leave wondering what just happened?! The problem however, is that this new twist are hardly done expertly with dramatic expertise, it would appear rushed and not thought over with a sole aim of elongating the series! And some times, most times causing viewers to loose interest.

5. They seem to be no continuity with scenes, actions and sub-plots raised in a story.

Most of the times as the action unfolds, hints, dialogues and actions suggest that they would yield positive result in future plots or at least lead to the understanding and final resolution of the main story. But sadly, these slip-ups or events are soon forgotten as new action and counteractions take over. It would seem like the continuity director or script writers forget that they had shot a particular scene, (e.g. installed a camera around the house, paid someone to follow a person or eavesdrop on a discussion.) These inputs are simply shoved away leaving the viewers wondering if they had actually heard or watched right some scenes ago.

More at >>>>> https://tripplemonline.com/2018/03/14/6-criticism-zeeworld-series/

What other criticism can you remember.

The Black Panther movie is unarguably going to be one of the best movies of 2018. Since it’s premiere on January 29, it’s vibe and trends has not yet died down. But do you know that Ryan Coogler, the director who also co-wrote the screenplay had a rough start?

But for the help of his present wife who rallied around to buy him ‘Final Draft’ a screenplay writing software, he may not have kicked start his movie career.

In the below tweet, he had this to say about his experience:

For that singular love action, we have today one of the best all-black cast movie that would go into the history books as a success story.

Like they always say, it’s the little things that always matter.



https://tripplemonline.com/2018/02/27/love-birthed-black-panther-movie/

One of the questions that should bug any sane individual is how to make their life count while on earth. In some way, we envy those who seem to have found a purpose, who are doing what seem to originate naturally for them right from birth, and who are finding fulfillment in that pursuit.

Suffice to mention that the concentration on this topic here is not to recall commercialized oratory on how doing these or that is the hallmark of having a purposeful life. And dare I say, it is neither to tow the religious line about how believing in a form of Divinity is the start and end of having purpose in life; although, in some unguarded times, it maybe fine to accept that fact.

But right now, I seek practicality. I seek a sensual feeling, a gratification that comes from applying time, effort and self to a course that eventually yields a feeling equating to purposeful living.

Can that be achieved through romance, marriage, childbirth, career, adventures, wealth, an individual?

Let’s discuss, how can that be achieved? maybe I could learn from you.

https://tripplemonline.com/2018/02/20/discuss-what-makes-life-purposeful-for-you/

Just something to have at the back of your mind

1. Give room for individuality.
No matter how much you love a person, you still have to let them have their space. Realize that you are both individuals living your separate lives, with different background and experiences before you became couples. A relationship will thrive when you give room for each other to pursue their own things and not always wanting to be in their face. You will choke them while doing that and one day they will seek a means of escape.

2. Embrace the beauty in difference.
A popular quote says that opposite attracts. While this may not be the case in all relationships, you should realize that there is something different in each individual and that the perspective of a couple cannot always be the same. Don’t make it your business to try and change them into seeing things from your own perspective all the time, allow unity in diversity to reign in your relationship.

3. Make compromise where possible
For a garden to remain beautiful and appealing it means a lot of work and sweat went into it. This is true also with relationships. If you want a lasting and happy relationship, then you must be willing to bend most of the time, to forgo self and just compromise on things that always lead to friction and more friction in your relationship. This is however not a scenario of bending till you break, no. It’s a matter of working hard at changing some of the character, actions, habits, behaviour and activities that seem to mar rather than solidify your relationship.


4. Break all strings of obsession
Remember that before you even knew he existed, he was already living a life that totally excluded you. And now that you are both together, you should aim to complement his life not take over it. You should not try to make yourself the only sun that set in his/her life. Doing that will only result in over-crowding him and turning you to an obsessive freak. Obsession is a trait that only leads to depression, restlessness, emptiness amongst other feelings; it will threaten your relationship and leave you in despair.

5. Spend time together
Yes, there are bound to be quite a lot of things taking up your lives apart – work, school, business, family. One way or the other you wouldn’t be spending the number of time you wished you could with your partner. But like they say, where there is a will, there is a way. Even in all that activities, try to squeeze out time; thirty minutes, an hour or less to be together and enjoy each other’s company. During lunch breaks, before takeoff, planned get-together, all these should be a means for you to spend time with your partner.


6. Trust and respect each other
Suffice to say that trust, honesty and respect are key ingredients to building a lasting and happy relationship. Loving a person means respecting them, it means being honest and not taking their trust for granted. Once you and your partner can establish these key ingredients in your relationship, the benefits are amazing.


7. Appreciate the other people in each other lives.
True, jealousy streak may rear its ugly head, but you have to hold yourself and realize that your partner had a life, has met people and is from a family before he or she met you. Just because you started dating doesn’t mean that these people would disappear into thin air. Their parents wouldn’t really stop being the harsh and intolerant persons or the kind and welcoming people they were. You only have to make all effort to become a part of his/her life together with the baggage that comes with the people in their lives. Nobody is perfect in any case.

8. Always communicate your thoughts to the other
Thankfully, nobody yet has the power to read other people’s thought, so do not think that love would magically make your partner a mind reader. It would neither make them able to always understand you through your actions, attitude and body language. Communication is a key for a happy relationship. Tell your partner how you feel, how their actions hurt you, why you want to take a particular action, just keep talking, it will help to resolve a lot of issues. Even if you’re the reserved type that doesn’t like talking, you just have to be able to communicate with the one whom you love.


[b]9. Work on your relationship[/b]
Do not believe in the myth that love alone is enough to guarantee a happy relationship. Your effort coupled with love is what will make it work. Both partner need to maintain a consciousness that they have decided to love another in a special kind of way, and for that reason make conscious effort not to break that promise. All conflict along the way should be resolved, all grievances sorted out; compromises and sacrifice should be made. Everything beautiful doesn’t just happen, they require a certain amount of work, and this is also true of relationships, career or business.

10. Cut down on your expectations.
While love makes you feel afloat, you should not put all your well-being and happiness on another person, so much so that their actions or inactions always tend to pull you down emotionally. Happiness is something that should start from within you, before loving a person deeply, love yourself first. It is only then that you can truly be happy and be able to love another.
Take time to do things that make you happy, pursue your own path in life and only depend on your partner minimally. Don’t give up the big dreams you had before meeting them, if they only want to change you drastically, then you should probably run out of the relationship before you drag yourself down in heartbreak and emotional aches.

Final words: these are just a few things to do to be happy in your relationship, but let’s admit that this list are not set in stone, if two or more of it can adapt readily unto making your relationship a happy one, then there’s nothing to lose right?

https://tripplemonline.com/2018/02/15/10-ways-to-build-a-happy-relationship/

@Myndd44 and @Lalastical

good for you @elyna
However, most people in a relationship still needs to know the signs that it is toxic for them and leave soon enough

Love is wonderful, we agree. But it’s quite unfortunate that most people do not know what loving a person really mean, or that throwing the words ‘I love you’ ever so often does not express love in its totality.

While dating, it’s always our hope that relationships, especially ‘serious’ ones, lead to something lasting and gives us the emotional fulfillment we desire. But alas! The reality is; they may never do.

How well do you know your partner? How well can you trust that after two or more years of dating and fighting the relationship storms along the way that they would not just leave you high and dry all of a sudden?

They are no guarantees to this things right? Yes. But two years or more is a long time to waste on something that has no assurance, no future and no landing point. Trust me, it’s not a good feeling and it would certainly knock the sail off your boat, even if you later find your bearing.

So before you get to that point, where years lead to fruitlessness and you keep repeating “Had I known”; here are some warning signs you should heed and plan an escape route before that partner whom you think loves you eternally shatter your heart into countless pieces.

They are often not ready to compromise
It doesn’t matter how little or huge it is, they just don’t find a reason why your need should supersede theirs. Promises not kept, phone calls not returned, plans and interests seconded for their urgent needs. You try to understand, you try to rationalize that you should also compromise, but how long can you keep that up with no effort from them?

Point is, if they have not started now, they may never do and you would always be expected to understand. And when push comes to shove; when their needs demands more from them, they would not think of keeping you in their life as a compromise. They would never!



They bring you close but not close enough
They tip toe around you, wanting you close but not close enough. You know most of their friends but only hear about their family. How can you rationalize dating a person for over a year or more but never quite meeting with any member of their family? Do not count the fact that they’ve met yours, that’s because you see them in a deeper light than they do you.

They probably don’t want you to meet with their family so that it would be like a clean slate when they finally decide to leave you. So it is better to be the more proactive one.


Their Ex keeps calling them, yet it is okay.
We all know exes are bad news. Continuous communication with them never end well; if it didn’t work out between them in the past and they supposedly moved on with you, then what’s the point of still reaching out?

Fact is that they don’t truly care about your emotions; they would never accept it from you but expect you to understand and see it as harmless.

And while you keep seeing it in a good light, it would be a rude shock when you finally get dumped for that ex who seems to know them better and whose ‘friendship’ they still cherish.

They are quick to call it quits after every provocation
If you can count how many times they’ve called it quits already over any slight provocations, then you should get ready for the big bomb. The final whistle when all your pleadings and explanations would not quench.

Given all the signs already, it is plain to see that you are only been dragged along in the relationship, and when the weight shifts or become too unbearable for them, they will drop you like a hot potato. Remember already that he/she cannot compromise, so darling you’ve reached your limits and really have to go even before they call it quits… again!



read more at >>>>>>
https://tripplemonline.com/2018/02/02/relationship-signs-that-youre-setting-yourself-up-for-heartbreak/