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That is so very true not just in Niara but all over. Many blacks has lost their since of heritage and many woman are believing this notion that they don't need a man.
But the reality of it is that we were designed to have mates of opposite sex to reproduce and for companionship.
The idea of keep the black man out....is merely the ideology of slave mentality and what's been depleted out of our culture now for centuries.
We DO need black men. To help raise our children, to be our leaders, to provide and love us.
Womens equality rights was never a fight that was brought up by black women originally, it's a white woman's struggle.

their excuse is that they don't need a man to be happy.[/quote]

#truth


The grass is only greener at the other side when you stop watering and tending to yours.

A man sees his wife as beautiful; that is his reality, you see her as ugly; that is yours.

The beautiful thing about reality is that its all about perception.[/quote]

I think what the writer is stating is the facts of the scenario.
I believe in essence he is not saying that it's write or wrong he is just simply saying how it is based on statistics.
It should be taken with a grain of salt. And if love happens to mean (cheating) to one person or another those are topics that should be addressed head on the an relationship.



Nice effort, although strained and a little incoherent, I understand what you're trying to say.

However, you failed to grasp the objectivity of the thread, its practicality and cold, hard fact.


Over 80% of men will cheat on their wives once or more, and I guess those men do not love their wives.

Can you furnish us with a theory to explain this behaviour?[/quote]

I totally agree with this complete statement. I had a older woman share with me that when we have sexual encounters outside of marriage we create soul ties. Meaning that we take on a piece of every person we slept with. Sex between marriage is the only way it was condoned to be both fulfilling and enjoyment. It's funny because my now divorced husband taught me about valuing myself and being faithful. I also look at it like I don't want to damage my goods for the right an that comes along. Men will mis-use your goodies and keep it moving.

I’m in deep shit over relationships. I’m a 35-year-old woman and met a very handsome 43-year-old man. We’ve been dating for five months now and still haven’t slept together. My problem is that in the beginning of our relationship, he asked me how many men I’ve slept with and worried about how he would react, I lied and told him I’d slept with seven men. But after a few months, I could not live with the lie and finally decided to tell him the reason why I still haven’t slept with him yet. I told him I didn’t want to make love because I was scared that he’d lose respect and eventually leave me like all the other men. At this point he asked me again, just how many men were there, to which I replied forty-three. His reply was, “Hmm, one for each of my birthday.” And from that day on, I never heard from him again. I don’t get it , why is it that when men sleep around, they’re studs , yet when women sleep around, they’re sluts ? Why can’t women have their fun too?
Dudu, Abuja

Dear Dudu, I’ve spoken with quite a number of women asking the same question. I don’t want to pass judgment on women, nor am I saying that women shouldn’t enjoy themselves sexually. But men and women are never the same.

You expressed fear about losing respect and the way I feel as a woman is that women should be worshiped by their men. An object that has value is worshiped, respected, cherished, and shared with very few deserving people. As soon as you start sharing that object with anyone and without care, the object starts to lose value. The more people use the object, the more it depreciates and the less bargaining power it has: this is a plain psychological fact of life.

Most women don’t realize the importance men place on a woman’s promiscuity. Women think that because men don’t care about how many women they’ve slept with, they won’t care about how many men their woman has slept with. But the reality is that most men, those looking for a serious relationship and not a one-night stand do place great value on a woman’s sexual restraint.

There was a time when many women cherished their bodies much like a sacred temple where only a noble man, one who respected and loved her, had access to her body. But over time, it seems that women have failed to realize the important role their sexuality plays in finding a long-term mate.

Thanks to the women’s movement, women are so busy trying to compete with men, including in the sex department, that they fail to realize the consequences of their actions. Today, it seems that women are the ones who are collecting notches on their Prada belts by giving their bodies away too easily. But if women themselves don’t value their bodies like they used to, why should men? Some women will argue that if men have the right to sleep around, so should women. But I ask only one question: If women adamantly believe this, then why is it that when faced with the question of how many men have they slept with, most women who have slept around with truckloads of men always lie? Some women will rationalize that they must do so because men can’t handle the truth. But if this is the case, why don’t women let men decide for themselves if they can or can’t handle it? Why do women need to lie to protect men’s egos? I think women lie to protect themselves rather than men because if it’s not shame or regret that’s making you hold your tongue, then the potentially dire consequences of the truth surely are. The power lies with women…

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/02/i-lost-my-man-because-i-slept-with-so-many-men/[/quote]