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Full writing like dis. U no fit understand am. Na special center u write ur waec.

Truthsave:
Abeg make Una carry this una Aids go one side , if you zip up you won’t have aids

Na u sabi pass. Why person go chop rice con drink beer on top immediately. Wait like 30mins or an hour sef

buttlover:
I'll eat it, drink water and wait for 30 minutes before I drink hero or life beer

She nd her family wan go jail be that ooo. I no go think am twice

God1000:
As a Man, If a Woman wants to tarnish your image and ruin your life completely today, all she have to do is to set camera, shed a few tears on social media and mention your name.



Just anything at all she chooses to accuse you of will be carried far and wide in frenzy by bitter feminists, effeminate men, bloggers, influencers etc.

Funny you. Make dem arrestam so him no go know watin him do. Dis is called drilling hmm

Winterhaven:
Nigerians, instead of handing him over to the police, they wont, cos this is the kind of things that give them joy... Seeing their fellow man/woman in pains. It makes them feel good about their own pathetic lives.

Na lie. Na u ho dey meet igbo nd yoruba girls

fyneboi79:
i was young and naive,but thank goodness I'm good now...marriage has nothing for men,men just labour tirelessly to their early deaths.

Abeg u get sence soo. Which aid or help china help us with. Apart from invest and dey make d money back.
D school wey una go,i no understand watin u na go learn there.
Na special center waec most of una do.. rubbish

Putindbutt:
Have you asked yourself what the US is doing in DR Congo stealing their mineral resources everyday while destabilizing the country with war?. I hate the hypocrisy of the US.

China is investing $20billion in Obidigben gas park. China is investing $60 billion in 4,000km high speed train covering the six geopolitical zones in Nigeria. China is providing soft loans to Nigerian Government and they are actively building infrastructures in Nigeria.

What is the USA useful for?. Selling their weapons to Nigeria to make more money in the name of fighting insecurity.

Abeg go sitdown. U sure sure saay u be nigerian soo.
I swear i believe na china. Me sef dey reason am before now.

olaolulazio:
Trump and assumption are 5 and 6.

Maybe na fish seller give am intel this time around

See you. Chinese mine legally? For where.
America tell u ur problem, u say no be true.

HacheNoire:
Stop telling lies!

Chinese firms are legal miners! Talk about illegal miners!

They operate like our own Japaul. They have lease and mining licenses.

Una go just open mouth waaa. Dey say rubbish.. china bla bla blaa. I pray dis u wish for is answered. Na unaa go still cry.

Kingsley34:
China might become the world power very soon

It is oo..

CodeTemplarr:
shariah is not a big deal.

You are like the poster. Sorry to say oo

Richtaiwo:
I find it rather hard to believe that one bank can simply stroll into another bank’s domain and withdraw funds from a customer’s account in the name of loan recovery. Are these not the same institutions that won’t even let you ask a harmless question about your own spouse’s account, yet are now expected to roll out the red carpet for an entirely different bank and permit a withdrawal?

U get bad mind from unset

Rootrophy:
by the fact that it works for u doesn't mean it will work for all. Not all inlaws are good so madam enjoy your marriage

I dnt loke to insult but,try ise ur brainabeg.

SadiqBabaSani:
U.S have not been sincere from the beginning. Not like I expected them to be sincere anyways, their target was to checkmate the growing influence of China in Africa especially 🇳🇬

Who wrote this rubbish. Is it only women that are abused in a marriage.
The truth is thay all woman that is abused are more aggressive and even fight their men more. Some raised their hand before the man does.
Men are being abused in marriage more. And the law needs to look at this.
If two women can't sayy with each other cause dey will fight. But same woman will abuse a man nd the whole world won't say anything.

Naijalegal:
Destigmatizing Divorce

Destigmatizing divorce is a necessity in this generation. Divorce is not a sign of failure. Marriage is not the ultimate purpose of this life, being married is not the biggest achievement and the purpose of marriage is to enjoy it and not to fight for it. If you find yourself fighting for your marriage just know that the war may never come to an end and even if you will win few battles you may still end up not winning the war. A turbulent home is a war without end where a woman will be forced to walk on egg shells every single day and simply issues that can easily be resolved with maturity turn to a time bomb. Living in a turbulent home feels like living in a war front. The slightest issues gets over blown and misinterpreted and used against the woman. Every effort is made to belittle her and degrade her and strip her of every dignity. In a turbulent home, there is always an obvious effort to make the woman not to enjoy the home. The man is hell bent on not letting her enjoy peace of mind. Abusive partners take everything personal, seeing you triggers them and once you accept it you are simply expected to soak it up and get used to it without complaining and see it as a way of life. What is not easy to understand is why some women choose to stay in an abusive marriage instead of running away.

First, is the Stockholm syndrome. Psychologist have discovered through series of research that when women are abused and they stick with their abusers for too long they tend to become very sympathetic to their abusers. If someone abuses you and you refuse to leave them after a period of time you will develop sympathy for that abusive person, you will tend to overlook their abusive tendencies and start to manage the situation and keep adjusting and squeezing yourself to adapt to the abusive behaviour. The human mind is tricky and it accepts whatever is dished out to for a long period of time. For instance if you keep calling a child stupid or foolish after a while the child wills tart to exhibit stupid or foolish behaviour. Women who refuse to leave abusive marriages gradually develop Stockholm syndrome which makes them love the abusive partner and trauma bond with them deeply. They become a partner in crime in the abusive dynamics. It becomes part of their love language. They start to expect it and start to see it as part of marriage. You will hear them say something like no man is perfect or that it is better to cry in benz than to cry in keke. They will come up with so much excuses to defend the abuser. They may even start to believe that the abuser loves them so much that he loose control and starts to hurt them. They simply brainwash themselves to continue with the abusive relationship and cope with them. Stockholm syndrome is simply a coping mechanism borne out of mental manipulation. As a woman you must be able to identify Stockholm syndrome and deal with it before it destroys you. There is no defence or justification for abusive and even if there is it should not be coming from you as the victim. A victim must not defend evil or make it lesser. Once you stop seeing the boundaries between an abusive behaviour and a love behaviour then you are simply suffering from Stockholm syndrome.

Second, the fear of being alone or the fear of walking away from the marriage is what keeps women in abusive marriages. After a while women build their life around a marriage, the society expects them to leave their own parents, jobs, house, surnames, identity and get absorbed into the world of the man. Women sacrifice a lot in marriage, they are forced to sacrifice their friends, relatives, families, siblings, career, health, cities they grew up, their womb, their heart, their business, their career, their social support system and a lot of basic survival mechanisms in the hope that their husband will be able to protect and provide for them but sadly many husbands do not understand the difference between being a husband and being a girlfriend. They demand submission without responsibility, they refuse to face the reality of their office as a husband. They misunderstand the loyalty and submission of their wife and take it for granted. Submission and loyalty of a woman is a heavy sacrifice that must be compensated with huge responsibility and management to ensure that things work out well. A woman who submits to an irresponsible man is like someone throwing gold jewelry to a pig. It is a complete waste of time, emotion, life and resources. It is a very dangerous move that has led to the death of many women. The purpose of submission is protection and provision. It is against human nature to submit to what will kill you. The only difference between a tree and a human being is that a human being will run away when he sees something that can kill her while a tree cannot run away from whatever is coming to kill it. This is a natural sensation that is even present in animals and more developed in human beings. It is a natural reaction. Women who get killed in abusive relationship have been converted from human beings to trees.

The goal of abusive men is to convert their victims from human beings to something less than a human being. The whole essence of abuse is to degrade and reduce the potential of the woman. There is nothing that a woman will do that will justify abuse because abusive men have a deep problem inside themselves. Abuse comes from deep inside the oppressor and not from the victim. Do not let any man to convince you that they abuse you because of how you trigger them. They abuse you because of their own internal issues with themselves. Nobody goes around abusing everyone they see on the road, abusive people simply seek for the perfect victim and when you find yourself in an abusive relationship you should remind yourself that you have made a mistake and fallen into the trap of an abusive person who sees you as a perfect victim.

Another reason that makes women to stay in abusive relationship is that they get suckered in by the abusive dynamics. Abusive men are not ignorant of their evil behaviour. They simply hone their abusive skills and trap their victims with an emotional roller coaster of up and down emotional triggers. The brain works with some chemicals called dopamine and it is easy to manipulate and get people to become addicted to it. Nobody gets addicted to cocaine or weed or cigarrete they simply get addicted to the chemical reaction that it triggers. Abuse partners are experts at triggering intense dopamine reaction in the brains of their victims. Most abusive partners follow up their abusive actions with some charming and loving actions to encapsulate their victim inside a confusing situation. With an abusive person you will always feel confused and not know what next to expect and naturally the brain finds this to be very exciting. The brain hates calm situations and always loves up and down peaks in mood. That is why great movie producers always add suspense in their movies. Research has shown that humans do not like what always stays at one point. Abusive partners are experts at making the woman's mood to go up and down in an extreme pattern. One second an abusive partner is very very sweet and the next second they are so mean that you as a victim will not mind sticking with them until they become sweet again. This is going to be like a heroine addict, always waiting for the next high. Even though human beings are rational, nobody sits down with a calculator to calculate the rationality of their behaviour.

The best way to escape from abusive behaviour is to break the patterns and this can only be done by identifying abusive behaviour. Once you can identify abusive behaviour then your next job is to set clear boundaries and be firm about it. If you cannot take a firm stand against abusive behaviour then you should get ready to continue to suffer from it. Another thing you should do is to seek outside help. You must build a strong social support system and refuse being isolated by your abuser. Most abusers try to isolate their victims so that the abuse will not be detected. But once you build a strong social support system it will be very easy to find help. With a strong social support system you will become less vulnerable to abuse and will be able to take a firmer stand against any abuse. Abusive marriages and relationship does not know education, wealth, age, location or any status and it is something that can happen to anyone. We have seen it happen to professors, rich women, and even women living abroad. You must find help and support if you are in an abusive relationship. There is nothing to hide about it and you must be strong and firm and see it as a battle for your survival. Type marriage partner in the comment section to receive a link to join my special WhatsApp community for regular updates and our monthly webinar. Send me a DM if you want to book a session for private and confidential consultation.

U are a sadist. Am tellingyou,cause u might not know.

muyico:
count it as wasting fund
pagan festive!
Where in the Bible Jesus Christ celebrate Christmas?? Or his 12disciples

Funny!!! No be ur papa hand ee dey. Na baba GOD!
Since u love bad more than good. Because of food nd money.

Truths9ja:
It’s better he return back to the Club, 2026 is gone for him👌. Adeleke's a goner

You no sabi good thing.

Bahamas95:
Who compiled this list?

I don't see anything beautiful in Korean, Japanese, or Chinese women. Most of them are ugly.

You should forgetur destined glory too. Rubbish

press9jatv:
Adeleke should forget August 8th, 2026 governorship election.

I dont like how u ppl reason sometimes. He said drug isssues. U said he want to take their oil. Hba nigeria man.dey reason straight abeg

God1000:
This man is after Venezuela's oil, and he claims to be a global peacemaker

If what you are saying is truth. Then u willbhave to leave ur girl.coz she wont follw ur lead but her mum's. Her mum will run ur family. Nd it wont end well. My token.

toboizilla:
I’ll appreciate your honest feedback.

Dont mind dem. Rubbish mentality. Why should i bow to you coz i earn wat i wotked for.

Hardeybohwarley:
Even though her action is commendable, we need to let go of such mentality as it doesn't work in saner climes and better organisation in Nigeria.

I find it hard to see why an employer will be expecting me to show appreciation for receiving a salary I toiled for.

Was the employer thanking me while I was doing the job.

Rubbish talk. Its either the staff is not doing his or her job or did not know her future is being exchanged for peanut.

Sonnobax15:

Staff wey know whatsxup.

He knows appreciation is the application for more...

Now tell me why such a staff won't be considered for promotion should the time for promotion comes?

Funny. If he smokes with them. Dey wont disturb him. Every1 is not a specialist,till it happens to them.

Kaykay999:
Boy how often do u roll with them?
Do u smoke with them ?
What lead to those demanding from dem ?
You breached a code which is minding my business at first and it seems like u have submitted to dem already hmmm soon they go carry u go initiation.
Pack out or set strong boundaries.
Report to nearest police station just in case.

But why are you reasoninglike this..... na wa oo

Dogalmighty17:
Nikki Minaj will address the UN regarding these attacks in Nigeria. Of all people, she has constantly been taking the matter before Trump. Presently, trump is considering attacking Venezuela though he said yesterday that if his discussion with Maduro impresses him, he will call off his dogs. As at today, the largest aircraft carrier America has, is parked off the Venezuelan coast.

If discussions between the US and Venezuela go as planned, that aircraft carrier and all its supporting ships and nuclear submarine (each American carrier strike group has a submarine or two shadowing it) may be redirected to Nigeria.

Trump is very desperate to divert attention away from the Jeffrey Epstein saga. He is very unpredictable right now. Nigeria should not give him the excuse he is looking for but I think it is already late. The APC led government is totally unserious about putting an end to the activities of these killers.

Bros see talk. Watin concern us with dat fake dominating scholarship. Brits knws abt shit happening here. I guess

Mindlog:
See how you dissected it!😂

During my student days here in the UK, did bump into few Nigerian students who were on government scholarships and it was evident it wasn't on merit!

LegendHero:
The problem come be say, we never see the work

he have done more than anyone. Prove me anywhere.

illicit:
Do you have a problem with people who sell ogogoro, that's what the woman who raised your wife sells, and now she is raising your kids...

Why are you worried?

sorry pls. Are you normal??

Vinnie2000:
The problem with such Decamping is that It will Bring together Strange Bed Fellows who will have Difficulty working together.

Dat's how Ned Nwoko Decamped to APC and started having problems with Ovie Omo-agege.
Even some Elements in the Delta APC brought in Great Ogboru and currently the 3 men are at Loggerheads.

If APC allows more Defections to their Party, they will be unknowingly kickstarting a DESTRUCTION process of themselves.

why are u hinting dem¿¿

meditator:
Why should a responsible person keeps what's makes him/her look like a mad man ? It's one of the first signs of wayward upbringing

show us ur hair.

[quote ai cant even live in my atate because of the dirtyness ..uthor=adalame post=134742624]Two incompetent men, neither of them achieved even a tenth of what Amosun did in that state, yet they’re squabbling like children. History will remember them as the worst governors Ogun State has ever had, and the people will never think of them fondly.
Ogun State, being so close to Lagos and home to many Lagos workers and businesspeople, should be one of the most developed states in Nigeria, with top-notch infrastructure, healthcare, schools, and roads. But corrupt leaders like these two have only dragged the state backward.[/quote]