₦airaland Forum

dollytino4real:
if I want to give my first son of 15 out to another family to go and work and live with them to learn new life and discipline from the new home, how do i go about it.

You want to dash your son out like a souvenir.lol

Every husband with his cross

Wike is really a powerful politician

Love800:
Okay.

So how will the mentoring be.

What will it take from me(your price)?

Check My profile for my contact no make we talk better
I am afraid of Ban

Hi

Love800:
Phone.

My last question before i conclude on the mentoring part.

Is it international students or nigerian students i will be teaching?

Both but international students should be your target.they pay so so well

Times 4-5 of normal School salary if you Hit jackpot

Love800:
Okay.

But i want to understand something.

Can you give me an insight of the work. What is it all about. The process?
Just an insight. I didn't say you should spill everything to me.

It depends on If you wanna use phone to teach or laptop

Love800:
Can you mentor me on dis please?

Why not but the training fee is Just token

Bboss7:
Guys, I want to explain something that has been bothering me, and I need everyone to understand the situation before making any judgment.

A woman called me some months ago and told me that she has an 11-year-old daughter for me. The confusing part is that we had unprotected sex in the past, but at that time she was already in a serious relationship, and she clearly told me that the child was not mine.

Now, after all these years, she has suddenly come back and is saying that I am the biological father of the child. This has honestly come as a shock to me because it is completely different from what she told me back then.

I’m not trying to run away from responsibility or deny anything. I just believe that something this serious should be confirmed properly before anyone concludes that I am the father. I’m willing to find out the truth through a proper DNA test, because I don’t have money for DNA tests right now and I don’t like the situation the daughter is in

The two of you should save up for DNA test

IyaTola:
Yes, I see the point you’re making.

You’re talking about a 34-year-old woman with three children, each having a different father—the first child is 17, the second is 11, and the last is 5. She describes herself as a “lover girl” and says she wants a serious relationship and eventually marriage.

Your argument is that some Nigerian men may reject her automatically because of her history, with comments like “If you already have three children for three different men, I can’t marry you.” Yet, you’re questioning whether it is fair to use one person’s experience—or the behaviour of a minority of women—to judge all single mothers.

I also understand the point about priorities in Nigerian relationships: rather than simply judging a woman by the number of children she has or the number of fathers involved, a man considering marriage should look at her character, emotional maturity, accountability, relationship history, parenting, values, financial responsibility, and what she has learned from her past.

At the same time, there is another side: a man is also entitled to decide that raising or accepting responsibility for three children from three previous relationships is not the family structure he wants. That preference doesn't automatically make him wicked or judgmental.

The strongest version of your argument, therefore, isn't “men must marry women with three children.” It's: Don't turn one person's complicated relationship history into a universal verdict on every single mother. Assess the individual before you.

And yes—the “one in a hundred” being used to judge the other 99 is the heart of what you're saying.

Ai text

lavylilly:
DEAR SINGLE MOTHERS, LET’S TALK ABOUT MARRIAGE AGAIN.

There is a conversation we need to have honestly.

Imagine a 34-year-old woman with three children. Her first child is 17, the second is 11, and the last is 5. Unfortunately, the three children have different fathers.

She now says, “I am a lover girl. I want a serious relationship. I want to settle down and get married.”

Immediately, some people will say:

“Three children for three different men? Forget marriage.”

Some men have even made it a personal rule:

“Once a woman has three children for different men, I can never marry her.”

But should we really judge every woman based on the worst examples we have seen?

A woman having three children from three different relationships tells us something about her past. It doesn't automatically tell us everything about who she is today.

At the same time, let's be honest with ourselves.

A woman who has children from different fathers must be prepared to answer serious questions about her past. What happened in those relationships? What choices did she make? What has she learned? Has she taken responsibility for her decisions? Is she emotionally stable? What kind of relationship does she want now?

And a man considering her for marriage has every right to ask those questions.

He also has every right to say, “This isn't the family situation I want.”

That's his choice.

But there is a difference between saying “I don't want this situation” and saying “No woman in this situation deserves marriage.”

Those are two completely different things.

SINGLE MOMS, PLEASE DON'T LOSE YOURSELF TRYING TO PROVE SOMETHING.

If you genuinely want marriage, don't allow desperation to make you accept any man simply because he is willing to date you.

You don't need to convince every man that you're marriage material.

You need to become the kind of woman who is emotionally mature, responsible, self-aware and ready for a healthy partnership.

Your children also matter.

The man you choose isn't just becoming your boyfriend or husband. He is potentially becoming part of your children's lives. Choose carefully.

And please, don't enter another relationship thinking:

“At least this one will finally marry me.”

That mindset can make you ignore red flags just because you are afraid of starting over.

AND TO THE MEN...

You are allowed to have standards.

You are allowed to say you don't want to marry a woman with children from previous relationships.

But if you meet a single mother, judge the woman in front of you, not every single mother you've heard stories about.

There are responsible single mothers.

There are irresponsible single mothers.

There are women who made terrible relationship choices and genuinely changed.

There are also women who continue making the same mistakes.

Just like there are responsible men, irresponsible men, faithful men, unfaithful men, mature men and immature men.

One bad example should not become the standard for everybody.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, SINGLE MOMS...

Don't let society convince you that because you have children, you must settle for the first man who shows interest.

You still deserve respect.

You still deserve companionship.

You still deserve a healthy relationship.

But remember:

Wanting marriage is not enough. You must also be ready for a healthy marriage.

And sometimes, the most important relationship you need to fix first is the relationship you have with yourself.

Your past may explain you.

It does not have to permanently define you.

Do you have a blood brother that is yet to marry, Tell him to follow this jargons you preach,he should marry a single mother with three kids of different husband

Nonsense

Tohsynetita1:
It's well, with the soul of every Nigerian hustling

Realized you tried to send a Mail to me, pls kindly reach out via WhatsApp 08039545401 Sir

Love800:
Hello.

How do you do dis teaching?

I love teaching English language too.

Strictly online
Laptop or phone (voov or Google classroom app). once you have one international learner, you re good to go

imsoftcash:
"Is 35 too old to become a mother? Yesterday, a lady asked this question. According to her, most men are turning her down, telling her she is too old to become a mother. She needs a profound answer and will be reading the comments.




According to her, she had not given birth before, but men are a bit staying away from her due to her age when it comes to marriage, and she is beginning to give up on marriage and the possibilities of becoming a mother.

At 35, she is not late. She is not finished. She is not too old. She still has every right to hope, love, build a family, and pursue motherhood.
The right person for her won’t make her feel like her age is a punishment. But she shouldn't keep her egg in One basket any longer, time is going before time will be totally gone

Time will tell, I teach kids virtually for a living.check my bio for my contact

Vicdadiva:
Pray for me nairalanders for the save delivery of my baby
I'm off to the labor room
I'll update y'all, bye for now

Wishing you a Safe delivery

oloriokonbowa:
How can one have over 11 Gb on glo and yet not able to browse since morning? How can I port my number please

Glo is My best Network here
I no dey use am play

Abokisure:
Don't want to mention where she is from. To avoid tribal war.

Definitely she is from mbaise,imo State

Igbos gat no chil regarding Bride price

babatee1985:
Hello house, I am a father of three children and I mistakenly got my wife pregnant again which I don't want and I've told her to let get rid of it because the pregnancy is just two weeks old and it is yet to form but she insisted that she's going to born it.

I told her to reason with me because my salary is just 150k monthly while she teaches in a school. I told her the financial burden will be too much on us but she said no. She said God will provide for us to take care of our children but I'm working with the reality of things and not something that is not certain.

I've been sleeping in my place of work for days now because I'm not happy at all. I'm just confused and I don't know what to do.

Any advice pls?

So sorry to hear this, don't you guys do any preventive measure to avoid this pregnancy

benny4wax:
My fellow nairalanders, I often see people bring their problems here in the hope of getting tips and advice from brilliant men and women in this forum, the good part of it is that we never respond with silence, we all treat the problem as if it was ours by giving out advice and encouragement. While others reply with kk, , , ,(Space bookers), but in all that, we still help that person in our own capacity.

Please, I am presently in a state of confuse as Nkoli Nwa nsuka would say. I found over 20 pieces of condo.m in my younger brothers bag of cloths.

I am current filled with rage as he is under 18. I don't know if I should report to my parents or confront him (but I fear It may end violently).

How do i approach this situation. Please, Nairalanders help me.

Good advice, bad advice, abuse, insults, kk, , and are all welcomed.

The way your brother is moving,he Will have four kids for four different ladies before he clocks 25

Omo komo

Tell una parents

Tenrack:
Ogbeni if you dare tell the parents, na God go punish you. Let her live her life and make costly mistakes. The parents sef go get sense las las

You re very irresponsible

See comment for God sake

Ilamina:
I am doomed

Time is going

I want to move on with my life

Just leak your secret by yourself

Women rarely keep secret

Congratulations

Goo0dHardDick:
A case of sugar zaddy and her pet daughter part 3

Zaddy wey dey pamper

They should query umahi,he go talk something