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Family › Re: Are You Thinking What Am Thinking? by twinning200(op): 6:10pm On Jun 21, 2022

cococandy:
It’s still 75% based on your family expenses and as such my comment still stands.

It stands on ur erected pinis? I would say no because you are female.

Family › Re: Are You Thinking What Am Thinking? by twinning200(op): 8:36am On Jun 19, 2022

cococandy:
If he’s handling only 75% of the bills, he should gladly handle 25% of the household care. That means on Sundays and Mondays, he should happily cook, clean, care for the kids, do laundry etc in those days.

Don’t be surprised his 75% contribution is the rent that he pays, not knowing how much things cost in the market. Meanwhile his wife is probably spending more to feed the family than they are paying in other expenses.

Dont be harsh, 75% includes 2 million rent, childrens school fees tuning up to like almost a million and the half a year, groceries, clothings, outing spending, weekly feeding, though she spends her majorly on kitchen too, when I say 75% i know what am talking about.

Family › Re: Are You Thinking What Am Thinking? by twinning200(op): 10:29pm On Jun 16, 2022

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Men. No matter how much you love your wife.Please and please, always be the trouble maker in your house.
Shikinan.

Only the wise will understand this.

@OP. You shouldn't be worried about the time she goes out on Mondays to get what she needed for her business because the reason she gave is very valid considering the type of business she does. Your concern should be in the areas of her dirtyness,carelessness,lies,non challant attitudes and her inabilities of taking corrections/ making amends.

But the whole truth is that all was your fault because you have allowed such behaviours for a very long time.

I swear to God, i have tried my best, he nor just work, its a tough one, I never thought of it to be like this.

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Family › Re: Are You Thinking What Am Thinking? by twinning200(op): 10:27pm On Jun 16, 2022

ImaIma1:
Marriage is one place that is really not for the faint hearted as you have stated, and we have to develop a tough skin and drop our expectations.

There are some traits that you may have overlooked while dating that has come to rear it's ugly head in marriage. Marriage decision is one of the most important decisions we will ever make as per choosing a partner because when the love clears from our eyes, our faults are magnified.

Right now, it is either you want to stay and manage her excesses or walk away. But bringing your wife's faults here for strangers to bash her is not something you should do if your marriage means anything to you.

You will agree with me that you also have faults that she complains about, except you want to say you are the perfect one while she's the only one with issues. But we know that can't be true. Imagine reading a post from your wife here, how would you feel?

Some guys here will capitalize on your wife's faults and try to sow a seed of discord between you two. However, it is your marriage. If you decide to listen to prejudiced people concerning your marriage, that is on you.

Since your wife doesn't seem to take corrections about the things you have hammered on, you could try counselling, talking to an elder in her family, etc. Exhaust all options till you are left with no other choice.

I do understand your points and assertion, but trust me it aint like most of the bashing or negative talk about me or her would have any initial effect on our marital union whatsoever, but then, responding to the embolden, Sure I do have my faults too, but majority comes from her, like almost all the time, she wants me to even adapt to the habits, like just manage it thats how am created, life is short, dont take things too serious. Like over the years kept saying childrens safety is priority, correction upon correction on this subject since wayback, but this year alone madam has gone to 5 start hotels to take pictures for modelling clothings, while she leaves kids on their own at the pool side, u can imagine leaving your 8 year old already looking adultlike daughter on her own at the salon while she drives off to come get her later, is this current Nigeria we live in. We have gone for counselling, the changes only last 2months, then it dips back to its former form. I weak

Family › Re: Are You Thinking What Am Thinking? by twinning200(op): 11:25pm On Jun 15, 2022

Guys i have actually been seeing comments and the bashing here and there. True one should always talk things through with ones partner rather than bringing it here. Trust me am already 10years into this, and yall can imagine that plenty different abnormal things that ought to have been corrected over the years is something we are still battling with? I never would have come out here to say anything if it aint something I have been tolerating for years. Is it just this one? Hell naw, I have actually given up, so sometimes when I come here, some response gives me hope or better still good advises on what I can do to make things better.

Madam has cleanness issue, disorganization, the children are already adapting and adopting that same lifestyle, I am saddened, I have tried my best to annul this traits but to no avail. Being transparent nko! Never! she would claim the reason I lied about my location, or lied about something else is to avoid being shouted at, a man wont shout if its not something that is being continually complained about. Alot is going on, my brother and sis, marriage isnt for the faint hearted, the life span of majority will dwindle in this current generation we are in. I am exhausted.

Romance › Are You Thinking What Am Thinking? by twinning200(op): 12:12pm On Jun 14, 2022

guys something have been happening for a while now, signs are there that something unknown could be looming or happening but what happened today is what
made me create this post. My wife is a fashion designer, she goes to tejuosho market to buy materials and sometimes she claims she buys ready made to sell. Sometimes, mostly on Mondays like this, she wont inform me that shes leaving early, and when she does, breakfast is missed, or any other important stuff is sidelined. Overtime we have had discussion on why it is always like this, and her excuse have always been " if i dont meet up early, there are certain materials that i wont be able to get, will be sold out before i reach there" that statement to me sort of like made a little sense, but shouldnt be to the detriment to the responsibility of her as a wife considering the fact that I manage 75% of the home financial responsibility.

So today, I woke up 8.42am, she was gone since, i showered, clothed myself to resume office, by the time i opened the car door, the safe compartment was opened down with all of our international passports, both her passport, my passport, our kids USA passport all there, my hand fall, immediately. The reason why the passport were there is because we had gone somewhere yesterday to do something's, and the passports where required, though we forgot to return them back inside when we got back home. The moment I saw the opened down compartment, I did a video and sent it to her via whatsapp, and i stated the obvious that it was because of the rush, she concurred and said she didnt see the passports, common, over 6 passports clearly and obviously showing, next she said the stuff probably didnt close well. Now peeps, is it that bad that rushing to get to the market to get materials could make a woman overlook such important documents being opened to the public eye, because anybody passing on the street can definitely see the passports from the passenger side of the safe compartment, why the rush that u took something out of there and couldnt push it back to lock, or was so much in a rush that in the process of pushing it back, the rushing didnt make her push it back properly to lock. I'm beginning to think something else, who else is thinking what am thinking? Plus if I say we need to regulate her rushment to the market, she go talk sey short men like me are sort of controlling.

Family › Are You Thinking What Am Thinking? by twinning200(op): 11:41am On Jun 14, 2022

guys something have been happening for a while now, signs are there that something unknown could be looming or happening but what happened today is what
made me create this post. My wife is a fashion designer, she goes to tejuosho market to buy materials and sometimes she claims she buys ready made to sell. Sometimes, mostly on Mondays like this, she wont inform me that shes leaving early, and when she does, breakfast is missed, or any other important stuff is sidelined. Overtime we have had discussion on why it is always like this, and her excuse have always been " if i dont meet up early, there are certain materials that i wont be able to get, will be sold out before i reach there" that statement to me sort of like made a little sense, but shouldnt be to the detriment to the responsibility of her as a wife considering the fact that I manage 75% of the home financial responsibility.

So today, I woke up 8.42am, she was gone since, i showered, clothed myself to resume office, by the time i opened the car door, the safe compartment was opened down with all of our international passports, both her passport, my passpport, our kids USA passport all there, my hand fall, immediately. The reason why the passport were there is because we had gone somewhere yesterday to do sometings, and the passports where required, though we forgot to return them back inside when we got back home. The moment I saw the opened down compartment, I did a video and sent it to her via whatsapp, and i stated the obvious that it was because of the rush, she concurred and said she didnt see the passports, common, over 6 passports clearly and obviously showing, next she said the stuff probably didnt close well. Now peeps, is it that bad that rushing to get to the market to get materials could make a woman overlook such important documents being opened to the public eye, because anybody passing on the street can definitely see the passports from the passenger side of the safe compartment, why the rush that u took something out of there and couldnt push it back to lock, or was so much in a rush that in the process of pushing it back, the rushing didnt make her push it back properly to lock. I'm beginning to think something else, who else is thinking what am thinking? Plus if I say we need to regulate her rushment to the market, she go talk sey short men like me are sort of controlling.

Romance › Re: My Gf Seems To Be Catching Feelings by twinning200: 12:44pm On May 24, 2022

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 8:33am On May 24, 2022

truthsayer009:
Well, thank God you specified what your problem was.

Yes, but people get married in this kind of situation and still find themselves compatible overtime

Wahala no come to much like this?

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 8:32am On May 24, 2022

Klass99:
How many years did it take the Israelites to reach the promise land again?

LOL

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 10:50pm On May 23, 2022

Klass99:
Perhaps you are still in your growing phase.

At 10 years in this LAGOS Nigeria?

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 10:15pm On May 23, 2022

Klass99:
The cold silent treatment works too, but how does someone who is married for 10 years behave like this? I mean your wife.

Yet some people will want to burst a vein in trying hard to convince us that marriage makes people responsible. I don't understand their own idea or definition of responsible sha, but it certainly doesn't make everyone reasonable/sensible.

This is what baffles me, almost 10 years, and we still battle things of the old, am not saying am perfect. but for majority of what causes issues in the home comes from her.

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Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 5:40pm On May 23, 2022

Sadly I have been giving her cold attitude, I dont care if she feels what she said got to me or not, you dont use your younger brother to disrespect me. Now shes begging and wanting me to come back to normal. I am just here facing my work and doing my thing.

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Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 10:21am On May 23, 2022

Vyzz:
I think she does it unintentionally.

And she doesn't realise how much it hurts you. She loves you buh this thing she doesn't know how to stop herself from saying this and maybe she regrets it after she already said it.

File for a divorce and let her know why, let her cry for days. Then forgive her.

She will know its either she stops it or she goes her way.

Somethings u just have to force it into people skull

She does regret after saying it, but it doesnt mean that she didnt know what shes doing, medicine after death nor be cruise. Filing for a divorce again is hard. I just would probably ignore her for now.

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 8:02pm On May 22, 2022

novia22:
Aaaaaahhh yet she get mouth dey use height dey Yab you....
Better then.....kuku tell her that that's the same issue you are facing too...cos she's trying to be controlling and hers is worse cos she is shorter....
I'm sorry if I sound mean...you wife seems like the type to uses her words to hurt people or get people to do things her way.....Such people don't like being served their own poison.

Lol, i stated it na, but she said shes a woman her height dont matter. grin

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 2:14pm On May 22, 2022

novia22:
You would have told her "You that is tall, see the nonsense you are vomiting from your mouth".
Next time, she won't say rubbish.

Lol, she's not even taller than I am.

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 2:12pm On May 22, 2022

Vyzz:
Baba Warn her then...

... she do am again File for a divorce.

That will let her know that you don't like that and u ain't shutting with her no more if she calls it again.

When she begs, forgive her and revoke the case. E go clear for her.

Let her know there will be consequences

The last time we went for counseling was like a divorce proceeding/ re-evaluation of issues to reconcile and make amend. And I could recall that I mentioned this very issue of trying to disgrace,talk down and belittle me in peoples presence, But the one of her brother was what I used as a subject line. While we were leaving, I could recall she made up a very strong statement in the car, she mentioned my name 3 times and swore that she will do everything to protect, shield and never to go against what will make me get angry or see her as a woman that is not worthy of being called my wife. But here we are, few months after she's been messing up doing exactly all of the things we had gone there to complain about.

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 2:08pm On May 22, 2022

elmagnifico411:
Baba, from this your second write up, that lady no respect u. Did she get married to u out of pity, or age wasn't really on her side? If I were u, I'll call the marriage a quit. It's enough reasons for me. Wetin a 23yrs old boy sabi? I am not asking u to do so, but me, that's what I'd do. If she no fit respect herself by respecting me, make she get the hell out! I hate nonsense!

Regarding your emboldened message, I only got to know her for just 2weeks when she got pregnant, i barely knew her, we were forced to get married, I didnt want to then cos I was not ready, though our meeting pattern is not new, people from two different backgrounds and two different personalities who arent compatible can still work things out, but in our own case, we are still fighting things of the old, yall can imagine, july october this year will make it 10years, I have even said to myself since feb that i aint doing no anniversary, its being tolerance over the last years instead of having something worthy to celebrate. The only thing that it keeping me here is just the kids, the only credit however that I can give to her is the fact that my kids arent bastards, I did my DNA duly and she didnt mess up in that aspect.

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Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 8:58am On May 22, 2022

[quote author=pozehnani post=113056150][/quote]Thanks alot, I appreciate.

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 8:56am On May 22, 2022

elmagnifico411:
Baba, from this your second write up, that lady no respect u. Did she get married to u out of pity, or age wasn't really on her side? If I were u, I'll call the marriage a quit. It's enough reasons for me. Wetin a 23yrs old boy sabi? I am not asking u to do so, but me, that's what I'd do. If she no fit respect herself by respecting me, make she get the hell out! I hate nonsense!

That was exactly my point, sometimes ago we had a heated argument, she called her brother in, and i immediately cautioned him that I wouldnt want her to start making you look like a bad boy whereas i know you as a good boy, that whenever am having an argument with her, he should not bother showing up when she calls her, and the boy said no problem sir. I explained to her that the boy is too young, and he wouldnt have deepened understanding of what we are talking about, its not even a good example to be involving him in our discuss. I also said if it were to be her elder sister, its still understandable, but to her, she feels because the boy is taller is the reason i dont want him involved, the shallowest of minds to me reason this way.

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Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 8:53am On May 22, 2022

Jamesbally:
The truth is, she might not know you find those words extremely offensive. You need to remind her about it. But this time, don't joke while saying it. Quotion her with all seriousness. Before she will repeat the same thing one day, in the presence of your Friends or some guest.

Yes she knows, she def knows, she had it in her thought that it got to me because i reported the case during her counseling, but i pointed it out clearly that it was a form of disrespect saying that in front of his younger brother that am almost 18 years older than.

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Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 8:51am On May 22, 2022

JovialJune:
Doesn't she have something physically awkward in her body, use it to insult her back either provoked or unprovoked, and publicly, she will stop.

Unfortunately she doesnt, however first year into our marriage, i had mistakenly called her ugly, the statement went into her, that she lost self esteem for a while, i knew the magnitude of the effect on her, and ever since then i never made such mistake, even though shes pretty and not ugly.

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 8:49am On May 22, 2022

Sekoni003:
You need to be firm and regain your dominant frame as her husband. I'm not saying you should become an Adold Hitler but then I believe you should be able to read between the lines. Sit your woman down and let her know how making jokes about your height makes you feel.
By the way, the average height for Nigerian men is 5ft"6 so you're definitely not the shortest man around lol.

We have dialogued about things like this before, but she feels saying such gets to me, but what i actually get mad about is her being petty, using words that she feels that can to someone deems her a petty human.

Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 7:58pm On May 21, 2022

ukaface:
How old you and wife be again sef?

This seriously dont have anything to do with age, have you forgotten that age doesn't relate with maturity?

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Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 7:46pm On May 21, 2022

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Tell her one more time and if she does it again then file for a divorce ASAP..
(Pun)

Lol, oga he never reach that level na!! just that, in all sincerity, I lost a lot of love for her putting me down like that, if a woman truly loves a man, she knows not to talk down or make a man feel less of himself. But anyway, thats life though.

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Family › Re: My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 7:43pm On May 21, 2022

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Don't let her words get at you aiit...sit her down and let her know you ain't comfortable with those words..

4 years ago, myself, her and her younger brother were standing outside talking, next thing she said, look at you to my brother, omo i felt embarrased, cos if he wasnt there, its a different thing, i just laughed it off, but deep inside i took serious offense. So there was a time we went for counseling, i pointed out that incident while talking about disregard and disrespect, the counselors told her how bad it is for her to make such statement, and it was part of what she promised never to do again even in other aspect of making someone feel less of themselves, but alas, today she still did it, nothing to discuss about, she knows what shes doing.

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Family › My Wife Don See Me Finish. by twinning200(op): 7:33pm On May 21, 2022

Justa quick one guys, am I suppose overthink being judged or being stereotyped because of my height? Was having an argument with my wife over disagreement on
doing what she wasnt suppose to do. After going back and forth, I said she should stop going to this particular place, because once she sets out, whatever she is
suppose to do at home becomes less of a priority. Next thing I heard was, people of your height have issues as such as this, which is controlling people, at 5
feet 6, i dont consider myself too short, though I know its not like the aevrage height for a Nigerian male. I felt a bit bad because i thinks its petty to use
my height as something to prove her point, infact she had called her younger brother who is just like 23 years to ask her a question regarding what we were arguing about
, I told her it wasnt necessary, next thing I heard, you dont want him involved because you feel intimated...lol probably because the boy is 5 feet 9, omo height
don make man see plenty see finish oo.

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