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Ishilove:
Have you asked her if she is ready to grow with you?

Let me give you my candid opinion based on all you have written and the impression I am getting.

Your girlfriend is naive and I have a feeling she is in her early 20s. I may be wrong about her age though, but that's the impression I'm getting.

She seems to be more enamored with the idea of marriage and not marriage itself.

She is not on the same page with you on the issue of finances. This is going to create problems in your marriage because what she is expecting is not what you will give her, vis a vis a lifestyle funded by your family's wealth.

Her greatest ambition in life is to be a wife. I'm not sure she has thought much about life after becoming an MRS. I doubt if she has really thought deep and hard about where she will be in ten years time.

Is she ready to support the family with part of the proceeds from her business? Is she ready to make sacrifices that come with marriage?

You will secretly resent her for pressuring you into marriage. This resentment will sometimes be voiced out when those inevitable arguments about money and budgetary spending crop up.

At the end of the day, we, your Nairaland in-laws will not be there to suffer or enjoy with you the attendant ramifications of whatever decision you choose to take so I can only say this:

You are on your own.

I guess you skipped the part where I said I am fully ready to give him money to add and leave the country. Please have I not tried on my own just so my child will have a father. Chill let me see if I can upload a picture of the message he sent to me this early morning, my nairaland in-law.

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Privatepart00:
Manipulation in progress
Heaven doesn’t grant such wishes
You planned this all along , all the epistle of doing buying and selling hold no water , still your way of achieving the plan. He borrows you the money ? Which you wished he was dashing out instead of borrowing lol. All this faculty of Arts female students trying to raise their shoulder so high.There’s nothing so unique you did for him , all trying to force your way into the family.
You don’t pressure a man to keep a pregnancy which he told you from day one , he is isn’t ready for , you are against abortion? But you ain’t against fornication? Choosing the one that suit your plan.
With the names mentioned so far , I am sure I know this people .
Victor please stand your ground . A lady doesn’t know her cycle ? Fallacy of the highest . If you allow her manipulation get hold of you, I am sorry for you. Why some Imo state girls always like this? They already know because of their list many people run away from there . I have someone like this just that I don’t even her the chance to come close.
Saying she doesn’t mind staying in the family house at Enugu is all a ploy . The young man doesn’t need the pressure from your manipulation, allowing selfish interest to cloud your eyes .

I think I know you lol read my write up if I was manipulating him I will insist on marriage as the case maybe my family has relieved him of any responsibility, I am not mister victor’s responsibility neither is my unborn child his child. He is a very free man, I have warned him not to send any money as per child support if he does I will send it back to his access bank account, I don’t need a penny from him. I am my family’s full responsibility me and my child. I don’t know who mister victor is, if he tries to come near me or this child in the future, it will be the day he enters prison for the first time in his life.

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[quote author=TheWolfen post=109805595][/quote]You are not a woman so you won’t understand I have an app that tracks my period and ovulation and he has full access to it, he has my phones password and he checks it whenever we are together I never stopped him from checking when he asks me on phone I will go to the app and even still screenshot it and send it to his WhatsApp, so please my dear how did I conceal my cycle from him.

Mister victor promised me marriage this was why I constantly sent everyone off because we had a plan, he said this year he would come and see my parents. How did I decieve him or he was the one that lead me on with lies about marrying me.

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